Favorite lines by people who "just don't get it"

[Brooke777]

Does she know my ex by any chance?
If I try to make a point she disagrees with then I either hear this or get the eye roll that says the same

I would rather have this than the barrage of insults I get regularly from my son's mother.

[Quinn]

Hahaha there was this chick who asked me "Wait. How do you know? Like, how do you know you're not just a retarded girl?" It was offensive for like three seconds and then hilarious XD

[Zoey]

"You are confused."

"You are going to be the loneliest person..."

"You are young and you are being led to feel this way."

[Green_Tony]

"If you want to be treated like a guy then you have to do/stop doing X"
"If people aren't taking you seriously then you should try harder"
"You're not a boy and never will be, stop deluding yourself"
"It's all in your head"
"So what kind of bits do you have?"
"Something's missing in your life and it's not dangly bits"

[Beth Andrea]

So I was talking to a rider on the bus today..he's good about calling me Beth, and about half the time he's good with the pronouns...but tonight as he got off, he said "Thank you, sir".

I said, "Thank you, ma'am," and he apologized and said, "it's hard to remember when you look like a linebacker for the Rams."



I mean, I know I'm a big girl, but to REMIND me of it in such a blunt fashion...

Oh well. Just gotta put on my BIG GIRL panties, wipe away the tears, and drive for a TD I guess...

[Brooke777]

Sorry he said that hun.

[MadelineB]

So I was talking to a rider on the bus today..he's good about calling me Beth, and about half the time he's good with the pronouns...but tonight as he got off, he said "Thank you, sir".

I said, "Thank you, ma'am," and he apologized and said, "it's hard to remember when you look like a linebacker for the Rams."



I mean, I know I'm a big girl, but to REMIND me of it in such a blunt fashion...

Oh well. Just gotta put on my BIG GIRL panties, wipe away the tears, and drive for a TD I guess...

Broad shoulders are a wonderful asset for a sister, a friend, or a mom-- more support to rest your head, more safe place to cry on.

[Cindy]

So I was talking to a rider on the bus today..he's good about calling me Beth, and about half the time he's good with the pronouns...but tonight as he got off, he said "Thank you, sir".

I said, "Thank you, ma'am," and he apologized and said, "it's hard to remember when you look like a linebacker for the Rams."



I mean, I know I'm a big girl, but to REMIND me of it in such a blunt fashion...

Oh well. Just gotta put on my BIG GIRL panties, wipe away the tears, and drive for a TD I guess...

It's hard to think it's a human when doesn't have a brain.

Hugs Sis

[suzifrommd]

Oh well. Just gotta put on my BIG GIRL panties, wipe away the tears, and drive for a TD I guess...

Well he obviously hasn't learned that feminine, beautiful, and sexy, come in lots of shapes and sizes.

You have all those things, so don't sweat it sister.

[Kevin Peña]

So I was talking to a rider on the bus today..he's good about calling me Beth, and about half the time he's good with the pronouns...but tonight as he got off, he said "Thank you, sir".

I said, "Thank you, ma'am," and he apologized and said, "it's hard to remember when you look like a linebacker for the Rams."

Well, that's harsh. I don't talk to my friends about me being trans often, but they know that I am. However, one of them slipped up and said that I look like Rambo... and when I stopped crying, he gave me half of his sandwich, which led me to forget about the whole thing. I am so evil.   

[heartlesstruths]

"Maybe you are just gay".

I'm bi...

"It does not matter. Maybe you believe it but may be gay."

I basically went through that same kind of thing with myself, for at least the first year of taking testosterone...just a lot of aspects of my life/myself weren't lining up to the point I wondered if I was lying to myself about something, essentially it came down to "no straight cisgendered man with such a stereotypical sexuality can possibly have this many female friends and supposedly not really want to sleep with any of them.. so which is it, I don't want to admit I'm shallow, or I don't want to admit I'm gay??"


LOL. I also wondered if it had to do with being ftm, but given that more often than not what I've heard from others, is basically "I always hung out with boys as a kid, and pretty much thought of myself as one"...there are also a few cis-guys I know like this, but they're very far and few between. Maybe even more so than FTM's are. haha.

Probably just something I'd never really thought about before T/assumed was due to being socially seen as a girl/trying to be (like) one. Also this kind of deep-rooted apprehension I have about being "irrational" and it evading me completely in some way--probably because of my long history with anxiety attacks/phobias (characteristically irrational)...and the gender issues (just not really making much sense.)

Anyway...sorry for the ranting lol. Another one I can't stand is also from my parents (mostly my mom) "Men are physically active. I thought testosterone was gonna make you more like a man."
She obviously never listens when I talk about my chronic stress burnout issues, long-term nasty effects after going off (10+ years of) antidepressants, and physical pain I get lately from physical exertion. 

I see it the way therapists probably would (and I've been to lots of those lol), you need to know when to stop looking for support where you aren't going to find it, and look elsewhere for it.

[Kevin Peña]

Ok, my aunt doesn't know I'm trans, but she said a joke that sounded like an ignorant comment. Note that she's actually very open-minded.

I was watching Desperate Housewives and she said, "Ugh, that show is for gay guys that want to be girls."

If only she knew.

[RedFox]

"You're just confused and compensating because you're in a very masculine environment.  It'll probably go away when you get home."  This from a very close friend of mine that's normally very open-minded.  Like I'm going to going to get home and be a "real man" again once I take the uniform off.

The other from my mother, my friends, and my SO:  "You don't have any feminine mannerisms.  You must be wrong or we would have seen signs."

Right...  it's called overcompensating for a reason.. act more like a man when you feel less like one and they'll never suspect.  Funny how for so many years I always worried about passing and being accepted as a man, and I never wondered why I worried about it.  Until I realized I was woman. 

[Kevin Peña]

Right...  it's called overcompensating for a reason.. act more like a man when you feel less like one and they'll never suspect. 

Wow, I do the exact same thing! 

[King Malachite]

"That's between you and God."

I've heard that line used for various situations and even though it seems somewhat neutral, I feel like there is still a negative connotation attached to it.

[Damian]

"Is there anything u think about urself which makes u believe it not perfect because to me u are."
"Look at ur move as motivation female body builder and me as a tank, do i always picture this body as the one I want? no."
Exact quotes from my boyfriend.

[Kevin Peña]

"Is there anything u think about urself which makes u believe it not perfect because to me u are."
"Look at ur move as motivation female body builder and me as a tank, do i always picture this body as the one I want? no."
Exact quotes from my boyfriend.

Then he needs to learn some grammar. I don't get what he was saying. 

[Beth Andrea]

"That's between you and God."

I've heard that line used for various situations and even though it seems somewhat neutral, I feel like there is still a negative connotation attached to it.

There is a negative connotation...basically they're saying, "I don't approve of what you're doing, but I don't want to appear as insensitive or intolerant, so ill just let G-d judge you."

I think the term would be "passive-aggressive."

[Damian]

Then he needs to learn some grammar. I don't get what he was saying. 

Lol translation:
"Is there anything u think about urself which makes u believe it not perfect because to me u are."
=
What about yourself makes you think you're not perfect, because to me you are.

"Look at ur move as motivation female body builder and me as a tank, do i always picture this body as the one I want? no."
=
Look at your motivation to feeling this, I know you want to become stronger like I do (he used to be rather overweight a year or two ago. At the time of this message he is mostly muscle) have I always imagined my body as my favored body? no.

[DeeperThanSwords]

I have things I want to add to this, but I need to come down from the rage first.