Quote from: Zenda on December 18, 2011, 02:37:16 PM
Kia Ora,
When I first transitioned one of the most important things for me was to have the acceptance of my children, [even if I didn't blend in in the eyes of society as my preferred gender] what happens/ed with society after receiving my children's acceptance was for the most part irrelevant, and only by good fortune do I blend in and also have the unconditional love of my children ...
So I'm guessing something similar would be on the minds of those who have yet to transition with children/partners...
Metta Zenda
This is so true!
My children have accepted me to the point that gave me much more confidance to progress my transition further.
Sometimes though I feel just because my children are so accepting doesn't mean everyone will.
An example somewhat unrelated but I feel its a good example of how accepting or just knowing can change someones perspective.
Before I came out to my children I was getting missed, ma'med, her, quite a bit with and without them. I finally had to tell them to watch the dad thing when we're together because of the pronouns(broke my heart at the time) My children kind of gave me that look "ok whatever" even though they heard the female pronouns themselves they just ignored it. During this time I would ask "I'm not looking to girly, am I? they would be "like ya sure whatever" to them meaning NO!
The minute I came out to them I would ask the same question at times because I didn't want to embarrass them as I wasn't out to everyone. They would give me the same answer but meaning the opposite in that I am not doing a good job looking male. I didn't change a thing! Even my voice didn't seem different to them until I talked in my previous voice, shocked the hell out of my youngest and ME! for that matter.
I think what opened my childrens eyes was that they were finally paying attention and now noticing that I am accepted and treated like a female most of the time. It's just they were blind to it before. I try to hope that people in general would come to be accepting after finding this out also.
Shelly