I'm a minor and FTM. I'm currently seeing a gender therapist, who has deemed it necessary for me to go on hormones due to my really ->-bleeped-<-ty amounts of dysphoria. My father approves of my going on T as long as I do research about it (which I agree with--it's absolutely important to know what any sort of medication or treatment is going to do to your body before you agree to it), but my mother is much less understanding. She's been in denial for months and isn't close to surfacing anytime soon. I wouldn't ordinarily be so impatient, but my body is killing me, and I need to do something to make it stop.
My parents are divorced, and technically have 50/50 custody of me. However, I've lived with my father for the past seven months. I've read that you only need one parent's consent to start HRT, but my parents have an agreement that both parents need to consent to a medical decision before it's made.
I have a letter from my gender therapist for me to start T, and I can go to see my pediatrician at any time and get a referral to an endo--of course I'll need to see where things go from there, and look for a trans*-friendly endo. Do I need to change the custody agreement to do this? How would I go about doing that? I live in southern California, by the way.
I've also read that if you start to naturally transition but then go to your doctor a few months into it and say that you've been transitioning without medical advice or being tested, and are worried about it, that they'll be reluctant to make you stop for fear of damaging your system, and will put you on T. Is this true?
Thank you so much!
