I am posting this more so to help anyone else that is struggling coming out to there children or any other for that matter. I consider myself timid and scared to confront issues head on, so if I can do this it is possible for (almost) anyone.
First:
I have recently came out to a freind (girl) it was somewhat ironic because I thought she may be the first. I had not seen her in a while and when I did she didn't even recognise me (nothing new), she and her co worker now see what I look like. A couple of days later her co worker ran into me while I was assumed female. I thought I better call and let her know the truth of whats up rather then appear like the guy that likes to fly in lingerie UGH!! Because of this revelation, I seemed to have more confidence in talking with my children, this is the main reason I am posting but thought I would tell what started it all first.
I have come out to my children!!!I would love to say this was a momentum experience and I had a big sigh of relief but today is just like any other day. Don't get me wrong I did do some crying (thats me) and I do feel I am breathing easier
but it seemed like such a non event to them. I do know the reason and it is something I planned and also in how I have raised them.
I have transitioned very slowly and have gradually changed appearance, sound and other things very slowly,because of this I am appearing and sounding to them the same today as I was a year ago. The changes that have occurred wern't over night and were not noticed by them or even to myself
I am blessed for this as my children act as if nothing is different (it isn't) the main thing I feared was that I had visible breasts, I told them I now have breasts and have to wear a bra, they said they already knew and noticed. I have worn some tops that don't hide the appearance of my breasts the best but for the most part I have worn hoodys to cover.
Taking things slow has many advantages and I would not change how I have and am proceeding, but in doing things this way changes that have occurred or that I have made are not as easy to notice. For example, I am assumed female most of the time even while talking, (I am amazed at this myself) my voice is definetly not overly female but not male either. My children say that I don't look or sound like a girl and have always laughed or wondered why others thought I was a girl. My one child last night after bieng "she'd" by a clerk told me in the car "Dad, you don't even sound like a woman", I said your right, I don't sound like some woman (talked in a higher pitch) but I do sound like many others. He kind of shrugged. I said ok, I coughed a couple of times and with my old voice (SHOCKED THE
OUT OF ME TOO) said well, do I sound like a male now, he just looked in amazement, I said that is how I use to sound a year or less ago. He never even noticed how my voice had changed, heck I hadn't even until I heard the old one come out of my mouth.
If I can do this anybody can! I worry about the smallest things in life so you can imagine how much anxiety I had over telling my children. I did this!!
I still have a ways to go and I will continue to stay on pace, my next biggest hurdle is, coming out to business associates and clients. UGH!
Pleas feel free to ask me any thing if you need support or advice. I would of had more anxiety and may have waited even longer if not for the help of many on here, I will not list who, you know who you are. Many of you don't even know you have helped me, I am a researcher more then a reply-er and therefore have not made too many posts thanking people for advice or support. Thank You! now.
Best Wishes
Shelly
