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Started by xXRebeccaXx, November 02, 2011, 06:54:57 PM

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beyondlabels

I would definitelly do it. I am attracted to all kind of people, men, women and androgynous. I am very sacared of not finding a partner if I transition, though. I don't know if most people is like me outside the trans world.
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N.Chaos

Most likely not. I'm just not into girls at all.

I'd probably date another ftm, if I got along with them. I don't know if I'd be able to have sex with them, though (and I feel like a total ->-bleeped-<- for it). Any kind of female-bodied nudity throws me into an anxiety attack, now. I kind of hate myself for that.
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Prince Larien

I'm gay, would date an FTM!
(Hell I'd marry Adrian Dalton! :D)
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Prince Larien

Actually, just reading N.Chaos's comment. I think could become an issue :(
But then again it kinda has been in my relationships with gay men. From my side more than theirs. My body will always give me a low sex-drive I think, despite T and its hard for a bio-guy to accept that.

I suppose with an FTM there would be more understanding when it came to sexual relationships.
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BlonT

Well having a date is no invitation for sex ! So yes i would
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Nemo

I date all types of human beings, so long as they're nice enough, we're on the same wavelength, etc. - so yes, I'd date a trans person.

In fact I seem to gravitate towards trans folk in particular, maybe 'cause I feel there's more of a chance since we'd understand each other, we have similar issues, etc... I'll deal with the sex issue if or when it happens :P


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Preston

I would most definitely date an MTF. I know one that is absolutely stunning and I cherish the time I've been able to spend with her. But, I would also date an FTM. The only person I would have a problem dating is a cis man because of dysphoric reasons.
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King Malachite

Quote from: Preston on February 23, 2012, 01:20:48 AM
The only person I would have a problem dating is a cis man because of dysphoric reasons.

I'm so glad I'm not alone in that boat.
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slytherin

FTM I don't think I would but I'm not ruling it out at all, just feel it would be twice the drama

I'm bi so I am attracted to men and I find FTM's attractive but I think because I have so many insecurities and so much I dislike about myself I'd find it hard with an FTM as they'd share a lot of the things which I dislike because I dislike about myself, if that makes sence, no offence intended there, it's just me being weird and insecure haha. I wouldn't rule it out though, depends on the person not what gender they identify as.

Not sure about MTF because I prefer men so it's difficult for me to feel attracted to people who identify as female, but again not ruling it out :)
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schism

i'm attracted to people on an emotional and mental level rather than physical, so it really doesn't matter to me what gender or sex they are.  if we have a connection, that's all that really matters.  the only thing i'd be concerned about is exacerbating either persons' dysphoria, particularly in a sexual context, but i think that in a relationship with an MTF there would be a level of complete understanding that would be difficult or impossible to achieve with a cis gendered person.

plus there are some really hot chicks here....
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ChesireBat

I would never date another trans individual.  Definitely not MTF cause I'm gay and I make sure to steer clear of other FTMs because of the horror stories I've heard.  Trans pairs (especially FTMs) tend to compare each other's progress, surgeries, and "passability" from what I've seen - and I could completely see myself do that.  It would just be unhealthy I think for me.
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JenJen2011

Horror stories? lol Please share.

Flipping this around, I would date an FTM if we have chemistry. I don't see a problem with that.
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Leek

Quote from: ChesireBat on February 23, 2012, 09:41:09 AM
I would never date another trans individual.  Definitely not MTF cause I'm gay and I make sure to steer clear of other FTMs because of the horror stories I've heard.  Trans pairs (especially FTMs) tend to compare each other's progress, surgeries, and "passability" from what I've seen - and I could completely see myself do that.  It would just be unhealthy I think for me.
My first instinct would have been to disagree with you, but I know what you mean because I have known a number of FTM/FTM pairs and, yes, this can be a problem, but usually more when it's early in transition, I think. But, yeah for some reason this seems particularly common among FTM couples.

Now, as far as the original question goes:
Yes, I would and I have dated MTF's.

As far as FTM's go, I don't know. I'm less attracted to men generally. And it just seems kind of like opening pandora's box of disphoria, depending on what stage of transition.
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ChesireBat

Quote from: JenJen2011 on February 23, 2012, 09:52:39 AM
Horror stories? lol Please share.


For one couple I knew, the comparing went too far and the less-passable or not-as-far-along on T individual STOLE their partner's hormones without telling them so they could "catch up".  The other individual couldn't find their hormones (and didn't yet find out that the other one threw them away) and tried to get more.  Long story short, the doctor wouldn't prescribe another batch until the old prescription ran out and the individual got rather ill because they were suddenly out of T and they had been on it for years.  When the truth came out, the relationship ended.

A couple other stories include self-mutilation attempts (or self-surgeries) within couples where one is post-op and the other is pre-op, especially when in comes to top surgery.

I've also heard multiple stories of cheating and unfaithfulness because one of the partners decides that a strappy is simply not "man enough" than the "real" thing. 

Granted, the last one is not so much horror as much as it is foolishness.  But I think that would be another reason I could never date another FTM - although I do not agree that what is in between your legs defines what you are, I just simply could not have a sexual relationship with a person with biologically female genitalia.  Perhaps an asexual relationship if comparing wasn't an issue.  Overall, I think it would just be simpler to go with a biologically male partner.
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poptart

Why's someone bumping all these posts from November? o________O

Yes; I'd date a woman.
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King Malachite

Quote from: poptart on February 23, 2012, 04:03:13 PM
Why's someone bumping all these posts from November? o________O

Yes; I'd date a woman.


Why not?
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poptart

Quote from: Malachite on February 23, 2012, 04:05:45 PM

Why not?

Just wonderin. At first I was annoyed but, eh, I guess it makes the place more interesting since its been slow lately.
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King Malachite

Quote from: poptart on February 23, 2012, 04:23:00 PM
Just wonderin. At first I was annoyed but, eh, I guess it makes the place more interesting since its been slow lately.

My thoughts exactly.   :D  I felt awkward that I couldn't contribute much to some of the other posts recently so I figured I'd go back and find some I could answer better.  I didn't mean to annoy you.  Sorry that I did at first.
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Felix

I like when old posts get bumped. Having a conversation that spans months makes me feel like a wizard. ;D

I'd date a transwoman. I like people.
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