Pronoun problems.... the start of a bad night

[Mahsa Tezani]

Your parents may be right about this part. You usually need to be diagnosed with GID for legal and hormonal transition.

Not really. I got my hormones from a clinic in SF. But I lied about my GID.

Why should gatekeepers determine who transitions and who doesnt'?

[Joeyboo~ :3]

I sorta lied too.
My mom still thinks I want SRS.

Lolnope.

[Mahsa Tezani]

I sorta lied too.
My mom still thinks I want SRS.

Lolnope.

My Mom told me, "You better get a real job cuz you'd never be able to afford that sex change"

I told her, "Mom, I am using that sex change money to buy an expensive car or move in with an expensive man"

[tekla]

Hey, rarely are problems as easily solved as yours is.  And I'm kinda shocked that no one has brought it up before, but...This stands out as being the most outrageous thing going on in the entire post.  Ready?  OK.

Now I know I'm 23 and I don't have a job, which is very strange. I am VERY interested in looking for a job, especially at my local cosmetics store.

It's not all that strange, lots of people are irresponsible bums, riding a gravy train that they have no part in maintaining yet making demands like they were the conductor, engineer, and owner all at the same time.  You say I'm living in hell because your parents don't use the pronouns you like, and because I was harshly judged by dad. 

Here, I'll help - I'll judge your dad harshly.  OK.  Good.  Your dad is like one of the most horrible parents I've run across in a while.  Any decent parent would have instilled a work ethic you, and made damn sure - DAMN SURE - that you worked (long before you turned 18) so that when you became an 'adult' (I put that in quotes, because you're not really) you could support yourself and make something out of your life.  But noooooooooooo.   You're 23, and you're 'very interested' in looking for a job?  Hell, you should be well past your first bunch of jobs, and be working on doing something called 'a career' by this point in your life.  And all you are is 'interested in looking'? 

At least be happy in two things.  One, I'm not your dad because I'd make sure you were more than 'interested in looking' for a job, I'd make sure you were actively out doing something - anything - as work, because without that paycheck you would not be eating, sleeping in any places other than a doorway.  Nor would you be wearing ribbons in your hair, or new shoes, because you are not working and can't afford to buy them.  Being out on the street, and not living at home like some 10 year old is a huge motivator.  And understand, I'm not kicking you out of the house because you are trans.  I'm kicking you out because you're a freeloader, and a demanding one at that.

Take what small comfort you can in the fact that no matter how much of a living hell you think you are in, I'm sure the one your parents are in is much, much worse.

GET A JOB, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN LIFE  ----- THE FIRST STEP TO LIVING AS A FREE PERSON IS TO STOP LIVING AS A FREELOADER.

[Nurse With Wound]

Hmm people without GID transitioning, that's an alien concept to me. For those of you whom never experienced GID and transitioned what was the force behind it? I'm one of those "always felt female from earliest memories, very uncomfortable in male body" people so I'm interested in why someone who never had that would transition.

Sorry to go off topic.

[Joeyboo~ :3]

I could quote many things from this user that could point that Bebe isn't a real person.

Just someone making fun of the trans community.
I think the person we're seeing in pictures could be them, or someones stolen pictures/videos.

This person doesn't have a clue and acts as if they barely know how to turn their computer on, yet they know what 420chan is?
Did they just happen to stumble upon that site randomly right when they uploaded the pictures here?

I didnt think people would be that easy to fool.

[Joeyboo~ :3]

Hmm people without GID transitioning, that's an alien concept to me. For those of you whom never experienced GID and transitioned what was the force behind it? I'm one of those "always felt female from earliest memories, very uncomfortable in male body" people so I'm interested in why someone who never had that would transition.

Sorry to go off topic.

I do have GID, it's intense.
Its not from my genitals though.

[Nurse With Wound]

This person doesn't have a clue and acts as if they barely know how to turn their computer on, yet they know what 420chan is?

Maybe they're in their illicit substances. 

Ah yeah, well that still makes perfect sense, my genital dysphoria wasn't much until HRT then it skyrocketed. I'm talking no GID at all.

[Mariposa]

Hey, rarely are problems as easily solved as yours is.  And I'm kinda shocked that no one has brought it up before, but...This stands out as being the most outrageous thing going on in the entire post.  Ready?  OK.

Now I know I'm 23 and I don't have a job, which is very strange. I am VERY interested in looking for a job, especially at my local cosmetics store.

It's not all that strange, lots of people are irresponsible bums, riding a gravy train that they have no part in maintaining yet making demands like they were the conductor, engineer, and owner all at the same time.  You say I'm living in hell because your parents don't use the pronouns you like, and because I was harshly judged by dad. 

Here, I'll help - I'll judge your dad harshly.  OK.  Good.  Your dad is like one of the most horrible parents I've run across in a while.  Any decent parent would have instilled a work ethic you, and made damn sure - DAMN SURE - that you worked (long before you turned 18) so that when you became an 'adult' (I put that in quotes, because you're not really) you could support yourself and make something out of your life.  But noooooooooooo.   You're 23, and you're 'very interested' in looking for a job?  Hell, you should be well past your first bunch of jobs, and be working on doing something called 'a career' by this point in your life.  And all you are is 'interested in looking'? 

At least be happy in two things.  One, I'm not your dad because I'd make sure you were more than 'interested in looking' for a job, I'd make sure you were actively out doing something - anything - as work, because without that paycheck you would not be eating, sleeping in any places other than a doorway.  Nor would you be wearing ribbons in your hair, or new shoes, because you are not working and can't afford to buy them.  Being out on the street, and not living at home like some 10 year old is a huge motivator.  And understand, I'm not kicking you out of the house because you are trans.  I'm kicking you out because you're a freeloader, and a demanding one at that.

Take what small comfort you can in the fact that no matter how much of a living hell you think you are in, I'm sure the one your parents are in is much, much worse.

GET A JOB, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN LIFE  ----- THE FIRST STEP TO LIVING AS A FREE PERSON IS TO STOP LIVING AS A FREELOADER.

All I will say to this is...DAMN! 

And I have to say that you are absolutely right in all of this. If there was such a thing as tough love, this would probably be it right here.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Hmm people without GID transitioning, that's an alien concept to me. For those of you whom never experienced GID and transitioned what was the force behind it? I'm one of those "always felt female from earliest memories, very uncomfortable in male body" people so I'm interested in why someone who never had that would transition.

Sorry to go off topic.

same with me, identifying more feminine and being uncomfortable with just about everything masculine was a pattern for about as long as i could remember. of course, i didn't even know i had gender issues until 13 when a therapist told me. i remember when she told me, i was tremoring. i felt like i had no feeling in my body. i really feel like genitalia is the least important part of me. it's kind of weird. i never liked them, but i never really hated them either. anyway, i remember mahsa said something about how she identifies as a cross between a drag queen and transgender and that she has some gay man in her, and that she feels the environment also had something to do with it.

i believe that our environment is important as far as seeing how gender works and your role you adapt to. i also believe it's part of your brain development, which gets put together during gestation. i don't believe in the concept of being "born transsexual." it's an evolving process to me. years ago, i spoke in context of GID, but now i speak in context of a transgender person. it isn't really totally concrete for everyone. there's shades of grey in many places that people will not even look at, especially in terms of gender.

i feel more like gender is a yin/yang type of concept rather than a binary, but the prejudice and bigotry could be done without. people claim "i was a victim of this oppression because blah blah blah, it wasn't right." what do some of them do about it? they transition, turn around and give others the same thing. the "i suffered, you have to suffer more" thinking.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Hmm people without GID transitioning, that's an alien concept to me. For those of you whom never experienced GID and transitioned what was the force behind it? I'm one of those "always felt female from earliest memories, very uncomfortable in male body" people so I'm interested in why someone who never had that would transition.

Sorry to go off topic.

I never felt femme, I just was. I just was a flaming gay.... But transition gave me a chance to live a normal. conformist life. But I love my genitals and merely want to alter my appearance more. But yeah, when bad stuff was said about my "passing' in the beginning...It hurt.

You gotta understand a lot of gay men are conditioned around females at an early age. My parents are women, my best friends are women, and I don't know...this just felt right.