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Signs that you are PASSING. Yea!

Started by Jillieann Rose, August 05, 2011, 07:28:08 PM

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melissa42013

Today at "Meet the Teachers" night at my daughter's elementary school I played the "single dad" because my wife is a teacher at the same school and had to be in her room for her students. All of the teachers and faculty know my 6 year old and 21month old son like they are celebrities because of my wife but I kept getting strange looks and wasn't getting the normal courtesy "how have you been". I don't think most of them recognized me as it had been a year since I had seen some of them.

Later on I was sitting in my Wife's chair behind her desk with my son on my lap texting and my wife had to step out. A mother and grandmother came in with their kid and I heard them say, "Oh here is Mrs. Jameson's room".... I kept on texting until I heard her say, "Oh and there is Mrs. Jameson" walking over to me. I then looked up and she stopped and said, ah, ah, ah I don't know why I thought you were Mrs. Jameson.... I looked at her and said, nope, not yet........ lol

The day before I went to make a deposit at the bank drive though and the teller asked me if I needed anything else, "Ms. Jameson".

Both times I was wearing a male fishing shirt and had a couple of days beard shadow. I even caught myself thinking a picture of me was of my mom for a second. Perhaps it is the HRT, or just the crummy camera they put in the new iPads..... lol

-M


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xxUltraModLadyxx

when some random lady at a diner recognizes my mom from about 20 years ago, glances at me, and then turns away looking insulted. then says "I thought you had two sons!?" "Two boys, no girl right?"
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cindianna_jones

I think that you are passing when you feel comfortable with yourself and don't worry about passing anymore. For some reason, people notice people who are nervous. Just make sure you are dressed appropriately where you go. Dressing down is definitely the trend.
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Jillieann Rose

QuoteI think that you are passing when you feel comfortable with yourself and don't worry about passing anymore.
I so agree Cindy. But for me it is still enjoyable when people affirm that I am passing.

That's great FullMoon. You definitely passed.

QuoteI even caught myself thinking a picture of me was of my mom for a second.
Melissa, when I look in the mirror I often see or really notice the resemblance to my sister.
Oh yes. I would say your HRT is working.


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JungianZoe

Quote from: Jillieann on August 17, 2011, 04:47:28 PM
Melissa, when I look in the mirror I often see or really notice the resemblance to my sister.

I see that too... and given which sister it is, I wish I didn't. :icon_anger:  The most self-centered, egotistical, uncaring human being I've ever had the displeasure to meet.
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melissa42013

Quote from: Jillieann on August 17, 2011, 04:47:28 PM

Melissa, when I look in the mirror I often see or really notice the resemblance to my sister.
Oh yes. I would say your HRT is working.

Well, it gets better. My wife went on vacation with the kids for a month and then I flew in for a week. When I got on top of her in bed she got a really strange look. After .......things were over..... she finally fessed up that she felt weird because I looked like my mom.

Then when I flew up again when my parents were there my mom freaked out because my hair is down to my neck instead of the military cut I had when she saw me at Christmas. Plus I had lost about 30lbs but the big unknown to her was the HRT and transitioning. She must have said about 20 times that week, "He looks like a girl......he looks like I used to...." Now the funny part to me is that it NEVER occurred to me in a million years that I would end up looking like my mom. It probably should have but it really wasn't what I was planning on. Well I guess there will be some additional surgery to correct that.

SIDEBAR: (not to take this thread in a different direction) In the above story I had planned on having one last summer vacation with my parents and family before I told them. I didn't want to say anything before or during the trip and have that additional layer on top of things. Well my wife was "feeling her out" and they started talking about my two lesbian cousins and my gay cousin (who I have never heard her say anything about) and she told my wife that she thinks it is wrong and that she wishes nobody had ever told her. Oops, well things just got complicated mommy because I'm not gay but I'm gonna be lesbian and ..... hmm, ok, I won't tell you but your sister knows, heck everyone knows, but we'll just let you ignore things at the Christmas dinner. Oh yea, and my budding B-Cups, that's just a really really pointy case of Gyno..... lol
-M


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Alainaluvsu

Quote from: Cindi Jones on August 17, 2011, 01:10:40 AM
For some reason, people notice people who are nervous.

There is so much truth to this. My mother and I took a vacation together, and at Montecello I clocked a transsexual female. I don't believe anybody else noticed, but I could tell because she talked really low, trying to hide her voice. She seemed really nervous. She would've passed so well otherwise, but she talked so closely to our guide, with a near whisper, and her nervous body language just put a spotlight on her to me.

Of course, for me to clock her may be an unfair advantage on my part to do so, because of who I am! lol ... she passed to my mom! (I didn't say anything to my mother about it afterwards.)
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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MarinaM

I get called "your mom" (teacher speaking to kid) by my kid's preschool teacher after I was introduced to her as her father. Figure that one out.
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Glenn

Quote from: EmmaM on August 17, 2011, 11:56:11 PM
I get called "your mom" (teacher speaking to kid) by my kid's preschool teacher after I was introduced to her as her father. Figure that one out.

Felt good didn't it?
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MarinaM

Quote from: Marie Simone on August 18, 2011, 01:15:22 AM
Felt good didn't it?

For a split second. In reality it's kind of unnerving. I have to ask them why they're doing that. I don't need them being all weird if I have to give them a full name or present my ID in order to take my kid.

Am I saying passing is bad? Only at the outset of transition in very rare cases. I have to hurry up and change my ID photo.
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versuchsanordnung

Quote from: Zoë Natasha on August 17, 2011, 05:24:17 PM
I see that too... and given which sister it is, I wish I didn't. :icon_anger:  The most self-centered, egotistical, uncaring human being I've ever had the displeasure to meet.
OMG. Replace sister with mother and you have my story. Its weird to find yourself looking more and more like the person who did a great job at ruining your childhood...
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Jameve

Ugh, I'm jealous of all of you. 9 months later and I still don't pass.
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regan

Quote from: Jameve on August 18, 2011, 12:45:19 PM
Ugh, I'm jealous of all of you. 9 months later and I still don't pass.

It can take up to THREE YEARS to see the full effects of E
Our biograhies are our own and we need to accept our own diversity without being ashamed that we're somehow not trans enough.
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Jameve

Quote from: regan on August 18, 2011, 12:47:21 PM
It can take up to THREE YEARS to see the full effects of E

I know I'll try to be patient, it's just that everyone has magical stories about how they pass after a few months such as in this topic.
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Gravity Girl

Quote from: Zoë Natasha on August 17, 2011, 05:24:17 PM
I see that too... and given which sister it is, I wish I didn't. :icon_anger:  The most self-centered, egotistical, uncaring human being I've ever had the displeasure to meet.

You're not her though hun, so epic win for you.

I feel quite lucky in the fact I really look like my mum but nothing like the woman who gave birth to me (or anyone else from her familly)
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Ann Onymous

Quote from: Jameve on August 18, 2011, 12:49:44 PM
I know I'll try to be patient, it's just that everyone has magical stories about how they pass after a few months such as in this topic.
"passing" is as much about the complete package and presentation as it is specific looks...as the saying goes, attitude is everything.  Those who may be very marginal in looks can often accomplish a lot with the right attitude...
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LaPapito

Quote from: Maddie Secutura on August 05, 2011, 07:54:59 PM
When guys whistle at you when your out for a run.

"Ditto Maddie, when women take a dbl look, and are interested in what they see...can we say 'hall-lah-lu-yaH...!"  ;D

"I enjoy, most when females, hand me tha bill, and say 'Here you go sir...' some are a little hesitant, because I am very 'Metro' in appearance, and just say, 'Here you are...' but basically it is tha same for me, because I am still being accepted as what I should be accepted for...I love the 'Indecisiveness' of others...it's what keeps me going daily...!  ;D
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Sunnynight

When people don't immediately understand how you and your wife are BOTH the biological parents of your child.

"Wait, so there was a sperm donor?"
"Well kind of...um...he he...." Followed by a quick course in Trans 101.
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xxUltraModLadyxx

Quote from: EmmaM on August 17, 2011, 11:56:11 PM
I get called "your mom" (teacher speaking to kid) by my kid's preschool teacher after I was introduced to her as her father. Figure that one out.

in this case, that's probably the only time hearing "your mom" is a good thing  :laugh:
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Randi

I have been called miss or mam several times this week. My therapist asked me when I told her about it - "isn't that what you wanted?" My response-'YES but when I look in the mirror I don't always see her looking back.'

I must be doing something right-finally!

Randi
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