Strange convo at work

[Felix]

Jesus, that is scary. What a douchebag. Definitely a threat. I'd file a report if I were you, just so you have a record of it.

[_Jack_]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all of your replies and sorry for the late response, one word: exams lol.

The guy has actually been in two more times when I've been on shift, the second time he decided to approach me and say 'Boys don't cry, right?' and the third time he saw me walking across the shopfloor and walked backwards into me. So, I think he has 'his eyes on me' in a way, well, it feels like that anyway

I'm not completely out at work, I was to one manager but she has since left, so I'm in that period of time where I'm trying to make a decision as to who is just as trustworthy, which is proving to be pretty difficult as only the crappy gossipmill managers are left. I never wanted to be out to anyone at work, infact I initially thought I'd never be able to transition whilst being employed because the workplace is full of bigots and since this incident I feel the need to get out of there. I will talk to someone about it on my next shift and see what happens, I'm worried that I'm going to sound so stupid and they won't take me seriously, but at the end of the day, no one can really take this risk of not reporting it.

Thanks again for all of your support and advice, I'll be sure to let you all know how things go after I report the incident to management.

Jack

[smittyFTM]

Be careful, Jack. Not to be super paranoid, but do be careful & prepared to physically  protect yourself if you have to.  People can be ->-bleeped-<-ing crazy. xo

[Adio]

Seriously..that sh*t is ->-bleeped-<-ing creepy.  Please do talk to someone, even if you think it sounds dumb.  It's clearly a problem and NOT stupid.  Please be safe and take care of yourself.

[Cindy]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all of your replies and sorry for the late response, one word: exams lol.

The guy has actually been in two more times when I've been on shift, the second time he decided to approach me and say 'Boys don't cry, right?' and the third time he saw me walking across the shopfloor and walked backwards into me. So, I think he has 'his eyes on me' in a way, well, it feels like that anyway

I'm not completely out at work, I was to one manager but she has since left, so I'm in that period of time where I'm trying to make a decision as to who is just as trustworthy, which is proving to be pretty difficult as only the crappy gossipmill managers are left. I never wanted to be out to anyone at work, infact I initially thought I'd never be able to transition whilst being employed because the workplace is full of bigots and since this incident I feel the need to get out of there. I will talk to someone about it on my next shift and see what happens, I'm worried that I'm going to sound so stupid and they won't take me seriously, but at the end of the day, no one can really take this risk of not reporting it.

Thanks again for all of your support and advice, I'll be sure to let you all know how things go after I report the incident to management.

Jack

Sorry Jack,

That is worse and not wanting to freak you he has legally assaulted you by deliberately bumping into you and repeating a comment that can only be seen as a threat.

I presume you are in the USA, I'm in Australia. So I don't know where you are or how gender friendly they are.  I know I can walk into a Police station and report that I'm in fear of a hate crime and I would be taken seriously.

To be clear, unless you live in deep south homophobic hell, I would go to a Police Station and ask to talk to someone about a sexual threat you have received. And tell them. You can ask, our at least I can, ask to talk to someone who is OK with a potential hate crime against a transgendered person.

This is not normal behaviour, this is aggressive and nasty. He is the one out of line and he is a threat. Please take this seriously.

No need to answer this, but think.

Do you live alone, do you with a boy or girlfriend? Can they collect you in a car or be with you. Maybe people you work with can be with you to public transport.

I would be very careful.

Sorry I really don't want to spook you, but I don't want you hurt.

Cindy

[DanicaCarin]

So basically, this guy(Tool would be better description I think) has made two references to the "Boys don't cry" movie and intentionally bumped into you? Depending on where you work, that would most definitely be a violation of most workplace harassment policies(Even him being a customer).

Whatever you do as far as telling your employer, be sure to watch yourself. I don't want to say be freaked out and stressing yourself to death, but just be careful.

[Mr. Tentacles]

I'm sure this is at the very least harassment. To repeat what others have said, make sure someone knows that way if, God forbid, something happens, they authorities will have an idea of who could be responsible.
Yes, they won't consider it a threat, and charges won't be pressed, but just so someone knows.
I've had similar things happen at work, but never said anything because the individuals in question didn't persist.
This guy however, is continuing to harass you, and it would be best to let as many people as possible know what's going on.

Personally, I would've reacted in a much more hostile manner, which probably isn't the best idea, but yeah.

[Kelly J. P.]

 This week on Geek TV: Attack of the Necromancers! The Dead walk again!

[Felix]

This week on Geek TV: Attack of the Necromancers! The Dead walk again!

It's only from a few weeks ago.

[_Jack_]

Hey everyone,

A general update on the situation: I have been watching my back alot more, surrounding myself with people, etc. But in all honesty, since he backed into me, he hasn't approached me again, he's went around the store without me noticing and I only see him at the checkouts now. Which is great, but I don't think I'm going to be able to let my guard down, the whole situation was just...well, freaky. As for letting people know, people don't appear to give a damn about it, but at least they know. Hopefully, this situation will keep dying down and I won't have to deal with him again. Man, the crap we all have to deal with just for being ourselves is immense

Thanks everyone!

[Cindy]

Be aware and keep safe.

[Adio]

Glad to hear you're okay.  I was beginning to worry about you (even checked your profile for the last time you were online).  It's a good thing you told someone.  Just be safe. 

[Make_It_Good]

Im glad to hear hes not been bothering you anymore. Hopefully everything will completely die down with that now...

[Michael Joseph]

It is rediculous how much we have to go through just to live each day sometimes. theres a part of me always on guard just in case. but glad you are ok, hopefully it stays how its been

[AlexanderReese]

Jack, please talk to someone at your work. Your work is how you survive, where you have to be for X amount of time. It's a place you should never feel uncomfortable or insecure. Your safety (emotionally and physically) are the most important things. I would talk to a manager so when this douchetard comes in again, they can watch him. And then hopefully when they spot his inappropriate behavior, ban him/remove him.
The first time I read your post, I told my girlfriend and she said that was absolutely awful. NO one should have to be degraded for who they are. Not you, not anyone. Please do what you have to, for your safety and well being.

[Traivs]

The part that stuck me was that you had to deal with them more than once makes it creepy to me.  If it was just the one initial time i would have personally just shrugged it off. Had a somewhat similar convo with a creepy person downtown once but I never saw them again. Good luck and stay safe I guess thats all that is to be said since others already made some good comments.