My Brother/Sister

[ShyGothGirl]

HIYA LUCY!!! *Hugz*

I think that if you feel that you can tell your mom tonight, then you should. And I think you should dress comfortably, hun. Like others have said, it isn't about the clothes, it's about the message. Just bear your soul, fully.

And if it seems like way too much too soon, wait a bit if you feel like you need to, but sooner is definitely better than later, cuz then you can get some therapy going eventually and start fully exploring and discovering yourself without the restrictions.

LOTS OF LOVE!!!!

[Keira]

It doesn't sound like such a pipe dream to me Lucy.

Everybody here was frightened of telling their parents, its normal.
The important thing is not to let fear rule your life.

I let fear rule mine for a very long time and
because I did not want to offend anyone I ended not living my life,
but the life that others expected of me!!

I almost came clean to my parents at 21, chickened out,
lived a zombie life for 18 years and where did it lead me,
to having to tell them at 39!! It wasn't easier for them to receive the
news then and it certainly wasn't easier for me to wait that long
to tell them.

Being accepted as yourself is a powefull thing.
If that's what you want, you should do everything
to translate it into reality.

See yaa Lucy.

[Lucy]

Hi Lucy, its good to b true to your self but take your time and tìnk about what thd message is. Good luck

[Nikki_W]

When I tell Mum should I dress as Luke or more like as I do most of the time or should I wear what I really want to wear? Nothing outragous, just a kirt and a nice top, something nicer than I usually get away with.

I would suggest wearing what you normally wear. From what Kelly has said what you wear isn't likely to send a message or show your family you can look like other women. Changing your outfit either in a male or female direction can only take attention off the message and put it on the clothes. Both your own attention worrying about how your mom is reacting to the clothes. And her attention by reacting to them. Also if you dress the way you normally do it helps keep you on message that the point isn't about clothes.

The nervousness won't go away whether you tell tonight or wait. You just have to be ready then step off the platform and dive in. Anticipation is the worst part.

[Alison]

It's nice to meet you both, Lucy and Kelly!  Kelly you're a fantastic sister for sticking by Lucy when she needs you  

Before you tell your parents if you haven't already check out our Wiki Section https://www.susans.org/wiki/Main_Page .. there are articles in there on telling your parents. And also some stuff in there for your parents to read if they'd like...

Thank you for posting, good luck to you both

[Bob]

I must applaud Keira's excellent posts here... and I agree 100% with her.
well done Keira !
...I am the Parent of a TS born male raised male but who is truly Female inside... its a tough battle for anyone to wage...
Being young as you are has many advantages.
I do believe your parents SHOULD know, have no doubt they will probly take it hard... but You need to tell them ! 
I think the hardest part for a parent is not understanding just what the heck TS is....  they will think , where did I go wrong in the raising of my Kid ?  is it too late to fix it ? what can I do to make it right?
...this is because they do not understand that it is simply a birth-defect
sad but true....
calm their fears in that it is NOT what they did in raising you, or what they didn't do.... it just IS...   yes Mom its Horrable but its not the end of the world... it can be fixed !
I am totally convienced that if your parents Love you they will support you no matter what.... but this doesn't mean they will think this is a good idea ! ...but good or bad is not the ishue here... getting help is
and there is no better place for help than the parents !
be Kind, be tender as this will bother your parents a great deal
just make sure they understand its NOT THEIR FAULT !...because they will be thinking "How can it NOT be my fault !? I raised Him !" 
you see they don't understand what Transexualism is !  and you need to educate them !

Haing in there !
Bob.....

[dtsalkire]

Lucy

I am a parent of a TS/crossdresser male. He is 15 also. I just wanted you to know my son never came to me and told me.  I figured it out on my own and finally we talked about it and everything is ok and he has all my support.  This board and these great people here helped me to understand how he was feeling and gave me great information that gave me the proper opportunity to talk to him.  Your mum may already know, she may have seen the signs like I did. 

I personally feel it is something you are born with not something that you choose.  I can remember back as far as 4 years old and him wanting to dress in girls clothes.

I just want to wish you luck and let you know you are not alone in this.  Also I do call my son a he because he never stated he wanted to be a girl so if and when that time comes he will then be my she but either way I love him/her just the same.