Being gay and being trans

[ChaoticTribe]

Dalebert I 100% agree with your post

Wish more people saw it that way. I bet there are a lot of dudes who feel the same and are nervous about striking up interaction with someone because they don't want to come across wrong.

[dalebert]

Thanx, ChaoticTribe. I thought of another way to put it more succinctly.

I'm gay, 100%, so I can't even say that a male appearance and a male identity is a preference. That's pretty much mandatory. I just can't see women in a romantic or sexual manner. I wish I were bi or pan, but it just isn't me. It is, however, a preference that my partner have gonads that are complimentary to mine. That, however, definitely is just a preference. Every guy I have ever dated has had a penis and it has not been an issue. We managed to have great sex. So obviously what is between my partner's legs is not all I care about; not even close. In fact one of the fastest ways for a guy to turn me off is to brag about their size down there, like posting it right on an online profile, because it is so far down on my list of things that I care about in a partner and it implies that our priorities are likely way out of sync. Even when I primarily identified as a bottom, I didn't care about such things.

[Green_Tony]

I like guys and I like non-binary people, and I don't really care about body parts. As for disclosing, I'm mostly stealth now and still with the same guy, who was the first person I came out to and doesn't care about body parts, but likes butch presenting people.

[AmirAxel]

Recently I've been dealing with a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-. He's into both mtf and ftm, and often times ask for me to give hime pics of my bf and I (perverted stuff...) or to have "fun" with him. I find it creepy and annoying. It so far doesn't seem like he's interested in me, he's more interested that I'm a guy who has a vagina. He has even offered to buy me a "strap-on" for Christmas. IDK what to do. It's so creepy...

[Natkat]

Recently I've been dealing with a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-. He's into both mtf and ftm, and often times ask for me to give hime pics of my bf and I (perverted stuff...) or to have "fun" with him. I find it creepy and annoying. It so far doesn't seem like he's interested in me, he's more interested that I'm a guy who has a vagina. He has even offered to buy me a "strap-on" for Christmas. IDK what to do. It's so creepy...

Ho ho merry christmas here is your dildo lets see if your been naughty or nice..
LOL

well wellcome to my world, I thought I was the only one who had ftm ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s after me,
I personally dont mind if im in the mood, and if there respectfull enough to take a no as a no,

[Christopher_Marius]

Yeah, I know I'm a few pages late. But whatever. I didn't see this addressed adequately.

Let me say that again for you: "Of course, it's just MY thinking"

That "less tall = less man" or "More tall = more man = more good" statement was probably one of the stupidest things I've ever read. Sure, it may be "your thinking" but just saying "this is my thinking" doesn't mean that you're not just patently wrong.

So let's just clear one thing up: You can't just say whatever you want and then hide behind a statement that basically says "I thought it and so I can say it and you can't argue, because it's just what I think." You'd best be prepared for argument.

So exactly how short is "short"? Anything under 6'? Anything under 5'10"? Anyone 5'8" or shorter? Anyone shorter than you? What's the metric here? Regardless, it seems like whatever number you pick to be the adequately manly height would probably be completely arbitrary.

You are talking here at a group of people who were (for the most part) born female, and so I would be willing to bet money on the average height among any of us transmen reading this thread being ~5'6" or shorter. And what you basically did was say "Hey, you short people who call yourselves 'masculine' -- WANNA KNOW WHAT I THINK? You're all inherently less masculine and therefore less good than tall men." I don't think you've exactly got any right to act indignant when someone calls you out.

It's one thing to say "I like tall guys" but that is NOT the implication of what you wrote.

Coming here and saying such a thing as taller=more masculine=better, considering the audience and the setting, is at best oblivious and insensitive and at worst outright dickish and insensitive.

[Arch]

Coming here and saying such a thing as taller=more masculine=better, considering the audience and the setting, is at best oblivious and insensitive and at worst outright dickish and insensitive.

I addressed this issue soon after the post appeared and someone else complained. Ave says that he mentally connects shortness with masculinity and that he sees masculinity as good. He then follows it up with a statement that this is just the way he thinks. He does not say that short guys ARE less masculine and that they ARE lesser human beings. I feel that he is simply reporting his own perception and preference, and I feel that you are putting words in his mouth and misquoting him, then taking him to task for something he did not actually say.

However, that is one mod's opinion. If you believe that I did not address this post properly, feel free to report it for moderation, unless you have done so already.