my sister doesn't like me anymore

[ellen b]

we are dealing with our brother dying from brain cancer, and she used to be so supportive.

Now.  She just looks at me with disdain. I think she's gone nuts.

The rest of my family has said "goodbye", but I didn't think she would.

I'm still doing what I can day by day, but this hurts.

oh, well

family.

[cindianna_jones]

Ellen,

They may come around after some time. It sounds like this "thing" is very unwelcome at this time for your your family.  It competes for the attention your brother deserves.  Let them grieve.

In the meanwhile, you need to choose your new family.  Find one or two really close friends and build something that will last your lifetime.  For the past twenty years, I've rather been with my new family than my birth family for important holidays. 

And after all of my "free advice" let me say this Ellen.  I'm very sorry for you.  I'm sorry for your brother and family. This is a Greek tragedy for all of you.  I just can't imagine how you are getting through it.

Cindi

[almost,angie]

   Ellen, I`m sorry to hear about your brother. We went through my mothers passing for the same reason. I wouldn`t put too much thought into what your sister thinks of you. The whole family can go through a lot of confusing emotions that seem like something else. If she loved you before she still does. It takes time.   
                    Angie

[Kim]

So sorry to hear of your brother Ellen. One thing I learned of being IS is that when things go wrong in our lives, and they will, it's human nature to err, it is so easy to blame our TGism. However, in reality not all that goes wrong is due to that at all. Your sister sounds very much like she needs grief counselling to get through this one. She is venting her anger of your brothers 'taking' out on the nearest one which is you, and you in turn are blaming her anger on your TGism. If you two keep on this path all is going to blow up in massive doses and some permanent damage will be inevitabally done here, so it has to stop fast before you two end up resenting each other. Good luck,
                                                                Kim   

[gothique11]

That's too bad about your brother. As for your sister, that sux.

My family has pretty much written me off as well. I used to be sad about it, but eventually I just decided not to care anymore and live my life without them. At first I thought I'd send out death certificates to certain members of the family -- not one with my name in, oh no, but with their name. Just to do the same they did to me, basically. But then, I figured that it would be a waste of time and energy. If they don't want to be part of my life and if they can just write me off because of who I am, then I don't need those type of people in my life, family or not. I have a lot of friends who accept me for who I am and they have been more family to me than my family ever has.