My partner's only got a 5 inch dick, or so. I know when I wear my 6inch I feel huge compared to him. I'd be terrified of subbing to a 9 incher, that would absolutely exhaust me... But that's just me. I don't think anyone was disrespecting you, just trying to be realistic. I know many girls who say that they just can't take a guy whose got a huge penis because it just plain hurts and isn't fun for them. Just be aware that not every girl is going to be thrilled with your huge penis.