It's not scheduled to be a big event at this point.
That will probably be next summer. Really, there are going to be 17 people at this first ceremony, and nothing's been planned for the before and after. At this point, they're not even planning a honeymoon until sometime in the future. My ex just started a new job on August 1 and was barely able to circumvent her office's rule on no vacations in one's first six months of employment, because she and her fiance bought and paid for a nonrefundable cruise at the end of December (her new employer took pity and allowed the time off). They did this before she even started looking for a new job, so the new office's rule almost jeopardized their preexisting plans.
The other reason this wedding isn't big is because it's being arranged and carried out on a moment's notice due to uncertainty about the groom's grandmother's prognosis. Potential guests would only be given a few weeks' notice at this late date. They've already rushed to arrange a location, a rabbi, family blessings, a ring (not two rings yet though), and my ex just got her dress yesterday. The latter also occurred at a moment's notice. Her fiance was looking at dresses online Sunday night, found one at Nordstrom's that they both liked, she went to the mall yesterday, found they had one in the store, it just happened to be her size, she tried it on, and fell in love with it. Then she called me to ask if I'd rush out to the mall to give my opinion on the dress.
She originally said that she wanted me to be there to pick out her dress because I was the only person whose fashion judgment she really trusted.
Take a guess at who did all of her clothes shopping when we were married...
The rest of the details? We now know that her dress is off-white and she wants pink shoes. She said she wants white roses because that's her favorite flower, but I suggested bouquets that are about 75% pink and 25% white to correspond with her colors (though in opposing quantities). What color I'm going to wear? Her and I will have to work that out.
But since they're having a traditional Jewish wedding--something I've never been to before--she has to wear something over her shoulders to cover the fact that her dress is strapless. We really have to work on colors! It'll be much easier when she tries the altered dress on this Sunday.
Corset? I don't have one... will just have to see if I can find a dress that flatters my figure because I know those exist! And for hair, neither of us have decided what to do. My ex is really into 1940's chic, and she has this dream of her hair being done up in tight little rolls on the sides of her head, wearing one of those veils that only comes down to the nose and has a hat. And, of course, red lipstick! I went totally gaga for the idea, thinking that her fiance could simply slick his hair back and be all dapper. But he doesn't like this idea at all.
So we're back to the drawing board!
All this planning is kind of fun!
