Some Daily Weirdness

[Liminal Stranger]

I'm pre-T, pretty sure I've made that much obvious considering the situation 
But my body is being weird as of late. For one, I have way more hair than I've ever had, and it's thicker (but still fuzzy and fairly light in color). My voice is constantly cracking, and the downstairs department has decided to do stereotypically male things while I'm in class trying to focus on my schoolwork. All the joys of male puberty...but the T level doesn't say so. Last time I was checked was maybe a month or so ago, and it was only 47.8, nothing outrageous. My mother thinks I'm either taking T behind her back, or that I have some sort of adrenal gland insufficiency (was tested for CAH a while back but it came back negative).

On the other hand is my boyfriend, and I love him to pieces and enjoy that he's rather feminine, but I'm afraid of pushing him on things and potentially making him feel bad because of that voice at the back of my head demanding a straight relationship. It's annoying because I love him and look past gender but part of me wants romantic involvement with a girl, even though I'm not going to go try it out because I'm happy with him. My main worry is that he'll do something he doesn't want to just to make me happy, and I hate the thought of it.

Then on the other other hand (woo three hands) is my inner hatred of female pronouns. My parents get crazy over that (esp. mother dearest) and won't even make an effort to stop, blatantly talking about me in the third person with the pronouns they want as much as possible. My teachers for some reason feel the need to say "yes, sir" or "yes, ma'am" and call a group of girls "ladies" or a girl "young lady".

This guy over here does not want to be called a young lady and has very politely brought it up to the worst offender, who agreed and then completely forgot by the second day. I'm sorry, do you not see me cringe and freeze up when you call me "ma'am"? Did the fact that I actually addressed it with you in a nice manner just go out the window? Bleh. I'm not a lovely lady, dammit. I'm a dude.

Which is part of my next problem: I know I'm introducing myself to teachers as male in the fall, because there is no way I'm going through another year of this and my classmates are starting to use my preferred name and pronouns. But I don't want to apply to my summer programs with recommendation letters as a girl with my name, either :c

Advice?

[Beth Andrea]

This guy over here does not want to be called a young lady and has very politely brought it up to the worst offender, who agreed and then completely forgot by the second day. I'm sorry, do you not see me cringe and freeze up when you call me "ma'am"? Did the fact that I actually addressed it with you in a nice manner just go out the window? Bleh. I'm not a lovely lady, dammit. I'm a dude.

That's what you gotta do. You did tell the person nicely once...after that, be short and quick, but bite his f'ing head off.

"WTF is your problem? Did I NOT just tell you a couple days ago that I'm NOT a "lovely lady"? Get it right, dickwad!" Or somesuch.

It might be awkward the first couple times, but believe me there's power in profanity. Use it wisely.

[Liminal Stranger]

That's what you gotta do. You did tell the person nicely once...after that, be short and quick, but bite his f'ing head off.

"WTF is your problem? Did I NOT just tell you a couple days ago that I'm NOT a "lovely lady"? Get it right, dickwad!" Or somesuch.

It might be awkward the first couple times, but believe me there's power in profanity. Use it wisely.

Your comment just made my day 
Oh, if only. But I think profanity is prohibited in the student manual, the offense being called a "B52" after the listing. Student-to-student is okay so long as a dean doesn't hear you (half the time they don't care XD), but unless it's my awesome English teacher, student-to-teacher won't go over so well. She might be a bit offended, and my other teacher might have a heart attack if I did that to him (haven't even told him yet, just participating when I can sense that he won't use sir or ma'am after calling on someone).

But yes, I would love to do that.

[DriftingCrow]

Ah I love Beth Andrea. 

Well, if you're afraid swearing is against the student manual, you don't need to swear. Just choose your words wisely and say what you need to say sternly. Maybe something like "I told you a few days ago not to call me "lady" or "miss". I'd rather not have you ever call me that again," and just look a bit annoyed and then just leave. It still sounds too polite to me... just work on it and don't give in to your nice side. 

[AdamMLP]

If it was me, I would just say, "do I really look like a young lady?" and 9 times out of 10 they splutter and shut up.  I did that at yesterday actually, someone was saying that they would never have believed that I was a lesbian if our mutual friend hadn't told them (that's what I pretend to be) and I just looked at them and said "really?" and they went red, admitted that I did look pretty gay and shut up.

[Liminal Stranger]

But...I need them to write recommendations for me and they can be really crabby ;-;
I'm just whining at this point. It's all good, I'll get it settled somehow. Anyone know what can cause a body to masculinize without T levels reflecting it? I freaking love this but I'm also curious what can do it, other than sheer force of will.