Quote from: NotThereYet on June 17, 2013, 04:15:10 AM
Plus, my problem is that I only found, and I still do, a few guys attractive and therefore I thought I was just confused. Then one day I explained that to my therapist, I told her: "I find most guys totally not interesting and if one of them tried to kiss me or something I would go blaaaaaaaaaaa and run for my life." To that she answered: "You know, that is actually totally normal!!! I find most guys also not really attractive and if they were to try to kiss me or something I would go blaaaaaaaaaaa and run for my life!!!" After that and with the effect of hormones I started to feel free and embrace my feelings and at that point I started just accepting the fact that inside I am just a heterosexual woman. Nothing more and nothing less. Make sense?
Hi again,
Yes it does make sense and, to the extent that you realize that, inside, you are a heterosexual woman, I guess you already have the answer to many of your questions, no? If the conclusion you come up with is the similar to one that comes to my mind, maybe the focus of this whole discussion should be on how you preserve the things that really count for you, like access to your kids. Like where is the rule that says you can only see them every two weeks if you divorce?
Since you say she loves your kids and she would most likely say the same about you, couldn't you just work with her on coming to an agreement to insure that your kids continue to have as much access as possible to two loving parents?
One more thing by the way, what are your wife's thoughts on separation/divorce. Is it something you have already discussed?
Bises
Donna
