Pre-op sex?

[JoanneB]

When I first met my wife over 30 years ago, she was pre-op, I was working hard at faking "Normal" Perhaps it was my unique perspective but I damn well knew I was dating a TS and yes, sometimes I might see things she would rather me not. If I said "Gross" I would not have been able to be the luckiest person in the world to have her in my life to this day.

I was far from alone in competition for her. Nor was she the only pre-op TS I dated. She did not in any way want me doing oral. Even post-op she is squimish about it. She was able to achieve an orgasim anally. Not all TS's can. Two that I dated were OK with oral. At all times my partners needs always took precedence over mine. (Partly since sex was never a big thing for me for some obvious reasons)

This guy sounds like he needs a serious talking to. IMHO he is essentially a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-. Into the fantisy of having a TS, just not the reality of it. Any relationship takes work and nuturing. One with a TS even more so since there is a LOT of bagage. Even more with a pre-op. ou may not be all that thrilled about what is in your panties. You certainly do not need to be critisized for it by someone you have an intimate relationship with.

[Aryana_V]

U were placed on hrt when you were 10?

Seems dodgy to me too, but it's not ENTIRELY impossible.

[justmeinoz]

A s far as I am concerned I just look at it as having a really big clitoris, there are a fair few Intersex people who view it the same way from what I have been able to gather. 

Also, your skin is your largest organ and is covered in nerve cells, especially in areas like the breasts.  Orgasm can be achieved anywhere really, it just takes practice and being self aware.  Meditation can help cultivate this.
If your BF hasn't figured out that breasts are fun he really needs a reality check. It sounds like it is time for you to let him know you have needs too, and that he either considers you or you replace him.

Tough choice but it is a matter of self-respect as I see it.

Karen.

[yasuko14]

Seems dodgy to me too, but it's not ENTIRELY impossible.

I had alot of endo problems growing up so I was able to voice my feelings early on I suppose. My doctor never had anyone come forward wanting estrogen or to go a certain route other than their biological makings. I lived in a small town and she is the local pediatrician at our Kaiser. I had to fly out to another city's Kaiser to meet with an endocrinologist eventually who is now overseeing my blood work, prescriptions, etc.

I personally wouldn't wish an early transition upon my worst enemies.. Kid's are mean and parents are very cruel and judgmental. I honestly hate that town and most of the people in it. No kid growing up should have to be treated like that at such a young age. It's bad enough being a regular adolescent, so much worse when you have all these issues and everyone thinks its their business just because you are under 18. I'm 20 now and I refuse to ever be disrespected how I was over the past years..

[yasuko14]

And thank you to everyone who has replied..
Sometimes I just need a little feedback or an opinion on how I'm feeling, and its amazing to read all your opinions and supportive messages/posts.
It gets so hard sometimes because I can't relate to my girlfriends and gay friends, their problems are just so different at times. I'm living the life of a young woman in college but with all these weird and extra issues, handicaps, and problems, that nobody I know around me has. Being stealth doesn't make it any easier because a lot of my closest friends have no idea. I just can't wait to be penis free and be able to live my life comfortably..

[Janae]

Forgive me for this but I'm going to be blunt.

He sounds like a looser. How insensitive is it to not want to please your partner?? He went into a relationship knowing you were trans and pre op so what's the issue?? And to tell someone their parts are "Gross" is ridiculous. Like what's the point??. And sweety you shouldn't feel shamed for wanting pleasure it's a basic human desire. No matter your plans for srs you still have a body parts that are able to receive pleasure. Why should you be denied or shamed into thinking your penis is off limits. That's only something you can decide. If he wants to be selfish and let you do all the work with no reciprocation why not get a sex toy?? I feel for you and hope that you find what you need. Your boyfriend needs to get it together before he finds himself by himself.