So what do trans guys here think of these tips? I guess it's directed mainly at those who self identify as gay or bisexual but probably a lot of it is universal. I think most of it seems common sense. I've gotten mild crushes on trans guys from a distance, but never in person, and I guess it's not very likely in NH, but if I do find myself in that position, I wouldn't mind some good advice.
You know what's missing? How to react when someone you've been dating comes out to you as trans and you don't want to be offensive or a huge turn-off or whatever.
For instance, assuming you're okay with it but let's say
a) You didn't know he was trans.
or
b) You did know (or suspect) he was trans for some reason. It seems obvious that you should leave it to the trans person to broach this subject when he feels it's time.
or
c) You're open to the idea but it's very new and you don't know for sure how it will work out and you want to be tactfully honest.
Also what seems to be a glaring gap in this advice is when it comes to sex. Eventually the subject will likely need to be broached and for a lot of gay guys, this is going to be new territory. I don't mean particular details, but more about how to approach the subject and what's okay to talk about, etc.