Quote from: antonia on December 11, 2014, 10:48:32 PM
Me and my partner broke up after 4 years, we've grown apart and both agreed this was the way to go since we'll be living/working in different cities.
Knew intellectually this was a very real possibility but emotionally processing it is still taking it's toll.
Happy we are still friends, happy we split on good terms.
Sorry Hun. I am going through a similar-feeling situation. It is very tough. My boyfriend made me happy and sad today. We've been together nearly 4 years.
We just got home from what started as a nice evening. I was happy as I got a group of our friends together at the last minute to surprise him after a rough week at work. We went out and all was well...
...until AS USUAL various things happened through the evening. Primarily I cannot take it anymore how much he lives to be
negative. He almost wants trouble. He acts like he hates everything and everyone. He belittles the value of education and berates anyone who might give him advice. He is a hypocrite when it comes to acceptance. He is a T-guy and expects everyone to respect that and treat him right, then he turns around and absolutely positively disrespects EVERYONE who is not like him.
Tonight he went off on me that all the CRAP he talks is okay because he treats others fine...
to their faces. Tonight he said I must be retarded because I don't know that all of the horrible things he says...about everything and everyone... aren't ACTUALLY what he thinks.
So, easy example, he talks crap about my parents ways and conservative politics..people who helped him to finance his car, and let him live WITH ME under their roof for 2 years. He refuses to visit them. Calls my mom a stupid b*tch and my dad annoying...but alas I am supposed to just say "It's not what he REALLY thinks of them!"
![Huh ???](https://www.susans.org/Smileys/susans/huh.gif)
Another example, he is Tguy but hasn't done ONE thing to transition since I've known him. However I do hear constantly how he hates being called "ladies" when we're together. He hates that people assume we're lesbians. This person SAW ME TRANSITION and go from sirs to ma'ams. Don't they get it, you hafta DO something. Yet today he holds my passability and successes AGAINST ME like it was freaking easy or something. I tell him every time that I never once held it against someone that they called me sir
before I physically began to transition!
He also believes that the problem isn't his negativity so much as that I dislike it. AHHHHH. My head's gonna explode!!! I don't want to leave him, truly I do love him. I know he is just beaten down, but his negativity has doomed him. Makes me saddddd. Sorry, I really needed to vent!!!
![Cry :'(](https://www.susans.org/Smileys/susans/cry.gif)
Edited: many times. I also want to add I'm not NEAR perfect, have my mental moments. I can be a handful at times, but I do try to take notice my faults and address them.