Quote from: Joanna Dark on March 08, 2013, 07:19:22 PM
I totally agree. Girl You Look Fierce. I was brought up uber-male, sports, music (no violin I begged my mom but she would not let me), no girlish behavior allowed. Period. I even wanted to use the girl's bathroom in first grade and did with my friend. I got caught and kicked out. Never got in trouble though cause of it. Yet, when I became a witch and started playing with Tarot cards, which is arguably femme behavior, they tried to stop that too. Of course, I was 15 and I did it anyway. Luckily, becaue I told my feinds to I was a witch, they all accepted it and we were a tight knit group. One kids had a problem with it but he was a dick and a total creep. And then there is that guy who had his penis latched off during a botched circumcision and he got a sex change and lived as a female for his whole life. Yet, he said he was a boy at a young age, wanted to wear male clothes, acted like a boy, and eventually wanted a sex change. So, even though he was raised as a girl, his brain still identified as a male, all with no penis. BTW, he killed himself. So, to say it is socially-constructed is invalidated by this. It also is extremely validating to me and anyone else who has such a horrible time adapting as a man. It's in my brain, biological (my body is pretty female: small hands, size 8 in women's, narrow shoulders, small boobs, though face wise i look male, i think.) and IMO it unchangeable.
And the other side would say you're describing gender ID, not masculinity and femininity.
I don't think the world as a whole is ready to accept that some girls act like boys, and some boys act like girls. If I passed 1 gazillion percent, I think I would still get looked at a lil weird by the general population if I said not only do I like Nascar (I don't), but I want to play football, drink beer with the guys, burp loud, laugh at fart jokes, on and on.
Now, for those who do consider themselves masculine: do your thang... I love you for you. However, I think if you expect the rest of the world to take you seriously as a female, ESPECIALLY if you don't pass extremely well, you're setting yourself up to be disappointed. People may humor you but in my personal experience, that is the stereotype of what people almost expect from trans women. I've been told by family that they thought it'd be harder to be around me in public until they saw how feminine I really am. I have a friend that, when hearing she was meeting a trans girl (me), she was expecting something different... something more manly. She told me she had no clue I was even trans even though she was expecting to meet a trans girl that day.
I think it kinda sucks for those of us who are on the masculine side and are proud to be masculine, but yeah... gender is a construct that can work in our favor or against it. But at the end if you want to be happy you have to do what makes you happy.
Be yourself because everybody else is taken
