How is YOUR City?

[Elsa]

Horrible but I could not care less cause its my hometown.

[Lexicaligari]

My Hometown was Indianapolis IN in the USA. It was passable only because I was. Actually in the 1980s it was so rare to run into a Trans person, that most folks never realized that there were such folks around-- much less in their midst. So I got by.

Surviving and thriving are two very different things, and it wasn't until I went to a larger city (Wash DC suburbs) that things really started happening for me, and I met the love of my life. I now RV full time and tour quite a bit. We will spend more time in the New England area as there is more opportunity and less intolerance. We love PA for the gorgeous scenery, but its more hatefilled there than even in the deep south.

I run into a LOT of real bigotted conversation (mostly related to the recent elections and not directed to me). In those times I realize I am just a tourist, and take heart in my plans to keep moving along. 

So we have some tests for a region. If there has been lots of big changes such as plant or military base closings, huge influx of a new ethic group, &c., the kind of things that make folks fearful-- we stay away. Frightened folks are the worst, and the cowardly are quick to make and act on targets which seem threatening. Hope this helps-

Lexi Calgari in South Georgia for Thanksgiving-

[Celery Stalk]

Portland Oregon is another weirdness place.  Very Trans friendly.  We have a trans doctor (MtF) here and a trans therapist (FtM).  We have several groups that are trans only groups and we have one of the largest Drag shows, Darcelle's.   

And we have a saying here that is used by many cities. 

This is not the first time I've heard good things about Portland. I'd be interesting in paying the city a visit one day. 

I'm currently in Denver. And personally, I've never had any issues whatsoever. In addition to the large LGBT presence, most everyone has a who-cares attitude.

[Tristan]

My city is one of the most violent places to live in in the world that aren't war zones, more than 10 transgendered women are murdered on a yearly basis, and cis women get murdered so much, new legislation has been passed by congress so as to typify the murder of a woman as a crime set apart from normal murder. The police force is corrupt and many times involved in criminal activities.

On the plus side, the gay community is growing and pressuring to have itself heard, there have been growing gay pride parades for 5 years now. Also if you're one of the lucky few that have enough money, you can get to do whatever you might wish.

Do you live in Chicago?

[Michelle G]

I like Portland, it is always the goofy stepsister to Seattle which is actually a good thing

[tekla]

Do you live in Chicago?

Harsh.  And truer about Detroit.

[monica.soto]

Do you live in Chicago?

Wow Tristan, I never knew Chicago was so tough! I live outside of the USA, south of Mexico...

[Tristan]

Wow Tristan, I never knew Chicago was so tough! I live outside of the USA, south of Mexico...

brazil maybe?

[Devlyn]

Here are some choices north of Mexico, that are Mexico, but in the US. Did I say that right? The list:

Mexico, Indiana
Mexico, Kentucky 
Mexico, Maine 
Mexico, Maryland 
Mexico, Missouri 
Mexico (village), New York 
Mexico (town), New York

[monica.soto]

We're playing guess my city?

What if somebody finds out where I'm from? the horror!

Okay, it's a Spanish speaking country in the American continent (so it's not an Island), it's neither Brazil or Mexico, but located geographically somewhere in between these countries.

That should be enough, but If you guess right I'll never confirm it  (at least publicly..if you're dying to know just PM me)

[Natkat]

My area isnt that bad, It to be one of the most alternatives places and the place with most GLBT people.
But the countrys threatment of transexuals itself in general sucks about them wanting to forbid homones for transgenders and all sort of things. and sadly I have to live under this.

[niamh]

I am in a capital city. We have an LGBT group but no trans groups. I think there is only like 1 out trans person in the whole city.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

We're playing guess my city?

What if somebody finds out where I'm from? the horror!

Okay, it's a Spanish speaking country in the American continent (so it's not an Island), it's neither Brazil or Mexico, but located geographically somewhere in between these countries.

That should be enough, but If you guess right I'll never confirm it  (at least publicly..if you're dying to know just PM me)

I know, but I am not telling.

[dalebert]

For a really small city, Manchester, NH doesn't seem bad at all. Just the fact that it has a small population period means a smaller population of LGBT, of course but it's also close to Boston. It was cool to hear that NH is the most LGBT state in the U.S. Washington D.C. beat us but it's not a state, technically.

[Misato]

I'm back in Green Bay for the holiday and none too happy about it.  Still presenting male and knowing that it's going to be very hard for me to come back here when my outside matches my inside.

It just hurts so much to be here.  There are good people and places to eat to be sure, but, the lack of resources... I hated myself for so long... I thought if I admitted what I felt that I would be sent to a pray-away-the-trans camp or something.

I feel like lamenting that I could have my vagina already if I had somewhere I could have gotten help here.  Still, my life has been good and I am ready now to transition.  Better late than never eh?  And maybe I'm being unfair too.  It was me that denied myself for the last eight years since I started fending for myself in the world. Faugh, in any case, it would be nice to not be in a place that reminds me of so much regret in my life.

I hope anyone else here now has an easier go of it.  Not that I see any indications of change bouncing around here the last few days...

[PHXGiRL]

I haven't had any problems in my city when I go out. I live in Phoenix, Arizona. I have basically been all over this city as me Scottsdale, Mesa, Peoria, Chandler, Avondale and every little suburb in between. I haven't had any issues. I have only noticed a couple people "spot" me but I don't really pay attention to anyone else when I'm out.

[beabela]

I live along lake Zurich, Switzerland, in a conservative village. My experiences with the local court (for official gender change) and other departments (for the driver's license, for example) have been excellent even though I'm supposedly the first case in 20 years. I guess it helps that I and my partner are adorable The cities of Zurich, and San Francisco, where I also spend time, are of course great; not so much Paris, which I have found to be as bigoted as it is beautiful. In fact just a week ago they had a big demonstration in Paris against gay marriage with a turnout between 200-400K people (depending on the source). So France has a long way to come relative to say, London, NYC, SF, Berlin, Copenhagen, or in fact, my little hamlet on lake shore Zurich. Hugs, Beatrice

[Misato]

Well, I'm at a game store in GB and clearly someone here is having an easier time being themselves here than I ever did. <sigh/>

Where is my list o' regrets?

[John Smith]

I live in a fairly small town (population around 36.000), and have never had any bad reactions from anyone. The cashiers at my local grocery store sometimes seem to have a hard time staying serious or something, but that's pretty much it. (I have always shopped there, and a couple of them seem to fight off a giggle fit when they see me. I guess they aren't used to the beard yet. )

[Sara Thomas]

There are plenty of friendly folks in my town (San Angelo, Texas) who probably wouldn't give a flip either way (or would keep it to themselves, if they did); but the folks who might not be as friendly about it, have the potential to be unfriendly in a very serious way.

It's not a chance I'm willing to take, though I know there are folks here who do... p'haps it's just because I've always lived and worked amongst the rougher folk, and as such have a more narrow view of the population.

naaaw... i think i got it right.