thinking more about my genitals.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

so, i was thinking more about my genitals. for the most part, i'm indifferent to what i have between my legs, even though it's male genitals. i do sit down to urinate. i've been doing that for years now. i think i have some form of dysphoria about my genitals, but it doesn't affect my daily living by any means. is anyone else the same way?

[Amaranth]

My situation is similar for the most part.  I have a set of homemade gaffs, so the only time my "eyesore" is anything but virtually nonexistent is for various functions, where it's most often ignored.  I see how it can be a huge source of dysphoria for others, but I'm honestly more affected by more conspicuous things like my voice and facial hair.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

My situation is similar for the most part.  I have a set of homemade gaffs, so the only time my "eyesore" is anything but virtually nonexistent is for various functions, where it's most often ignored.  I see how it can be a huge source of dysphoria for others, but I'm honestly more affected by more conspicuous things like my voice and facial hair.

unlike most of society, i don't believe in a penis being one's "manhood." i just think of it as genitals. then there's women who believe their breasts are a symbol of their "womanhood," which i don't believe either.

[~RoadToTrista~]

Yeah, I'm more concerned about my shoulder-to-hip ratio.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Yeah, I'm more concerned about my shoulder-to-hip ratio.

that should balance out with enough time on hrt.

[Amaranth]

Yeah, I'm more concerned about my shoulder-to-hip ratio.

Same here...I've been thinking about getting a waist cincher and/or hip pads to make my body more passable until I can start HRT.

[Stephe]

I feel the same way pretty much. I tuck (nothing "serious" like duct tape..) it away and don't think about it. Actually don't think about it much anyway, it's just sorta in the way. After being on HRT for a bit there isn't a lot left to hide and never really was anyway. Even like in the shower I've never been -omg I don't wanna touch it- but I can understand some people are. For me my face, voice and developing my style are much more important. Honestly right now the only thing that would prompt me to get GRS would be for legal status. I hope this stuff changes so I don't end up having to get surgery just to deal with that. Like I said, I understand some people REALLY hate that part of themselves and I feel for them. I'm glad I don't have that problem, I just have other parts of myself I hated that I had to fix.

[kelly_aus]

I'm fairly ambivalent about my genitals.. I get up, shower, get dressed and tuck them away in the process.. I deal with them as needed.. But I do want them gone..

[azSam]

I dislike my genitals. Rather, I have copious amounts of hate for my genitalia. However, I have come to terms with them, knowing that while they're there, it is only temporary and they will soon be corrected to appear as the proper genitalia. It's that fact that keeps sane.

[Samantha Stone]

I would rather not have my male parts if I would have a choice.  Many , many years ago I used to imagine that I would be like a girl.  Today I just try to deal with it.

Samantha

[mechakitty]

I'm semi-indifferent to them.

They only bother me when I am in a situation where they have to be visible to me, like during intimacy, or the shower. Out of sight, out of mind, really. HRT seems to be making my genitals smaller and less of an issue over time, so that's a help.

I have confidence that I'll have SRS one day. I'm nowhere near financially ready, but I'm optimistic.

Hopefully this optimism continues. 

[Princess Rachel]

the nightmare will end one day with srs, its something to look forward to, but the day-to-day endurance of it wears me down, just being wrongly configured for the most basic functions of life is a grind and one I can't wait to be done with.

[A_Dresden_Doll]

I feel like the odd-man-out, I don't hate my junk at all. My genitals work, and brink pleasure to both me and my partner.

Would I get GRS? Yes, but not with things the way they are, now. I'd much rather wait until Buccal cells can be grafted and performed on a regular basis. Or until a rat can grow a vajayjay on its back like an ear. In fact, I'd pay good money just to see that, alone....

Sorry to be a freak. *shrug

[Padma]

I'm not at odds with mine either, they just seem irrelevant, or like a placeholder . At some point soon, I'll get them turned inside out, and then I can start growing potatoes . But for now, me and my girlfriend enjoy what's there (and my imagination fills in the "gap").

[Padma]

Sure, I'm missing what I'm, er, missing... but I'm very firmly headed in the direction of sorting that out, so I'm enjoying the journey meanwhile.

[Mahsa Tezani]

I have no issues with my genitals. I'm a chick with a penis... But recently I've had men telll me, "I'd bonk you if you had a vagina" or "if you had srs, I'd marry you in a second". Of course, these men love vagina but don't want children.

But my gender identity was *never* about the genitals. To me, it is assuming another form of style...yes, I relate more to females and consider myself one. But getting srs won't fix the problem.

I hate the fact that I can't have children by natural means. The fact that I can never hold a child of my creation and look into her as a part of me. After carrying her for 9 months. I certainly miss that part of me, that has always been present...I've always been maternal.

So that being said, I have no problem with my boy parts. I've opted for no srs...But I wish I could produce a child...someway...somehow.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Everyone always talks about what they've got at the moment. Isn't anyone bothered about what they haven't got, about what they are missing? I don't really care what's there that much. If I had nothing there it would be just as bad. What bothers me is not the skin tag, but the lack of proper female parts.

i just can't understand you there. i'm not one into material possessions. i don't want something just for the fact of owning it. i want something if it will do something for me. what i have between my legs is always covered with clothing unless i'm urinating/showering, which no one sees except myself. i don't notice my male genitalia otherwise, and i don't think much of it in the situations i do notice it. i would like to be able to have sex with a male with female genitals, and i would like to feel like i've put the cherry on top of the sundae, and completed my journey. other than that, i'm able to live in my social gender, and feel more female from the hormones. the vulva is a just a cherry on top of the sundae to me, no pun intended.

[Cen]

I kind of feel the same way.  While I want the correct equipment, for now I can usually put my genitals out of mind.  What is or isn't there is rarely on my mind when not in use.  My overall physique, my skin, face, facial hair, and skeletal structure all bother me a lot more on a regular basis.

[Stephe]

i just can't understand you there. i'm not one into material possessions.

Unless you have this hatred for your birth genitals, you can't understand how they feel. I had a lesser hatred of my nose, which is why FFS was at the top of my list of things to fix. Every time I saw a picture of myself or looked in a mirror I cringed. I can see how if someone felt this way about their genitals, they would HAVE to do something about it. Clearly some of us don't feel this way so don't have this same strong desire to do something about it.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Unless you have this hatred for your birth genitals, you can't understand how they feel. I had a lesser hatred of my nose, which is why FFS was at the top of my list of things to fix. Every time I saw a picture of myself or looked in a mirror I cringed. I can see how if someone felt this way about their genitals, they would HAVE to do something about it. Clearly some of us don't feel this way so don't have this same strong desire to do something about it.

the way Sarah7 phrased it didn't come off to me like that. she said "Isn't anyone bothered about what they haven't got, what they are missing?" that would imply desiring something as a material possession which sounds like the wrong reasons to me.