The cold hard truth is this and im sorry if this hurts as that is not my intent but to lay all sides out so that it may be dealt with right.
There are mainly two kinds of people that deal with the transition of another.
1) the unconditional lover.
2) the conditional lover.
2) Can come in many forms.but in the end is only selfish in their own needs and wants.Setting a *price* for their love and affection.Aka *fine BUT you must---* this always takes place with such people,seeking something in return for their support and love.this will however change over time and they will demand more from you but give less back.Let me give a small
example.At first they will whine about what your doing,as you speak to them,they will give you an *option* to keep everything *happy* -Ill be fine with it as long as you just doing in the evening- you agree and do just as they ask,this will then move into more demands seeing that you obeyed it -i been thinking and i dont want you telling anyone either- you agree but you will find them talking about it behind your back to their *trusted friends who can understand their pain* which isnt bad but with someone who is NOT supportive,trust me-the talk is far from supportive (i have seen this more times then i can count and its frankly two faced if you ask me) Then it will move into more extreme demands -i tried so hard but i cant take it anymore,i want everything gone,i want you to stop this non sense and live how your supposed too- after the above demands have ALWAYS been followed,sacrificing yourself slowly,they know you will at this point change anything for them.Such people see this as some whim that a trans person went on in order to *cause them pain* so they will make demands on your life (tho of course this is not true,far from a whim but this is how some see it but not all) the huge majority are just being selfish for their own wants and needs.THEY WILL NOT
CHANGE-period.DO NOT misunderstand the above with 2) as many will try to cause confusion on this.
1) The most important one in any trans persons life and anyone else for that matter.the true selfless and loving
person.As im sure many of you think this way,as me,then there are people who do this also.They think not of their self but of you first,even through their doubts and fear.they give NO price for this and no demands,only a small request for your well being and to make sure you know that this is right for you BUT if you you know it is and you are responsible with your well being,they will pretty much support you in anything.Of course,this person (no matter who it is) will kick your butt in a loving way when you need it (dude slow down,lets get out and do stuff) but will not control your life or leave your side when you need support or demand you become who *they want you to be* but to be yourself.let me give you a small example of how this kind of person will react -is this what you really want to do? you do know about the negatives to this right? well as long as it makes you happy then im happy for you- and depending on the personality of the person,they may even go as far as showing this happiness and even wanting to be involved in the process.They will not be ashamed of you in public and will even encourage your process,they will defend you against anyone who shows distaste or hatred.they love you from the inside,who you are and will support anything that makes that happy.some will even sacrifice their own money,time and work in order to make sure you have what you need.This is rare and hard to find among people now adays.
I understand ones sexual preference but love does not see a gender but a person,a heart.with the information above,i only state and tell you to be prepared for whats to come and stay strong.never sacrifice who you are for another,ever.
