How to tell my older brother?

[Joe.]

He's almost 20. I've always been his little sister, the one he protects etc. How do I tell him I'm going to be transitioning to male? My parents know, and my mum feels guilty that my brother doesn't know. I want him to know, he's going to have to find out eventually, but I know how much this will mess with his head and I don't know how he'd cope with it. I'm trying to put myself first in all of this, but I love my brother and I don't want to cause him any hurt or confusion. Does anyone have any experience or suggestions for when coming out to a brother?

Joey

[Adam (birkin)]

My brothers are younger, so never really protective of me, but it was pretty easy. I forget how I told the one I was closest exactly...I just outright said it. My youngest, again, I forget how I told him. But that's a good thing, because that goes to show you how little of a deal it really was. The one I'm closer to, L, was accepting pretty much immediately. The youngest, R, has been taking his time...once in a while he says hurtful things but all in all he keeps to himself and it doesn't seem to bother him at all. But he is really freaked out that I give myself needles, lol.

In my opinion, siblings tend to be not too bad, especially compared to parents. If he's protective, he may just worry about you and try to "convince" you not to do it because he doesn't want to see you experience discrimination.

[Darkflame]

I'm kind of in the same boat  I've always looked up to my brother. I pretty much wanted to be him. I feel like I'm going to dissapoint him so much and I'm so scared of him not accepting me  sorry I don't have advice

[Kevin Peña]

"I'm not your sister, bro. I'm a dude."

Or you can just slip him a note and RUN!

[Darth_Taco]

You could always do it how it happened to me :'D. Have your mom tell him behind your back! D:< I waited so long (I'm a hardcore procrastinator) to tell him my mom just went and told my younger brother @_@. I understand though, she was afraid he wouldn't take it well so she thought she'd warn him XP. Thankfully he took it like nothing and even found it funny how much of a fiasco my coming out had become.

Unless you have evidence of your brother reacting negatively to similar topics, I think you should be fine with him. One good thing about sibling you're close to, they tend to be more accepting of things like this. The best thing is to not make such a big deal out of it. You don't need a big speech prepared, or anything to bribe him with. I think it's best to just be straight forward. If you really want to add something, you can tell him how your relationship doesn't change. He's still your overprotective big brother, he's still your role model. Only thing that might change is that now he needs to teach you typical guy things :'P. If he's not into typical guy things, have him just give his big brother advice or something XP. Then make some grilled cheese sandwiches.

[Joe.]

Thanks for all of your advice guys. It's given me a lot of choice of what I wanna do. I'm thinking maybe my parents telling him might be best, although they may not want to do that. I think he'd be ok with it. When I told him I liked girls he just said 'so?' despite me thinking he was going to react badly. He seems to change his views when it's somebody close to him.

Joey