So I had my appointment with the therapist at U of M, and it honestly went really well. She and I both discussed where I may be on the gender spectrum, and agreed that I may not be binary. She challenged me to consider different transition options, and offered some ways to include my spouse based on my spouse's personality (which I never would have arrived at solo). We also discussed -- from a very high level -- what some timelines and milestones might be for transition, and possible areas of real concern for things I am considering. I found it helpful, and while HRT is not on the near horizon, I don't really feel an immediate need. I don't feel pressured by time. My main goal is to save my marriage and help my partner along the way as best I can, and along the way continue to expand how people see me by using alternative social and gender markers at a measured but deliberate pace. My appointment was two hours, and I am following up in a couple of months for additional clinical work.
Several people here have told me "there is no right path, only your path", and I feel good that I am starting to create my own unique path. I am also planning to attend a support group locally this weekend, and have started to network with others in my area. Good progress, even if this transition stuff is emotionally and physically draining.
Toni
