I wanna be a real boy

[Edge]

As single gendered males (if there are any other multigendered people here, feel free to answer as well), do you think also being female would make someone less of a man? I really hope not, but please answer honestly even if the answer might hurt me.
For those who don't know, I am both male and female. I am not a mixture and I am not single gendered. I really hope it is possible for me to be a real male even though I am also female, but I don't know. Is it?

[A. Loki]

I believe that what makes you a "real" man or a "real" woman is not defined by what is in your pants, in your behaviours, in other peoples eyes, etc...I think that if you are both male and female but wish to feel wholly male, then that is your call and yours alone.  I know plenty of men who have more than a few female traits and whatnot, and plenty of women who have male traits, and I consider all of them to simply be real people no matter thier gender.  I stopped worrying about whether or not I was a "real" enough man a long time ago (mostly because it changes practically day to day) and decided to just focus on being a real individual and true to what I myself wanted to show people. 

[Jamie D]

Edge, you ask the most difficult question of them all.  For those of us who are multigendered, how do we accommodate that in a single body?  Or a single mind?

Can you emphasize one aspect at the expense of the other(s)?  That is, I think, how many of us cope.

[Natkat]

I think it really depends on what you put in the teams and how to twist it. So I don't think its a right or wrong or yes or no answer, and I belive if its should be all correct the explenation would go in all categories and turn up at least 2 pages full.
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to go to a short version I belive gender and sex are many diffrent thing, jugded on many diffrent levels.

should I be all honest I dont belive you can be a fully gender boy if your gender is both man and female, all the time.
but it dosent mean you cant be man.
all people has male and female inside of them whatever there trans or not, and I belive everybody to be alittle gender-queer, in some way or another.

we came from the same, and we has alot of things in common with both.

A cisgender guy can be totally femenine and female acting in a way, or even identify himself in some femenine ways once in a while.
I dont think its that abnormal.
dose it make him less a man?
I dont know but wont really say yes since I belive its natural for us,

the only time I seriously feel someone is less a man is when they refuse those sides of themself, and try to hide it by proving there maculine sides over everything ells.
for me its just feels very unmanly and fake, so I cant take that one serious.
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I hope some of this mess made some sense, its a very hard question and I am not sure how to answer it, or if we even has enough knowlegde on the male vs female to give and answer.

[Edge]

Can you emphasize one aspect at the expense of the other(s)?

Nah. I wish I could sometimes, but I know that I would be miserable if I denied any part of myself. Although I'm male right now and male me wishes I would settle as male. Thanks for your response, Jamie.
Thanks for your response and your honesty, Natkat.
Thanks for your response, Casey. Yeah, bigender would be a word I could use. I don't quite understand it yet though. I wish I could dissect my brain, but that's not possible.

[poptart]

Are you female and male at the same time, or does it vary by day, (ie. you can feel male one day and female the next)?

[Edge]

Are you female and male at the same time, or does it vary by day, (ie. you can feel male one day and female the next)?

It varies between male, female, and both at once. Some days, I'm male. Some days, I'm female. Some days, it's a duality or a tug-of-war.