Hi, I'm Cel

[CelestaT]

Hi, I'm Celesta. ^_^ I'm 19, and just came out to my family as a woman in October. I have absolutely no clue what I'm doing and am not finding a lot of help, so I'm here.

I don't know what else to say...since coming out and stumbling my way through all this, it's the only time in my life I haven't been trying to die.

[Cindy]

Hi Celesta,

dying won't solve anything and living is great.  You just need to get your head around a few problems and off you go. 19! plenty of time to enjoy life and have fun and happiness.

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Hi, and welcome to Susan's! We have people come to visit us from all over the world, expressing different points of view, and you are likely to find someone to help you along your way   

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Our mission is to be a support site for gender dysmorphic people of any situation, so feel at home and feel comfortable. You are now family.

I have no idea where you are so it is difficult to give advice. I'm in Australia BTW. What you need to do is find a gender therapist, they go under different names and qualifications in different countries etc. They will guide you towards hormonal therapy, and help you adjust to living as you. They will also give you the 'letters' to surgeons who can then do SRS. It isn't an easy road, but guess what? It just got easier because you are now with people who understand exactly what it is like. It is your journey and yours alone. There are no rules about how far you want to go, or how quickly you want to go. But don't be frightened or alone anymore. You are with family now. And we care for our family

Hugs

Cindy

[annette]

Hi Celesta

Welcome to the forums
There is no need to die, that's something you can always do.
Problem is, when you regret it, you can't go back.
So, stay with us, have fun and grow out to that beautifull woman you have always wanted to be.
I'm Annette from the Netherlands and I'm pleased to meet you.
Make yourself at home and enjoy.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Cel,

Another warm Aussie welcome to Susan's family. ...  WOW .... What more can anyone say?  The two women that have greeted you already, Cindy and Annette, have said it all.  I just count it an profound privilege to be able to come in here and sit amongst such prophetic women, and there is lots of them. Many have "walked the talk", even more are following.

Please come in, sit down, get yourself a cuppa and engage with this diverse family. The experience is beyond belief. Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. That's important to us. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[Devlyn]

Hi Cel, it's nice to meet you! We like making new friends here. Get busy posting and I'll see you around. Hugs, Devlyn

[Lyric]

Welcome to the clueless stumblers club, Cel.   

I believe there comes a time in all fully enlightened persons' life when they have to face the fact that they are unique and can't take a lifestyle off the shelf and wear it. Some of us just have to apply a little more creativity to the effort of finding happiness and fulfillment. Life is a wonderful gift, but it's not distributed equally. You take what what you've got and do your best with it.

Susan's is a good place to hang out. Looking forward to seeing you around.

Lyric ~

[Padma]

Welcome. Take all the time and space you need to figure out who you are - there's no Official Timetable, and the important thing is to do it in whatever way makes you feel safest. Stepping into the unknown is unsettling, but when it means stepping beyond a known that you know isn't you, it's worth it . Read, write, discuss, ask stuff - and make the most of life meanwhile.

[CelestaT]

Must...resist...urge...to say..."g'day mate"...or...offer...fosters... X[

My current shrink is working with a gender clinic for me, but he's not a lot of help... How do you break up with a therapist? XD

It's great to meet you all.

[Catherine Sarah]

"Good onya ... cobber.  Bloody glad you resisted." You can keep 'ya bloody' Fosters. Thats gone international now. No longer an Aussie icon. Just like Vegemite and Dick Smith.

In answer to your question, though, you might ask your therapist what direction or outcomes his/her therapy is attempting to achieve. As you feel these objectives aren't being met and you are not progressing in the direction you thought you would. Unless he/she can explain his outcomes satisfactorily, now, might be a good time to finish up. In his/her explanation should be an approximate timeline of achieving these counselling/therapy outcomes.

Just remember a therapist should be working with you, in attempting to assist you, in coming to a successful outcome of your desires. Providing your outcome is not unrealistic or another form of denial or non productive outcome. Just like a driving instructor. Their job is to teach you how to drive, not to drive for you.  If I give you a fish, I've fed you for a day. If I teach you how to fish, I've fed you for a lifetime.

This should be couched as a reasonable request. And by all commercial principals should provide a responsible reply. If your therapist takes it as a personal/professional affront, it is now time to stand up, thank them for their time and assistance and leave their office.

Hope this has assisted in some way. It's your long term outcomes and desire that I have consideration for. Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine   

[Morgan.]

I can't help but notice all the Aussie talk!! Welcome Celesta. I hope you everyone here on Susan's can help you through your journey.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Morgan,
You're most welcome to immigrate. We'd be happy to welcome you here.   

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[gennee]

Hi Cel and welcome to Susan's. This is a great place to start. Ask all the questions that you have.

[Alyx.]

Hi Cel! What an awesome name, maybe I should steal it, lol.

My name is Alex, I'm 20, and I'm also MtF. It's always cool to have girls around my age here, I hope you stick around!

[RachaelAnn22]

Welcome Celesta,it is nice to meet you.Hugs,Rachael.

[Morgan.]

Hi Morgan,
You're most welcome to immigrate. We'd be happy to welcome you here.   

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

I'm in luck! I was born and still live in Sydney. but I could leave and come back and enjoy a welcome..

[Catherine Sarah]

I could leave and come back and enjoy a welcome..

DONE !! And you don't even have to leave to get the welcome.  You're most welcome to join us girls at the Taxi Club every second Thursday night.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[Morgan.]

DONE !! And you don't even have to leave to get the welcome.  You're most welcome to join us girls at the Taxi Club every second Thursday night.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

I will most definitely be making an effort to check it out after my birthday. I'm in Darlinghurst pretty regularly as it is!!