TS Admirers - What makes 'em tick?

[Natasha]

i love it when people resurrect threads from ages ago.  most of the original posters are no longer here.  lol

[AbraCadabra]

Speaking for MtF -myself only- I think we are 'exotic' and it is this - in many cases - that may make the difference in attraction.

Axelle

[Byron]

i love it when people resurrect threads from ages ago.  most of the original posters are no longer here.  lol

I apologize...

[MeghanAndrews]

Hi B
There's absolutely nothing wrong with resurrecting old posts if you find it relevant to anything you are thinking, doing, etc. Whatever someone wants to talk about and is an open thread is open discussion. Feel free to peruse and resurrect dead posts if you find topics that interest you Meghan

[Pica Pica]

Q: TS Admirers - What makes 'em tick?

A: TS folk.

[Byron]

Hi B
There's absolutely nothing wrong with resurrecting old posts if you find it relevant to anything you are thinking, doing, etc. Whatever someone wants to talk about and is an open thread is open discussion. Feel free to peruse and resurrect dead posts if you find topics that interest you Meghan

Thank you for clarifying the policy, Meghan.  By the way, that was a very interesting story about you having the chance to be on the radio to talk about trans issues. 

[El]

What then would be the term for a person who is attracted to transgender people, but not because they have both male and female characteristics?  Most people use the term "->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-" very broadly, and your definition is very specific, which I appreciate.

Lol i dont think there is a word for it. i dont really see how it would be possible to be attracted toa  group of people whos only real shared feature is the mix of male and female characteristics with that mix playing some part in teh attraction. if you are attracted to an individual trans person though and see them as their preffered gender then i would call it "not being close minded"

[Byron]

Lol i dont think there is a word for it. i dont really see how it would be possible to be attracted toa  group of people whos only real shared feature is the mix of male and female characteristics with that mix playing some part in teh attraction. if you are attracted to an individual trans person though and see them as their preffered gender then i would call it "not being close minded"

Well, I've seen it written in other posts that we all have our little preferences, quirks, and peccadilloes.  Believe me that if I could truly understand why I feel the way that I do, it would be halfway to figuring out a way to eliminate those feelings.  If I could do that, I would probably be a far happier person...

[El]

Well most of my experiences with "admirers" have been pretty negative. Most have wanted to be "topped" which is a massive turn off for me, i dont want that junk let alone have to use it. but i have met one guy before who seemed really genuine and open to the idea of a trans gf rather than treating it as something sexual, sadly i wasnt ready to be with anyone a the time and we lost touch. For what its worth you seem like a nice enough guy from what little i have seen you write.

Ive always thought that if a man is willing to date me pre-op and post op then hes probably not one of the "scary ->-bleeped-<-s" who want some sort of ->-bleeped-<--dom rather than being open to dating a woman with a birthdefect.

[Byron]

Well most of my experiences with "admirers" have been pretty negative. Most have wanted to be "topped" which is a massive turn off for me, i dont want that junk let alone have to use it. but i have met one guy before who seemed really genuine and open to the idea of a trans gf rather than treating it as something sexual, sadly i wasnt ready to be with anyone a the time and we lost touch. For what its worth you seem like a nice enough guy from what little i have seen you write.

Ive always thought that if a man is willing to date me pre-op and post op then hes probably not one of the "scary ->-bleeped-<-s" who want some sort of ->-bleeped-<--dom rather than being open to dating a woman with a birthdefect.

I know what you mean.  You do see that kind of trashiness spread all over the Internet on pornographic sites, and that has never held any interest for me whatsoever; in fact, I've always been repulsed by it.  It's sad that a lot of women who are going through transition feel that that's the only way they can earn the money that they need to complete everything.  I definitely am open to a pre-op/post-op relationship, so I don't consider myself to a be a "scary ->-bleeped-<-". 

[El]

well thats good! Glad to have you on the boards

[Byron]

well thats good! Glad to have you on the boards

Thank you! 

[Mahsa Tezani]

I've read about men (and women?) who pursue trans people for relationships, sexual and otherwise, even some who do so exclusively.  I've always wondered if this was urban legend, or if not, what these people are really like and if some of the members here ever had any experiences with admirers they'd be willing to share.

Besides hoping to satisfy my own curiosity, I'd like to get some material I can use in our Wiki.

thnx!
Emelye

Actual trans people vs the fantasy...

Most transpeople are into dungeons and dragons and renfairs instead of style and fashion. It's a fact!!!

[El]

Actual trans people vs the fantasy...

Most transpeople are into dungeons and dragons and renfairs instead of style and fashion. It's a fact!!!

Lol its true there are a lot of geeky trans people, although is it surprising considering how dysphoria can make people insular and escapist, and D&D and computergames are very escapist and insular, i dont find it surprising. That said I spend about equal amounts on geekyness and clothing, i get bored with games and clothes equally quickly and have to buy more. Yay for capitalism, consume, CONSUME!

[Felix]

Mahsa you always have the best facts.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Mahsa you always have the best facts.

Not really facts. Just observations...

I always knew there were two sides to the TS community...girls like me and girls who I had met at conventions and stuff. It took me a long time to accept the latter, but now that I have....

[El]

Not really facts. Just observations...

I always knew there were two sides to the TS community...girls like me and girls who I had met at conventions and stuff. It took me a long time to accept the latter, but now that I have....

Lol i would say there are more than 2 sides, there are as many sorts of trans people as there are cis people. Im a person first, a woman second and a transgendered woman 3rd, at least in my own mind.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Lol i would say there are more than 2 sides, there are as many sorts of trans people as there are cis people. Im a person first, a woman second and a transgendered woman 3rd, at least in my own mind.

I still retained my gay man vestigial tail. Oh well, despite my success I am still grounded in reality.

[Sweet Blue Girl]

I am an insular nerd sometimes. I confess, it's much easier to live all in the dreams that in reality, but there's no satisfaction in it. Games and labyrinths of the mind are pointless.
I dont have experiences with ts admirers, and how couldit be... It s just my soul that is female now, i wish i will be just considered a person and not a fetish, but i confess that the thought of be desired can be fascinating...

[VeryGnawty]

Most transpeople are into dungeons and dragons and renfairs instead of style and fashion. It's a fact!!!

But, it's better if you're into fashionable Dungeons and Dragons.

Like, all of my characters have color themes for their armor in Guild Wars.  Now, that's a fashion statement.  My elementalist wears pink, and my dervish only wears brown.