Mild Quandry

[Constance]

Two of my best friends from high school married each other, and then divorced years later due in part to the husband's infidelity. I'm still friends with both of them, IRL and on the dreaded Facebook.

The ex-husband has announced that he's engaged -- to the last woman he cheated on his ex-wife with.

The ex-wife is still very hurt and angry about this. I feel caught in the middle. I'd like to congratulate the one friend, but I don't want to upset the other.

*le sigh*

[Pica Pica]

The joy of the private message.

[Sarah Louise]

If you want to congratulate your friend, you Should.  Out of friendship, politeness, common curtesy, etc.

If one of them says you can't be friends with the other, then you should begin to question the basis of the friendship.

[Constance]

Pica & Sarah: you both have good points.

[Brooke777]

If you want to congratulate your friend, you Should.  Out of friendship, politeness, common curtesy, etc.

If one of them says you can't be friends with the other, then you should begin to question the basis of the friendship.

I completely agree.

[Constance]

I sent my friend a private message.

Truly, I want him to be happy. But at that same time, he was a lousy husband to my other friend. At least he had been a good father, even in the eyes of his ex-wife.