Why is my sexuality so confusing?? Who else?

[EmmaS]

Alright I will go over my physical and sexual desires and attraction and maybe make a little more sense of it:

Sexually: I've always fantasized about men as a woman, no need to go into details. I've never fantasized about women. I have had sexual relations with one woman in my life and it was meh for most of it honestly and at times I had a hard time being interested sexually.

Physically: I'm attracted to the female body, just the overall shape and everything and honestly I'm more attracted to a female when she has her clothes on. I have no interest in breasts, etc. When it comes to the male physical body, I don't mind appreciating his abs and whatnot but really what I want is the sexual part.

Hmm, does that explain any better at all? If so, please tell me what you think!

[~RoadToTrista~]

I honestly think that if you're sexually interested men, and not sexually interested in women, then your sexuality is that you like men.

But whatever, just trying to help you figure things out.

[EmmaS]

That has definitely seemed to make the most sense, my only thing was that I don't seem to romantically connect with men. However, my friend told me that once I go full time and become more comfortable with myself, maybe I will be able to do that. I definitely want to romantically connect with men since I mean, who doesn't want to be sexually pleasured? 

[~RoadToTrista~]

Ehh I used to feel the same way I was conflicted like that. But now I just like guys.

[EmmaS]

Well hopefully some guy sweeps me off my feet and I fall for him somehow because then I would know for sure.

[Q]

Alright I will go over my physical and sexual desires and attraction and maybe make a little more sense of it:

Sexually: I've always fantasized about men as a woman, no need to go into details. I've never fantasized about women. I have had sexual relations with one woman in my life and it was meh for most of it honestly and at times I had a hard time being interested sexually.

Physically: I'm attracted to the female body, just the overall shape and everything and honestly I'm more attracted to a female when she has her clothes on. I have no interest in breasts, etc. When it comes to the male physical body, I don't mind appreciating his abs and whatnot but really what I want is the sexual part.

Hmm, does that explain any better at all? If so, please tell me what you think!

That has definitely seemed to make the most sense, my only thing was that I don't seem to romantically connect with men. However, my friend told me that once I go full time and become more comfortable with myself, maybe I will be able to do that. I definitely want to romantically connect with men since I mean, who doesn't want to be sexually pleasured? 

You sound in many ways fairly similar to me, which is mildly reassuring maybe, but not any actual help to either of us.

I'm sure just getting out there and getting more experience will make things clearer.

At least you are figuring things out for yourself a lot younger than me!

[Elspeth]

I honestly think that if you're sexually interested men, and not sexually interested in women, then your sexuality is that you like men.

It might sound like a quibble, but for me there's definitely a difference between being "sexually interested in" and "liking" someone (or their gender expression, to be more particular). 

I'm sexually interested in what someone can do to and for me, sexually speaking. That does not necessarily translate into "liking."  Neither of the men I've been with were guys that I particularly "liked" and even though I did run fantasies about being with them longer than I was, and even though in many ways the sex itself was less complicated for me -- and neither of these guys were royal bastards, they were just clearly after sex and not much else with me... the second one, in fact ruined a perfectly good friendship by bringing sex into the picture, not appreciating my own difficulties in separating sex from relationships.

[ZoeM]

Gon' jump in with my two cents here. Not overly helpful, most likely, but I feel like saying it.

My faith adds a complicating factor to relationships - specifically, while I have convinced myself that my transition is not immoral in the eyes of God, I don't know which, if any, configuration of Me + some other gender is actually permitted.
So I'm basically committed to ignoring relationships until I figure that out. Doesn't stop my body and mind from pulling me in all directions, though.

[~RoadToTrista~]

It might sound like a quibble, but for me there's definitely a difference between being "sexually interested in" and "liking" someone (or their gender expression, to be more particular). 

I'm sexually interested in what someone can do to and for me, sexually speaking. That does not necessarily translate into "liking."  Neither of the men I've been with were guys that I particularly "liked" and even though I did run fantasies about being with them longer than I was, and even though in many ways the sex itself was less complicated for me -- and neither of these guys were royal bastards, they were just clearly after sex and not much else with me... the second one, in fact ruined a perfectly good friendship by bringing sex into the picture, not appreciating my own difficulties in separating sex from relationships.

I think lots of people on here are confused with their sexuality because they don't realize that there's a difference.

[Emily Aster]

My faith adds a complicating factor to relationships - specifically, while I have convinced myself that my transition is not immoral in the eyes of God, I don't know which, if any, configuration of Me + some other gender is actually permitted.
So I'm basically committed to ignoring relationships until I figure that out. Doesn't stop my body and mind from pulling me in all directions, though.

Going on the assumption that your faith is Christianity, don't they believe that the physical body is just a carrier of the soul? Does the soul have gender?

[Emily Aster]

Alright I will go over my physical and sexual desires and attraction and maybe make a little more sense of it:

Sexually: I've always fantasized about men as a woman, no need to go into details. I've never fantasized about women. I have had sexual relations with one woman in my life and it was meh for most of it honestly and at times I had a hard time being interested sexually.

Physically: I'm attracted to the female body, just the overall shape and everything and honestly I'm more attracted to a female when she has her clothes on. I have no interest in breasts, etc. When it comes to the male physical body, I don't mind appreciating his abs and whatnot but really what I want is the sexual part.

Hmm, does that explain any better at all? If so, please tell me what you think!

That sounds exactly like me except I had to mess up more women to realize it.

[ZoeM]

Going on the assumption that your faith is Christianity, don't they believe that the physical body is just a carrier of the soul? Does the soul have gender?

This is part of the concern. If I am in the eyes of God female, should I seek relationships with men? If male, with women? If the soul has no gender, does my birth/genetic gender or my new gender decide?

I haven't figured it out yet. So I wait.

[Rachel]

EmmaS and ApriRain you pretty well summed me up.

I had in the past, self stimulation, until very recently I viewed myself from a short distance away, perhaps 5 foot. I was seeing myself from another viewpoint. In the past with my wife I was completely in the dark and felt my penis only and concentrated very deeply to orgasm. Then late last week, with self and wife, I saw myself as myself ( female) and in the person. The effect was unbelievable and 10 time more intense.

[HeatherR]

Emma, I can relate with you quite well.  Romantically, I am drawn almost exclusively to women, but the sexual fantasies have always been a female me with men... All in my head

[Kevin Peña]

Wanting a connection before you can have sex may make you weird...in high school. 

Anywho, in all seriousness, I struggled with my sexuality and came to the conclusion that I can have sex and hold a relationship with a person of either gender if I felt a deep connection with said person. However, there is a catch: I am more physically attracted to men, and if I had to pick between two people of identical personalities, I would pick a man. It's my preference, sort of like apples and oranges: I like apples, and I like oranges; nonetheless, if given the choice, I would eat an orange since I think they taste better.

Hope that helped.