So, well...

[Jennygirl]

Anyway, I've seen your photo. You have great potential, as I've already said as many of us have said. Don't throw it away. Give it a chance.

+1 to this!

[misschievous]

Now it's too late to fix it, 10 years too late

I was like 12 or 13 by then already.
It doesn't matter anymore though, can't really change anything now :/

By my calculations that would put you at 22 or 23, right? That is not too late at all. From what I have seen, most people don't start transition until mid 20's. As far as at age 12 or 13, I don't think most parents would allow you to do such a drastic change at that age. Most parents would think it is just a phase, or this is just a child playing dress up ect. Alot of times I wish I could go back in time to let my parents know the advantage of not going through puperty in the wrong sex. The fact remains, it is done. As far as things that you can't change, from posts I have read, you can lose a few inches of height from HRT. You can drop a shoe size from HRT. Your FFS can help any masculine bone structures. Most everything else, muscle mass, weight distribution, ect. is all done through HRT.

I don't know where you are in your transition, but if you already had SRS, then everything else is up to you. You said if only you would have lost weight, Join a gym or go buy some exercise tapes. YOGA is my exercise of choice it helps helps flexibility and breathing.  Go on a diet, nothing to late in the evening. A friend of mine who is a CIS woman and a nutritional fanatic said" most all of our weight comes from dinner. When we eat late, the body doesn't have enough time to use up the energy before we go to sleep. All that excess energy turns to fat while we sleep. Make sure you eat breakfast, have your main meal for lunch, and light dinner (if you go to bed at 9 eat no later than 6) salad, light meat, ect. Nothing to heavy."

   

[Nero]

But remember that you did the best you could with the information you had at the time.

I didn't. I was given a really great chance with pretty much no consequences at all, the only thing I had to say was "no", but I didn't. There were even situations where my mother asked me about it, but obviously I didn't take those chances.

I'm not sure what you're referring to, but obviously you did not have the information you needed to make the 'right' decision at the time. If you did have the information, clearly you lacked the resources and ability. Knowing is not doing. Someone may know something's the right thing, but lack the mental/physical resources to do it at that time. You were a kid. Cut yourself some slack.

I'm guessing you're talking about imperfect results because you didn't transition at a certain age or something? Well, what if you did everything 'right' and more dramatically and quickly and all that - and still had the same situation? Or what if you were cis and had these issues/features or whatever?

Well yes, even if I had transitioned in time I wouldn't be completely happy with myself, I would've wanted to have a couple surgeries, even if I was cis. I wouldn't be in the same situation if I transitioned 10 years earlier, my body wouldn't have been this deformed, it would still be difficult, but possible.

I don't know what you look like, so I'm not going to pretend that whatever look you want is possible. So, we'll just say your suppositions are true - you may have had a more feminine body if you transitioned earlier, but it's too late for that. By 'deformed', I'm assuming you mean masculine features. Okay. So, you're stuck with your bone structure and other things. Don't let that spoil your happiness at being able to transition and finally be yourself. Don't punish yourself by not letting yourself enjoy the good things about transition just because this one aspect is not perfect.

[Jennygirl]

muuuuu!!

you can do itttt!

23 is young young young! What steps have you done during transition so far? Anything beyond HRT? Maybe it is time to start getting serious about presentation... It goes way farther than bone structure and WILL help your dysphoria. Trust me!

[muuu]

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[Jennygirl]

My body is the most important thing there is, it's one of the only things I'll be stuck with for my whole life, it's what represents me and what decides how others see me, it's a huge part of myself, it's key for my happiness.

I agree, it's one of our biggest duties in life as humans to work on our bodies however we see fit.

That said, presentation is an extension of your body, or appearance to others. How you present yourself is how you present your body as well. They are linked, in a way symbiotically

So why NOT work on presentation? The ability to pass as female isn't going to be handed to you on a silver platter. You will eventually have to put the time in anyway, so you might as well start setting realistic goals to accomplish (or whichever way works best for you to keep moving along). Personally I am not a goal setter but rather a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type.. Whatever works for you, it's time to GET ON IT!

It takes a lot of work to pass as a different gender, but does that stop most people? Nope, because they WANT it. Even back in December when I started posting here, you made a lot of similar posts to this... kind of a general resistance to move forward. I just don't get it, because to me you already looked so feminine. Such a great / easy starting point. With the right presentation, I bet you already pass.

If I lived close to you at all, I'd be at your house tomorrow to give you a makeover... then I'd drag you outside so you could finally experience the amazingness of being mirrored as your true self.

[misschievous]

blaming it on bad eating patterns (not eat for a couple of days, then binge, and over again).

That is one of the worst things you can do to your body. You can't quit eating for a couple days then binge.... That is very unhealthy. When you don't eat, your body pulls nutrients from your muscles first and your left with no energy.  Please try like I said, balanced breakfast- lunch as Main meal- early light dinner.

Just remember Rome wasn't built in a day. I know it is a little cliche' but , in this case, it holds it's meaning.

[Jamie D]

Blehhh. Presentation is EVERYTHING. Can I channel Mahsa?

WERQ it.

  In loving memory of the Disco Shark