Why is my sexual orientation changing???

[Anatta]

Kia Ora MA,

As Ms Daz said, "You won't know for sure until you try !" You might find your 'fantasy' is not your reality...

Metta Zenda

[Bishounen]

I don't see what the big spectacle is all about - roll with the changes

you just need to get laid by a stud instead of agonizing over it here, IMHO

then you ll know

Question is, if this was not the best post ever in this thread.

[MyAlias]

Hear! Hear!  I never could quite get the hang of masculinity either.

However, now that I'm on the other side of the fence, I truly believe this is more appropriate.  At least from my point of view...


-Sandy(I like having a lot of buttons and knobs!)

I love this! this is great! I like having lots of buttons and knobs too! lol

[MyAlias]

Then just let it be for now, and you might experience a moment where you are at peace with whatever direction your orientation takes!

I Have to wait and see what HRT adds to this...

I can't just let it be, I have these urges inside! I am trying to be at peace!   I am not on HRT either, that's why its weird!

And it really messed with my mind. But it only happened 8 months or so into HRT for me.

Anyway, there's this guy at work that I suddenly found really hot!  I know I go all stupid around him like a school girl.  But it still kind of bothers me that something like that was not a subtle change.

I know this feeling, that's how I get! but its that "not a subtle change" thing that's getting to me!

I don't see what the big spectacle is all about - roll with the changes

you just need to get laid by a stud instead of agonizing over it here, IMHO

then you ll know

yes simple! but I am not that type of girl! I cant just sleep with anybody........... or maybe I just don't want to be that kind of girl!

Kia Ora MA,

As Ms Daz said, "You won't know for sure until you try !" You might find your 'fantasy' is not your reality...

Metta Zenda

that's what I am afraid of, what if my fantasy is not my reality? I don't want to feel the guilt, shame and dirtiness that comes after.

[MsDazzler]

yes simple! but I am not that type of girl! I cant just sleep with anybody........... or maybe I just don't want to be that kind of girl!

If you are still presenting as a male, just go to a gay bar and get drunk then go home with a man.

If you are presenting as a female, just go to a straight bar and get drunk then go home with a man.

that's what I am afraid of, what if my fantasy is not my reality? I don't want to feel the guilt, shame and dirtiness that comes after.

Oh come on, it is transparent that you are afraid of taking the leap and looking to us for encouragement, heh, not because you are worrying about the aftermath. lol

[stldrmgrl]

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I can't just let it be, I have these urges inside! I am trying to be at peace!   I am not on HRT either, that's why its weird!
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I know this feeling, that's how I get! but its that "not a subtle change" thing that's getting to me!
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yes simple! but I am not that type of girl! I cant just sleep with anybody........... or maybe I just don't want to be that kind of girl!
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that's what I am afraid of, what if my fantasy is not my reality? I don't want to feel the guilt, shame and dirtiness that comes after.

Calm thyself    Don't fret over this.  New emotions can be erratic and take time to pick apart and understand.  Urges may exist, but as you've said, acting upon those urges could be regretful.  You're too early on in this new discovery, I feel, to be acting on anything.  Take time to try and understand it and explore it [from the sidelines].  Most importantly, again, relax.  It's okay.

[Anatta]

that's what I am afraid of, what if my fantasy is not my reality? I don't want to feel the guilt, shame and dirtiness that comes after.

Kia Ora MA,

Happy Girl[The Scottish one] posted this video clip...It pin points your predicament and offers a solution...   



Metta Zenda

[MsDazzler]

Calm thyself    Don't fret over this.  New emotions can be erratic and take time to pick apart and understand.  Urges may exist, but as you've said, acting upon those urges could be regretful.  You're too early on in this new discovery, I feel, to be acting on anything.  Take time to try and understand it and explore it [from the sidelines].  Most importantly, again, relax.  It's okay.

Heh... life is too short to proceed with caution 

[SandraJane]

Heh... life is too short to proceed with caution 

And it can be shorter if you don't...

[MsDazzler]

And it can be shorter if you don't...

Nothing ventured, nothing gained 

[SandraJane]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained 

Famous last words...

[MacKenzie]

  I've noticed a change in my sexual orientation too. Before transitioning I was attracted to men and now i'm not attracted to either sex's!   

  Maybe because I have more important things to worry about, idk. 

[MsDazzler]

Famous last words...

Or they could be words of wisdom to impart to the next gen 

[Suziack]

Well, this sounds kinda scary - to take hormones (or not take hormones) and find that one can go from liking women, to liking men... I feel there is a certain amount of 'ick' factor involved, here. For those of you who are not bothered by it - fine!

[SandraJane]

Or they could be words of wisdom to impart to the next gen 

And here you were frettin' about being a Cougar!

[Anatta]

Kia Ora,

My apologies to Ms Dazzler [ regarding my posting of a video clip for others to 'listen' to if they so choose]... So I would like to make amends... In a nutshell what Sadhguru [the Indian guy in the clip]is saying is this "Most peoples existence is solely rooted in what comes next[a fantasy, an illusion], not what is right now[reality]!"

So the OP 'fears' regarding her shift in sexual orientation are based upon an illusion, on something that has not happened, and he calls this a form of insanity[ of which I tend to agree]...

Metta Zenda

[Mahsa Tezani]

Well, this sounds kinda scary - to take hormones (or not take hormones) and find that one can go from liking women, to liking men... I feel there is a certain amount of 'ick' factor involved, here. For those of you who are not bothered by it - fine!

What about transsexual lesbians who hook up with other transsexual women... I mean is liking men that much of a stretch?

[MsDazzler]

Kia Ora,

My apologies to Ms Dazzler [ regarding my posting of a video clip for others to 'listen' to if they so choose]... So I would like to make amends... In a nutshell what Sadhguru [the Indian guy in the clip]is saying is this "Most peoples existence is solely rooted in what comes next[a fantasy, an illusion], not what is right now[reality]!"

So the OP 'fears' regarding her shift in sexual orientation are based upon an illusion, on something that has not happened, and he calls this a form of insanity[ of which I tend to agree]...

Metta Zenda

Thanks for the apology I usually ignore youtube links if they have no captioning. Unfortunately Google's closed captioning based on voice recognition software still sucks, heh.

That is what I am saying - the OP comes here and post about her fear of change in sexual orientation, and what's the big deal with it ? Life goes on. Hell, gender transition is even huger than sexual orientation change, heh.

[Anatta]

Thanks for the apology I usually ignore youtube links if they have no captioning. Unfortunately Google's closed captioning based on voice recognition software still sucks, heh.

"That is what I am saying - the OP comes here and post about her fear of change in sexual orientation, and what's the big deal with it ? Life goes on. Hell, gender transition is even huger than sexual orientation change, heh !"

Kia Ora Ms Daz,

You're welcome!

In a round about kinda way I think you're on the same page as Sadhguru ...

Metta Zenda

[dejan160]

Does this mean that the sexual orientation is not inborn and it can change over life? As far as I understand it it is inborn and therefore cannot be modified.