Moral Advice Please....

[MaxAloysius]

Well you know what solan? You did offend.

What part of my not wanting this to continue and trying to back out of this situation are you somehow interpreting as my being a bad person? Didn't I just spend the entire thread explaining how I didn't want to be in this situation? Because I'm pretty sure I made it obvious that I don't intend to enter into any kind of relationship that could be viewed by his partner as cheating, or into becoming the person who gets used to cheat on someone else. Or maybe you've been reading something else?

I'm wondering why I even bothered starting this thread now. The question was: how the hell do I back out of this tactfully? But since everyone keeps either telling me to dive right in and be a relationship destroyer or to get my 'come-cheat-with-me' arse out of his face, I think I won't bother in the future.

(A big sorry and thanks to those who did actually offer good advice.)

[GnomeKid]

I'd have probably told him to back the f-ck off a long while ago. 

Then again I'm not into men, so even as a joke I probably would have been like..... yea.... why?  ew.

[MaxAloysius]

Yeah, I'll admit I probably let it go too far, but in the past with any good male friends I've had, sex has always been an open and easy topic of conversation, and something I'm not shy about. There have been quite a few instances where a conversation has left a friend aroused, and I've always held the opinion that it's not healthy to let those things slide, but I guess the flirtation that accompanied this time made it a lot worse.

After speaking with him today he seems to have backed off quite a bit, and I think he's probably regretting what he did. I'm sure things will level out now, and hopefully I can stop it from happening again in the future.

[Constance]

Is he really cheating on his GF, or do they have an open relationship?

I ask because if he's willing to be unfaithful to her what's to stop him from doing the same to you? If his GF doesn't know about you, this implies dishonesty on his part towards her. What might he be hiding from you?