Straight guys have high fixation on the pussy, even if they may fall for some attractive pre-op, during the relationship they are likely to encourage their pre-op partner for srs, so even if one show self-acceptance of the penis, it is not sign of respect for the guy's feeling and expectation, such self-acceptance is a turn-off for them. If a MTF considered herself female, she should pretend as well as act all the way from srs to refraining from revealing true identity directly.
I have known MTF who don't pass physically, and is contented for never being able to find a straight male as partner, is prepared to live alone, but nontheless considered srs due to the wish to have a pussy. I can see that you can pass fairy well, it is such a waste not willing to have additional surgery to attained the needed look physically.