Quote from: pretty on April 05, 2012, 01:50:36 PM
Sorry, I guess it's a personal difference 
I already feel comfortable with who I am, I just want to be able to be myself all the time. Of course, I wanna look fabulous without clothes for my bf 
but otherwise it's not like I am gonna fool myself out of knowing what I started with.
I don't understand about "fooling" people though. I shouldn't look like a guy as far as I'm concerned so passing to people is just showing them a more honest representation of me. I want the world to see me for who I am. That's why I said it's about passing to other people... I don't need to pass to myself, since I already know who I am personally.
Quote from: Connie Anne on April 05, 2012, 01:54:51 PM
To me, the point of transition isn't so much about passing to others as it is about correcting something that's wrong with my body.
Connie got the gist of what I was saying is that we want the mental and physical image of our bodies to match. There is something wrong I am going to fix. Even you sort of said this with your fabulous without clothes for your bf.
It isn't about fooling yourself but rather seeing what your mind expects to see.
If I say I need to make my body match my mind then likely I will do things that make me pass better, but the focus is on myself. If I say I want to look female to them then the focus is on them. It is harder to say I am "trapping" someone if I am doing stuff for myself because I was the focus. If they are the focus then they can say that you set out with the intention of fooling them. It doesn't change what we are doing it just isn't as likely to be misinterpreted.
