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Signs that you are PASSING. Yea!

Started by Jillieann Rose, August 05, 2011, 07:28:08 PM

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Jillieann Rose

QuoteCuz nobody is a worse critic to themselves as a transsexual and her looks!
Yes I am my worse critic Alainaluvsu.

Marie thanks and I'm so glad your continuing on the journey of transitioning.
It is life for us. :)

That's great Sunynight. So must have been fun telling the doctor that your son had 2 mothers.  ;)

QuoteHonestly I can't recall the last time I was sir'd in public and the only people who ever slip with the pronouns are people I have known for years
Stephe isn't that the way of it. People who have know you before still see you as you were. :(
Oh and let me know if you get pregnant. ;D
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Stephe

Quote from: Jillieann on August 10, 2011, 08:41:00 PM

Stephe isn't that the way of it. People who have know you before still see you as you were. :(


I've learned to just accept it. I gently remind them and they are like "whoops" but some knew me for years and I understand it's hard not to see -me- and they knew -me- as a guy for a long time.
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EliNewGuy

I think that getting "sir"'ed today when I went to pick up my very first suit was a good sign.  :D

Same with getting ground on by a frisky guy at the gay club last night!   >:-)

And I'm pre-T!  :D
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Bird

These last few days since I went full time have been amazing.

No one who meets me calls me a sir, it is always a lady. Very few people are reading me, and it is getting less and less common.

I work as a med student so I have those white overalls, mine are still male since im not FT at work. Well, even if my teachers call me a sir, and say he, the patients often refer to me as a she anyway, even after hearing my male name.

I'm like... totally freaking passing even if I try to be a male, heck, even if people refer to me as a male most folks just don't buy it :D It is like a whole new life is opening itself to me. Honestly, this is completely unexpected and I see it as a blessing which I don't take for granted, but I'm happy to have received it and I hope to make the best out of it.
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Sianna

I think i just had my first "My eyes are up here!" moment  ;D
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Jillieann Rose

Oh Sianna,
That has got to feel great.
Yea!
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Jillieann Rose

Great Maiara.
Occasionally I have noticed, when me wife calles me "he", at a resturant, the waistress doesn't seem to hear her
Or maybe thinks she is seniel. Anyway they still call me ma or are careful not to use a gender.

EliNewGuy,
That is great!
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Forever21Chic



   This young stock boy keeps flirting with me  ??? I've been a regular at this grocery store for awhile now and despite the fact that i always go dressed as male this stock boy who cant be any older then 19 keeps trying to start up conversations with me. It's kinda funny cuz im not trying to pass as female and he still hits on me.  :laugh:  I kinda feel bad cuz i see how nervous he is talking to me but at the same time i think it's kinda cute and i enjoy the attention.   :)


    Is this a sign to go full time?  :-\
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Sianna

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wallflower

When I first met my friends cousin and her boyfriend they were pre-warned that one of the girls they would meet was going through transition (Me ofc) and by the end of the evening they thought it was my girlfriend... made me very happy and it is one of the things I remember when I am feeling low.

Thanks for reminding me of it!  ;D
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lucy nolan

this brings me to something funny, well basicaly i went to do my driver theory test last week and the guy asked to see my passport that was fine, he then asked me to see another form of ID so i showed him my student card, he then asked to see a 3rd picture id so i showed him my gym membership and for 5 mins he kept saying are u sure this is you?
he didn't think that i was the same person in them photo's it shows howmuch iv'e changed and i was in boy mode at the time as i didn't have my deed poll at the time but it's just funny to think howmuch my apperence has changed since last year i'm more like a fem boy, only way you can tell i'm in a boys body is the beard shadow, it's kidna pushing towards i'm fem even when not trying to be, but nobody ever questions me, everyone has always asumed i'm a gurl when i am not in boy mode, and just dressed as myself, i have too much confidence atm, when you pass like i am atm you feel yourself being more confident in who you are and it's a great feeling just to be called she or her or miss, it still gives me the goosebums everytime and i love it :) xx
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Jillieann Rose

QuoteIs this a sign to go full time?
QuoteYes, it is. 
I so agree with Sianna, Forever21Chic.
If you can't pass as a male then you must be a female full time anyway.

Quoteby the end of the evening they thought it was my girlfriend...
Wallflower that great.

QuoteLucy Nolan,
when you pass like i am atm you feel yourself being more confident in who you are and it's a great feeling just to be called she or her or miss, it still gives me the goosebums everytime and i love it xx
Me to hon. I such a great felling to be accepted as your true gender/self. I love it.
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Rachael

I got one that always sticks with me because its soo funny. Anyway i had endo appt and its a womens health clinic at a unversity hospital. the nurse called me back to get vitals and basics after asking all the standard questions she then asks " and when was your last menstrual period?" I was smiling all day after that.
In my imagination I see a fair world,
Everyone lives in peace and in honesty there.
I dream of souls that are always free,
Like the clouds that fly,
Full of humanity in the depths of the soul.
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EliNewGuy

Quote from: Forever21Chic on August 11, 2011, 09:58:20 PM

   This young stock boy keeps flirting with me  ??? I've been a regular at this grocery store for awhile now and despite the fact that i always go dressed as male this stock boy who cant be any older then 19 keeps trying to start up conversations with me. It's kinda funny cuz im not trying to pass as female and he still hits on me.  :laugh:  I kinda feel bad cuz i see how nervous he is talking to me but at the same time i think it's kinda cute and i enjoy the attention.   :)


    Is this a sign to go full time?  :-\

Forever21, if you often look the way you do in your profile pic (and that isn't just the 1 of 10 photos that looks good to you, as in my case), then yes, go full-time - you're what I would consider a cute girl and I wouldn't even think twice about you being cisgendered!  :O
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Forever21Chic

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Quote from: EliNewGuy on August 13, 2011, 08:20:58 PM
Forever21, if you often look the way you do in your profile pic (and that isn't just the 1 of 10 photos that looks good to you, as in my case), then yes, go full-time - you're what I would consider a cute girl and I wouldn't even think twice about you being cisgendered!  :O

  Awe thx u Eli that was sweet. Yeah my roomate keeps telling me to go full time & said she would not leave my side while out in public till i feel comfy, she is so awesome haha.  ;D
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Jillieann Rose

This afternoon I went to the park for a walk.
While I was by the beach watching the big waves I began reminiscing about other summer days when my boys were still at home.
We would often come down to the beach and play and laugh in the big waves just like these.
Anyway.
A girl, I believe she was 12 or 13, started call to me "lady in pink, lady in pink", I had a pink sleeveless top on.
I had noticed a women with her only a few seconds before who had just went into the bathhouse.
She began talking to me about the waves and we talked and then I told her about the fun my sons and I had at the beach many years ago.
Then she ask if I was going swimming or if not why I was there.
I told her that I was just out for a walk in the park.
I wished her a good day and was off for the rest of my walk in the park feeling good about having met the girl who chatted with this old women.  :)
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Alainaluvsu

I'm never in girl mode, but many times I will test out my voice in drive thrus of fast food restauraunts. I have never been sir'd when using my voice, and most of the time I'm maam'd. When maam'd, the girls seem so embarassed when they see I'm "male" and the guys (sensing their feelings thru their eyes) are like "weirdo". I also test it by playing WoW and jumping in guild vent channels and chatting it up. Nobody has yet to suspect that I'm male! I've made a few girl friends and received quite a few guys hitting on me, or using that playful voice that guys use when talking to a girl by testing out my voice. Makes me feel really confident to know that at least my voice is passing! :)
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Forever21Chic

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on August 15, 2011, 07:46:32 PM
I'm never in girl mode, but many times I will test out my voice in drive thrus of fast food restauraunts. I have never been sir'd when using my voice, and most of the time I'm maam'd. When maam'd, the girls seem so embarassed when they see I'm "male" and the guys (sensing their feelings thru their eyes) are like "weirdo". I also test it by playing WoW and jumping in guild vent channels and chatting it up. Nobody has yet to suspect that I'm male! I've made a few girl friends and received quite a few guys hitting on me, or using that playful voice that guys use when talking to a girl by testing out my voice. Makes me feel really confident to know that at least my voice is passing! :)

     Haha yeah i also like to mess with guys at the Mcdonalds drive-thru. I have never played WoW but i do on occasion play online games and it's so funny how when guys hear a girl voice on vent they all try and talk at the same time.  :laugh: 
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Plain Jane

A few months ago a (female) friend and I were looking at some 20 year old videos of the band we both used to belong to (I'm still there, she isn't). She knew me back then but we weren't friends or anything. But she is aware of my transition. This was a video of a wedding and at one point all the band members were filing past the bride and groom shaking their hands, you know how it is. And I was going like "oh, there is Tom, here you remember Dick. That's Mary, Joane, Harry. And that's me, and behind me is Bob, you remember Bob?" (not real names of course). And she says: "wait, back up... That's YOU!? Wow your face has changed!".

So I guess my face has changed. I really don't see it. But it was a fun moment   :)

Back about 10 years ago, we had some kind of team building sports event through my employer at the time. By then I was post-op, but very insecure. So here I was in the women's locker room thinking all hell is going to break loose when they see me in there. I was sure I would be clocked as trans or something. Not even a peep or a glance. Everyone was just taking their showers and what not else. That was one of those "Gee, I guess I pass" moments.

EDIT: As for voice though, I hate telephones. Diabolical things. People are invariably asking my name twice to make sure they heard me correctly, because the female name they here doesn't match the voice.
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Jillieann Rose

As I was walking alone the beach I seen a man about my age sitting in a beach chair watching his grandson in the water.
As I approached them the man stood up took his baseball cap off and began talking to me.
I was weather talk but I loved it just the same.  :)
QuoteAs I approached them the man stood up took his baseball cap off and began talking to me.
I'd say passing.  Yea!
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