I consider transgender to be something I am by an accident of birth. Yes, in an ideal world we all would have just been born with bodies that match our brains, but this isn't an ideal world and we weren't. Therefore, by the very definition of transgender, we ARE transgender. You don't have to define yourself by that one word, but it's part of who you are by your birth. There's no escaping it, there's not getting around it. I was born transgender just like I was born premature. Now I might not identify as a preemie and I don't have to define myself by that in the least bit and in an ideal world I wouldn't have been and I wouldn't have the scars to prove it, but I can't change the fact that that's how I was born.