trans vs cis, connection.

[Natkat]

I just talked to my parents about meeting up with a german guy while going there,
he is trans and we chatted on the net.

my mom keep me with the "dont meet up strangers on internet" bla bla stuff as she is very phobic on this point,
I told her his trans and she said its not to trust people from the net cause he could be lying and so..

I somehow agree with her,
but I also said I where sure he where trans because the way we talked where diffrent than for normal bio guys or girls.

now I somehow feel strange about realising that in this random situation,
but yeah, its diffrent to talk to transgender people than to non trans folks,
for people who arnt trans you pretty much start out explaning things to them, if your open as trans, they will ask, or compare you to other trans, or have prejugdings unless they are wellknowed about the topic. If thery know about being trans, then they will start out pointing out there wellknownes in how they know friends/famely members who are trans.

for trans people its more like charing thought and experience, and comparing.

I dont know how to explain but just felt like sharring.
dose anybody ells fell the same?

[JohnAlex]

Yeah, I totally know what you mean.  I have this cis friend who surprisingly was very educated on ->-bleeped-<-.  He already had several trans friends before I met him (he just moved up here).  So it's really nice to have a friend who really understands me.  However, he still makes comments once in a while because he doesn't know, like he sometimes tries to give me advice about clothes or whatever, and he said, "I love this type of shirt/pants.  You should get some."  and the truth is I can't wear those because they would "show off" my female figure too much.  but he didn't know that.
So things like that.  Even if he's very educated, he's still a cis person and just doesn't know it like us trans people do.

[Lee]

I guess you never really know about anyone on the internet, cis or trans.  He could be awesome or a creep.  I've met some really cool people from online, and a friend of mine just got engaged to a guy she met in a game.  Just be safe about it if you decide to meet up.

[malinkibear]

I'm not out as wanting to transition yet, apart from to other trans guys, so that's probably what makes the friendships feel different for me.
And yeah, I've met some cool people from the internet, they're not all bad. The older generation can just be funky about it.

[sneakersjay]

Talking via video on Skype can let you know if the person on the other end is real or fake.  My kid met another kid over the net and traveled to Europe to meet him and his family, and he came here.  So yeah, there are real people on the net and not everyone is out to get you.  You just need to be careful, not rush, and definitely see/talk to them in person via video.  If they can't or won't, then likely they are not who they say they are.


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[Felix]

Aside from anything else about the internet or human personalities or whatever, it is definitely different for me to talk to another trans person than it is to talk to a cis person. I'm not sure what to say about it, though.

[xander]

Doooooo eeeeeet!!

I flew to the other side of the world to meet an internet friend. Best decision EVER.