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Where have you experienced discrimination?

Started by TheHootersShow, May 23, 2012, 12:32:00 AM

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TheHootersShow

I'm a bisexual male and I experience it in many places. It's because I don't conform how to men are suppose to act. I've had people questioning my sexuality, and then asking me how I could my children's father. They also have said stuff about my girlfriend and whether or not the children or mine.
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Annah

It's been awhile since I have experienced discrimination. When it did happen to me I refused to let it control me. I have three children who accepts me and an ex who does not. It is her that will need to sort out her own anger and not I who needs to explain why I am who I am. I am happy and I feel sorry for my ex (she left long before she knew I was transgender but did know about my intersex condition..her leaving had nothing to do with that).

I just feel sorry for them because it takes a sad person to try to point out the faults in others. It takes someone who knows they have faults of their own to try to see others have them too...and then try to exploit it.
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ShaunaNinjagirl

I once got fired from a casino. They hired me but wanted my birth certificate. I had to explain the situation and why my birth certificate was under a male name. They tore up my papers on the spot and asked me to leave. Best not to concentrate on bad experiences though.
I am a  39 yr old MTF Post-Op transsexual who is also a Ninja, Hi-ya  >:-)
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MariaMx

While I was in the 50-50 stage of my transition I had to find a new place to live and went to look at an apartment that was up for rent. When the landlord greeted me I could immediately tell from his reaction that he did not want me as a tenant. He rushed through the motions of showing me the place and was visibly annoyed at having to do so. (I did not get the apartment)

It wasn't all bad though. The next place I looked at, which was nicer and cheaper, was owned by a gay gentleman and his boyfriend. When I showed up at the last minute some other person had just gotten the apartment, but when I met the landlord he took one look at me and said "You look like just the kind of person we want living here!", called the other person up, cancelled and gave me the place instead. I guess it goes both ways some times.
"Of course!"
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Dahlia

Quote from: MariaMx on September 13, 2012, 07:25:59 AM
called the other person up, cancelled and gave me the place instead.

Talk about being discriminated against....
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Annah

Quote from: Dahlia on September 15, 2012, 01:46:33 PM
Talk about being discriminated against....

I was thinking the same thing. I would be just as nervous having a landlord who denied someone residence because of sexuality factors as a landlord who cancelled their apartment agreement because of sexuality factors.

It's just as bad both ways, IMO.
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Keaira

I've experienced it at work. Just look for the thread titled, 'My company stabbed me in the back' for details. It's an ongoing case and it seems to be working.
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MariaMx

Quote from: Annah on September 16, 2012, 04:39:59 AM
I was thinking the same thing. I would be just as nervous having a landlord who denied someone residence because of sexuality factors as a landlord who cancelled their apartment agreement because of sexuality factors.
It's all good and I believe there was more too it than just a sexuality factor. I think he saw me as less of a potential trouble maker and he had had lots of problems with wild partyin' tenants in the past. Btw, the landlord and his bf turned out to be very nice people and they are today my dad and his wife's best friends.
"Of course!"
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AbraCadabra

"Where have you experienced discrimination?"

From practically EVERYONE that knows my history.
"Acceptance" and discrimination actually go nicely hand in hand... in case that has not been noticed as yet.

If you just happen to be about you are -accepted- (how nice, and not chased away!) but essentially being "cut" in every way thinkable...
This, so as not to look bad to others, supporting such outrages behaviour like MtF transition.
It seems the ultimate unforgivable sin... i.e. worse than quenching the Spirit.
And in THIS... all denominations including atheists seem in perfect alignment.
Amazing, eh?

Axélle
Some say: "Free sex ruins everything..."
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Annah

Quote from: MariaMx on September 16, 2012, 08:00:20 AM
It's all good and I believe there was more too it than just a sexuality factor. I think he saw me as less of a potential trouble maker and he had had lots of problems with wild partyin' tenants in the past. Btw, the landlord and his bf turned out to be very nice people and they are today my dad and his wife's best friends.

to play devil's advocate...the landlord at the first apartment u looked at probably thought the same thing when he saw a non ts looking for an apt after u (less of a potential trouble maker).
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Shantel

Quote from: ShaunaNinjagirl on September 13, 2012, 06:34:01 AM
I once got fired from a casino. They hired me but wanted my birth certificate. I had to explain the situation and why my birth certificate was under a male name. They tore up my papers on the spot and asked me to leave. Best not to concentrate on bad experiences though.

That was a rather short sighted Neanderthal reaction on their part!
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tekla

Not to stick up for casinos (except for the fact that their drink prices are really good) but there are very, very, extremely tight state laws regarding employment resulting from them being pretty much all mobbed up.   On top of that you have millions and millions of dollars in cash moving through there, making them a target for every scam artist, grifter, thief, chiseler and cheat - so it only makes sense that they want to know exactly who they are hiring.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Ave

I'm lucky to live in a liberal place. The only discrimination I've had is being passed over for an office job because I looked too young.
I can see me
I can see you
Are you me?
Or am I you?
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Shantel

Quote from: tekla on September 16, 2012, 01:02:03 PM
Not to stick up for casinos (except for the fact that their drink prices are really good) but there are very, very, extremely tight state laws regarding employment resulting from them being pretty much all mobbed up.   On top of that you have millions and millions of dollars in cash moving through there, making them a target for every scam artist, grifter, thief, chiseler and cheat - so it only makes sense that they want to know exactly who they are hiring.

You have a valid point considering casino employment! I'm assuming that her appearance shouldn't be a problem for anyone hiring elsewhere because she looks quite nice and very acceptable.
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ShaunaNinjagirl

The casino said that it would be against the dress code for a boy to have long hair, that was how they viewed me since my birth certificate said male. They also complained that the only reason they hired me was because they thought I was a biological girl. My agreements fell on deaf ears and they were ignorant and pigheaded so I just left.
I work in a seniors home now, and I am treated well. The only hard thing is having to wear a hair net, and that makes me look less feminine, but I still got called a very nice lady by the very old woman with senile dementia yesterday. I suppose that is good. :laugh:
I am a  39 yr old MTF Post-Op transsexual who is also a Ninja, Hi-ya  >:-)
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Kevin Peña

Well, I learned from past experiences that I shouldn't tell anyone I am trans, but I did tell some people that I am attracted to men. That didn't go over very well, and it got me jumped in the locker room at school. Here's the real kicker of the story: I was bullied throughout my entire school career, so I learned jujitsu; I beat the crap out of the guys who were attacking me for being "gay" (I'm technically pansexual, but that's irrelevant) and I got into trouble...
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Shantel

Quote from: DianaP on September 16, 2012, 03:37:13 PM
Well, I learned from past experiences that I shouldn't tell anyone I am trans, but I did tell some people that I am attracted to men. That didn't go over very well, and it got me jumped in the locker room at school. Here's the real kicker of the story: I was bullied throughout my entire school career, so I learned jujitsu; I beat the crap out of the guys who were attacking me for being "gay" (I'm technically pansexual, but that's irrelevant) and I got into trouble...

Uh-oh Saturday School for you girl!  ;D
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Snowpaw

I live in Texas :P it's a given but eh eff those people who would try. I am me and damn proud and won't let those turds get me down like that anymore.

Specifically though? I was fired after coming out at a gas station, the first place I worked at was cool because the manager was openly gay and supported me, he even took me outside to talk after a customer decided to call me some wonderfully colorful slurs. We talked a bit and he was the best boss I've ever had. I had to transfer from there though because I was only training T_T that's when it got rough because one of the ceo's or something I dont know who, they came in and saw me with nails done and makeup on. He was clearly put off by me and next thing I know I am being fired for not working as hard as I could. Gotta love those slimy work arounds they do when firing you. Oh well :D
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lindsey143

Not to resurrect a 5 or 6 month old thread, but at least its not 1 or 2 years old. lol. Just wanted to add my discrimination experience.
     I was working at a garage in Oak Ridge, Tennessee.  I started working there as Marshall. Well, I came out at work as trans, let it be for a few months. Then slowly started trying to look more and more female to transition at work. My boss came over and asked me to not transition at work, told me that his business partner was a Jehovah's witness and to please wait a little while. Well after waiting a few months I called my boss up early in the morning, I was in full girl mode, looked very convincing, and was dressed appropriately according to dress code, only in female clothes. Well I told him that I needed to go full time, how stressful it was switching back and forth, and that I couldn't get any help unless I was full time for like 3 months without switching back and forth, and that it was nessecary for my well being.
He said that if  that was my plan i needed to find somewhere else to work. So ive been without work for 3 weeks. luckily i got an interview for this week at a call center that has 3 other tgirls working there already. Really excited
Married with a beautiful family, living full time as my true self.
Lindsey Michelle Rogers
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LenoreKatz

I've experienced discrimination practically everywhere I have ever presented as female. Not from everyone, mind you, but it's an awful feeling to dress up nice and go out to have a pleasant evening, only to deal with at least one random ->-bleeped-<- calling me a name or telling someone they're glad they're not like me.

I've run into the occasional friend from my various social circles while dressed up, only to never be spoken to by them again. It's usually preceded by noticing they're checking me out, then they see it's someone familiar, then they realize it's me...

My mother and sister made my home a place of discomfort, making fun of me for an hour at a time for being a sissy, offering me a tampon, and even (from my own mother's mouth) being called a sicko.

The only time nobody at all has anything nasty to say is when I'm dressed conservatively, keep to myself and avoid making eye contact with anyone, but what kind of life is that?

The only happy note here is that the first time I passed I was avoided by someone I knew. I tried saying hello, and he crossed the street to avoid me. I got upset, but found out later that he didn't know it was me, he thought I was a "stuck-up conservative b*tch" who was going to try and pitch some religious or political propaganda at him. XD When he found out it was me in women's clothing he was relieved and gave me a big hug.

I'd never felt better about myself than I did then.
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