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What makes a man more likely to accept you as trans?

Started by MsDazzler, December 27, 2011, 12:32:08 PM

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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 27, 2011, 04:03:54 PM
Aint that true! The prettier you are, the more "feminine" you are, and the stronger your female presentation comes off as, it will up your chances of being accepted by a straight guy.

THIS.

And they say I am crazy for telling girls here to dress right, take care of themselves, wear makeup, and dress for their figure. LMAO.
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Assoluta

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 27, 2011, 05:37:55 PM
Not really. You can have srs and still look clockable trans.

That's true but if the man has a womb (I.e. FTM) he's likely to be more understanding, unless I've completely misinterpreted Fionabell's comment.
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Assoluta on December 27, 2011, 05:43:42 PM
That's true but if the man has a womb (I.e. FTM) he's likely to be more understanding, unless I've completely misinterpreted Fionabell's comment.

Yeah...ftms are cute. But I don't see myself being in a relationship with one.

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fionabell

Quote from: Assoluta on December 27, 2011, 05:43:42 PM
That's true but if the man has a womb (I.e. FTM) he's likely to be more understanding, unless I've completely misinterpreted Fionabell's comment.

Thought your statement makes sense, what I meant was, one of the things a man wants out of a woman is a potential mother. We can't do that.
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Assoluta

Quote from: fionabell on December 27, 2011, 05:49:44 PM
Thought your statement makes sense, what I meant was, one of the things a man wants out of a woman is a potential mother. We can't do that.

Oh I see, I was confused because having a womb wouldn't "make a man more likely to accept you as trans" - it would most likely make him confused as to whether you were actually trans unless we lived in an ideal world where wombs could be created and implanted.

Still, I'm a believer that if a man truly loves somebody, he won't reject a woman even if she can't bear children and he wants to have his own children, he'll want to work it out with her. Of course, people may have differing views on that.
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Kelly J. P.

 The kind of man I want to end up with would hopefully be non-judgmental, secure, and open-minded. I doubt I would want to settle for less than that... as those are qualities that I have pride in possessing myself.

A man like that wouldn't have a problem with being with a trans woman. If the love is there, it would work...
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Naturally Blonde

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 27, 2011, 12:32:08 PM

What qualities do you think a hetero man need to possess to make him more likely to accept you for being trans?

Well, if you look like a natal female you have a head start!
Living in the real world, not a fantasy
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fionabell

I'm sorry . I've been answering the title instead of the OP.

new answer:

The man can accept what he's told to accept. :laugh:
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ToriJo

As a man, I'll echo what others have said:

Someone who has friends who let him live his own life.  Someone trying to impress his friends with his manliness is probably going to do what he thinks his friends want, which isn't good if he has those types of friends.

Someone who is confident in who he is and is willing to stand up for what is right, even when it is unpopular.

Someone who knows who he is and isn't trying to prove he's straight or not gay.  A closeted gay who is trying to deceive himself about his sexuality would be a very bad choice (for any woman).

As for a womb, plenty of guys *don't* want kids and would consider it a plus if their wife/girlfriend couldn't get pregnant.

I'll also disagree that clothes and feminine looks are important for the gal to attract a decent guy.  Plenty of non-models find someone.  If the guy is confident in himself and willing to do what he wants (instead of trying to be some sort of stereotype of a man), she won't have to be stereotypically feminine anymore than he'll have to be stereotypically masculine.

For me, finding someone who I enjoy spending time with was important.  As great as sex is, there are other parts of the day too.  :)  I wasn't looking for a trophy (even if I got one!), I was looking for someone to spend life with.
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Anatta

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 27, 2011, 04:03:54 PM
Aint that true! The prettier you are, the more "feminine" you are, and the stronger your female presentation comes off as, it will up your chances of being accepted by a straight guy.

Kia Ora Ms Daz,

::)  What do you mean by strong female presentation Ms Daz ? Do you mean make-up, jewellery, a pretty dress ? Or ultra feminine mannerisms/behaviour ?    If a guy 'only' accepted you because of how you were dressed and how sexy the make up and jewellery looked on you, how shallow would this make him ?

::) But then again you might just be talking about a 'one night stand' and not a long term relationship...

::) As the saying goes "Beauty is in the eye of the behold !" [And the drunker they are the more beautiful one becomes]

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Jaime

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 27, 2011, 04:00:03 PM
Applies only to ugly, fat, and balding guys, eh?
Not necessarily, there are more reasons beyond looks that could make someone desperate.
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Jaime on December 28, 2011, 12:20:21 AM
Not necessarily, there are more reasons beyond looks that could make someone desperate.

You seem experienced with "desperate" men...perhaps you should enlighten us?
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AbraCadabra

What about going back to one's pre-transition, pre-everything, still busy getting on with that male-thing situation, trying to make out with females?

What would you have looked for in a female then (trans or otherwise)?

I'm afraid I feel too much an arsehole/chauvinist to even mention it... gosh!

So does that make us worse then the rest of manhood? Just because we were actually transsexual and overcompensating? Really?
I sure did overcompensate, as qualified by my shrink and some other folks.

Just a thought,
Axélle
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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JenJen2011

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 28, 2011, 12:30:33 AM
You seem experienced with "desperate" men...perhaps you should enlighten us?

This one made me LOL.
"You have one life to live so live it right"
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JenJen2011

My man is with me because he instantly felt attracted to me. He says I look all woman to him. He also doesn't care what other people think including friends and co-workers.

So, whoever said the more you look like a woman is right. And whoever said the man needs to have self-confidence is right. :)
"You have one life to live so live it right"
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: JenJen2011 on December 28, 2011, 12:14:08 PM

So, whoever said the more you look like a woman is right. And whoever said the man needs to have self-confidence is right. :)

There was this girl here a few months ago saying that men didn't want to be seen in public with her. If a man doesn't want to be seen in public with you...you either don't pass or he feels embarrassed in his sexuality. Basically, you have to look like a "regular" girl... Whatever that means.

Every man I've ever dated wanted to be seen with me, introduced me to their friends/families, etc....except for the married man who is so afraid of being seen as a gay we have to hide it around it his friends.

The man needs to be secure in himself, because if people know...then it's gonna be harder on him. He has to have a thick skin because his bros might give him guff for being with a TS.
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Anatta

Kia Ora,

"What makes a man more likely to accept you as trans?"

::) Half a bottle of Jack Daniels !  ;) :D

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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madirocks

I think just a fairly open-minded man in general. Although, it seems like most men don't look into things normally anyways. They are fairly straight forward with their emotions. Some think you're "super gay," while others just seem to not care at all... so long as their sexual preference is not in jeopardy. I have a friend that was completely understanding. However more recently, a random person had asked if I was his wife... he's completely ignored me since.

I'm sure "passing" is also quite important, though I am also certain they must have confidence as well. Also, your personality would play a big factor in it. I don't know if any one saw that episode of ANTM where the ts woman returned to the show. She started dating her now husband before she was finished with transition. Her personality and confidence is what he was attracted to.
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fionabell

I think a lot of men love transgirls. I suppose they need to be socially brave if you aren't completely passing. Which none of us are to absolutely everyone. There's always people who are tuned to it.
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