Family issues

[mowdan6]

Looking to deal with aging family members.  My favorite uncle is in his 70's, and a few days ago, suffered a severe fall that has left him hospitalized.  With the aging of my family, parents, etc., it's hard.  I want to be there, and....wondering how to be there when i am seen as an embarressement?  If I am not there, then other family members think I don't care.  At the same time, I get told to stay away.  How do I let these people know I love them, and not be a hardship to others? 

[spacial]

Just my own advice, based upon the little information you've given.

I stay away from anyone who doesn't want me. If they can't appreciate me then I see no reason to force the issue. |Horses to water and so on.

As for your uncle, can you phone the hospital and ask to speak to him?

[Sarah B]

Hi Mowdan

I would visit your uncle if it is possible and if that is what you want.  Regardless of what anyone else says.  Why?  Unless your uncle says specifically tells you 'to stay away from him', then nobody else has the right to tell you what to do.  This is not to say about any exceptions that may occur while he is in hospital.

One thing you can say to him before you say anything about problems, is to let him know how much you love and care for him and maybe depending upon yourself that you will help him in anyway that you possibly can.

Those that say "stay away".  Do not let them dictate what you should do with your life.  If they are around be polite always and just be yourself.

Warmest regards
Sarah B

[PidgeTPN]

I would say, call the hospital, ask to talk to him and ask HIM if you should go visit him, regardless of what anyone else says.