Transition and Loneliness

[Shortman]

I think you're reading criticism into my statements and taking it personally Jason.  There is no criticism, and I am well aware that I don't know anyone and the details of their lives.

Remember the part of not being too much into your own head?  If you have something else to think about, and do, you are less likely to feel lonely because you're busy.  Also keep in mind that almost everyone is to a certain extent lonely.  It's normal.

Lots of people don't have someone they are close to.  You have my sympathy, and understanding as I have spent most of my life single and alone.  One of the best things I did was get a dog.  It's not the same as a relationship with a human of course, but if you like pets, it can help.

Shortman

[aleon515]

I had a month where I started to lose friends. I think I thought I lost 3 in a space of a couple weeks-- directly or indirectly due to being trans. One of the roughest weeks of my life. I found out that one of these people WAS still my friend so when that happened I felt so much better. I read that this is a common experience of trans people. I am so lucky to be near a trans center so I can go to groups and so so on.

I think there is also something of being too much in your own head. I am still having this experience where I feel like trans is ALL I think about. I understand that this is very common in early transition.

So hang in there, we all know what you are going thru and are rooting for you.


--Jay

[Adam (birkin)]

Fortunately, i've always known very few people at a time so I don't feel lonely. Much. There was a point about a year ago where I felt terribly lonely because I had accepted that my ex was not coming back, and she was the person I was closest to. I actually considered going to church again just to be less lonely, which is truly sad in my case.

But it's better now. I still fall off the radar a lot (I think it happens when something rough is going on, usually) and lose touch with almost everyone, which isn't really good because then they think it's about them and sometimes I lose them.

[King Malachite]

I havent began my transition yet, but I feel super lonely and isolated every day.  Outside of the internet, I have never had a girlfriend or intimately felt the romantic touch of a woman....be it holding hands, snuggling, kissing, hugging etc.  I have a hard time making friends because I wear a mask everyday.  I feel like I can never be my true self around people.  I also have an unsupportive family which doesn't help.

[Cindy]

Loneliness.

A simple word.

It means you have limited contact, no one talk to, or sorry no one to communicate to.

You have been hit by 319 views, and 13 replies.

There is nothing like personal touch. The feel of a hand, anywhere.

You have contact.

Can you build on the friendships here and recreate them every day life?