Any over 40's?

[Beth Andrea]

Yeah, I know. It's one thing to intellectually know something and another to emotionally accept it as truth. This is a problem that I've been struggling with all my life.

Yeah, I'm discovering this myself...before HRT, I had basically a flatline emotion scan...now it's pretty rambunctious...

[Trisha]

51 MTF here. I came out at 48 and have now been on my HRT for 1 year.

[Jamie D]

I am so old, I fart dust.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Im an interesexed female at age 65  will be 66 .  aug 11

I knew what i was at age 10. & totaly no doughts  about that, there was no transition for me im just liveing as i allways have it was more about   how people percived me , was the issue or accepted who i was,  every one knows now for sure im just a woman a mature one at that,

...noeleena...

[Cindy]

I am so old, I fart dust.

I thought that was what you are?

[Christelle]

You guys and gals have really managed to give me that virtual hug    It is astounding to me how many of you have the courage to take the plunge and transition 'later'.  Besides the hysterically funny and adventurous situation of double PMS, double mid-life crisis, menopause (me) and puberty (my lovely partner)... I am finding this to be one of the most liberating and frightening experiences of my life.  Challenging my own pre-conceptions and bias is a big one (as open minded as I thought I was lol).

But the one thing that humbles me, is the strength a transgender person needs and has.  I tip my hat to all who live with dysphoria, those who make peace with their external not matching their internal, and those who stamp their foot down in defiance, ripping off the closet doors, and leaping, head first into the unknown.  And how fortunate those of us are who get to witness the growth and congruence that blossoms right before our eyes.  It is a sneak peak into miracle-making 

[Cindy]

Without being flippant, or maybe being flippant, dealing with TG is like banging your head against a wall. It's great when you stop.

Being me is fantastic. I didn't even know or realise that people are usually happy. I lived a day to day crawl of life waiting for it to end.

What you wake up and want to get out of bed?

Geex it took me two or three hours to try and get brave enough to look from under the blanket, and then I was motivated by not wanting to wet myself, or worse, booze kept me going, and I had a good job and brains ambition and everything.

I was lucky.

Now I'm me FT and very very happy and life is fantastic and I sleep at least a few hours a night 'cos there is so much to do and so much to live for.

And why?

Because I was born a woman in the wrong body. Great, it took me for ever to deal with it.

And now? I'm a woman in a modified body, and I can live as me.

Great! Now why would that take someone from a depressed, alcoholic suicidal drunk with an IQ bigger than a phone number who was trying to drink its self to death to being a happy outgoing well connected sociable, respected and loved woman whose opinion is sought and who respects herself and enjoys life.

No idea, but I'm really glad I found a way of being me whatever age I am!

My love to you and your partner. You sound wonderful and I'm very pleased to meet you!

Hugs

Cindy

[blueconstancy]

Well, we're over 25 but under 40. (We're both 35.) I'm not sure if that qualifies to you or not - but we're both "more established" in our lives than a lot of people our age. We've been married 13 years, together for 18, and bought a house and settled down into the same careers and employers over a decade ago. No kids, though.  There are definitely days when I feel old... but that was true even at 25 when all our friends were still in the carefree partying phase.

My wife transitioned when we were both 32, though we only managed to afford GRS this past summer.

[Beth Andrea]

I am so old, I fart dust.

You're a poofer?

[Beth Andrea]

You guys and gals have really managed to give me that virtual hug    It is astounding to me how many of you have the courage to take the plunge and transition 'later'.  Besides the hysterically funny and adventurous situation of double PMS, double mid-life crisis, menopause (me) and puberty (my lovely partner)... I am finding this to be one of the most liberating and frightening experiences of my life.  Challenging my own pre-conceptions and bias is a big one (as open minded as I thought I was lol).

But the one thing that humbles me, is the strength a transgender person needs and has.  I tip my hat to all who live with dysphoria, those who make peace with their external not matching their internal, and those who stamp their foot down in defiance, ripping off the closet doors, and leaping, head first into the unknown.  And how fortunate those of us are who get to witness the growth and congruence that blossoms right before our eyes.  It is a sneak peak into miracle-making 

Ah, how sweet! Thank you, and give yourself a pat on the back, too. SO's have just as much a struggle as we do, and appreciate the effort.

*hugs*

[Catherine Sarah]

Don't worry. I'm just a natural blonde.

If the the qualification for this thread is by biological age; I ........ just ....... qualify. I'm a bit over 40.
However, if it's perceived age, well I'm sorry I'll have to leave. 34 doesn't cut the ice.

Nice to have met you all though.

<*Catherine last seen wandering off in her blonde haze attempting to start a thread for the under 40's *>

[Donna Elvira]

You guys and gals have really managed to give me that virtual hug    It is astounding to me how many of you have the courage to take the plunge and transition 'later'.  Besides the hysterically funny and adventurous situation of double PMS, double mid-life crisis, menopause (me) and puberty (my lovely partner)... I am finding this to be one of the most liberating and frightening experiences of my life.  Challenging my own pre-conceptions and bias is a big one (as open minded as I thought I was lol).

But the one thing that humbles me, is the strength a transgender person needs and has.  I tip my hat to all who live with dysphoria, those who make peace with their external not matching their internal, and those who stamp their foot down in defiance, ripping off the closet doors, and leaping, head first into the unknown.  And how fortunate those of us are who get to witness the growth and congruence that blossoms right before our eyes.  It is a sneak peak into miracle-making 

Hi Christelle,
I am 55 and met my present wife 8 years ago. I told her about my gender issues almost from day one but at the time, neither of us realized how far it might go.

If I have been able to "stamp my foot down in defiance" (BTW, I haven't really done it like that... ) and "leapt headfirst into the unknown"  ( yes without any doubt..) , her support and acceptance has been a key enabler.

What has come out of that is quite an exceptional level of trust, confidence and love between us . I would trust her with my life and believe that this is mutual.

On a completely different level, I believe she has also come to see that having a husband who also knows how to be quite a good wife has some  advantages...   We are no doubt quite an atypical couple but also a much happier couple than so many I know.

So yes, I can understand why you must find having a TG partner quite frightening and I know it requires a huge amount of adjusting, but if you can find it in you to see it through, to allow your partner to really be true to herself,you may very well find yourself in a far better place than you ever imagined.

Wishing both of you the very, very best.
Donna