I see no reason to disclose when dating until you think it is becoming serious. I do think this is a huge thing that a potential life partner needs to know. A fling? No. A booty cal? No. Casual dates? No. Heck, I didn't even tell my new dentist or eye doctor. They don't need to know. My new man? Told him on the 3rd date. Been dating 6 months. Love him!
And I agree that I am finally myself after all these years and pretty much forget "she" existed. And I absolutely love it when I go to my mechanic and he treats me like a regular guy!
Jay