Rocking Androgyny, got "Missed" all the same

[Misato]

After getting mis-gendered in skirts.  After working very hard to get used to the idea that I'll never pass that well.  After being told by my mom that, after nearly 5 months of HRT she didn't see anything different...

Today I'm standing at a store with a big ole' fan in my hand since my fan broke tonight and I am rocking androgyny.  Hair (see avatar) in a pony tail, women's pants but my shirt is an old geek "Cat Bus" shirt from my male days.  Over this shirt I've got a hoodie on for its pockets.  No makeup, no bra.  My breasts are developing but, well, the hoodie I was wearing cloaked them.  And lo, the clerk at the closed checkout across from me says, "I can help you over here miss."

Edit: Angels (I can't spell when an alternate word is also a correct word).  Sang.

I've been feeling like crap lately.  Many decisions that I thought would be a good, well, you know that plot device where a character wishes for one thing and they get what they asked for only twisted?  Life has been a LOT like that for me since February.  I was on a little upswing before that clerk got my gender right but OH!  That's so what I needed!

[Jamie D]

Congratulations!

[Theo]

Grats.

Actually after my endo doing something similar to me when I was going in andro (well, male shirt and shoes, but jeans were female), I wonder whether we do not sometimes get clocked precisely because we try to be overtly perfect in our clothing and style. Sort of the idea that:

• skirt = has to be female = check her out = spot that something doesn't quite feel right = look for male clues = get clocked
• (pseudo-)andro = forces looking at the person instead of just at "female bits" = body fat distribution and posture dominate = female = locked in brain and not reverted despite now looking for female bits

[Joanna Dark]

Awesome! It's a good feeling isn't it?

[big kim]

I've drifted into andro the past few months.I got a stye and laid off eye liner,mascara and eye shadow.My nails were badly split so I'd been off polish to.

[Teela Renee]

Im glad you got that little lift you needed,  I still get called sir from time to time, and I give myself a once over after they say it and im like "really? wtf, where did that come from"

[Jennygirl]

That's wonderful Misato, thanks for sharing

Always makes me happy to read experiences like this.

[generous4]

...the clerk at the closed checkout across from me says, "I can help you over here miss."

Lovely.

[BunnyBee]

That is a great story

I wouldn't get too hung up about your mom.  When somebody sees you everyday or even just a lot, they will have a hard/impossible time perceiving changes slowly unfolding before their eyes.  I kinda took a break from Susans for a while, like I do, and I now do see a difference between how your avatar looks compared to how I remember it looking before.  I know avatars aren't the best measuring stick, but still, I can tell there have been some very nice changes for you.  Please be patient and stay positive .

[Ltl89]

That is a great story

I wouldn't get too hung up about your mom.  When somebody sees you everyday or even just a lot, they will have a hard/impossible time perceiving changes slowly unfolding before their eyes.  I kinda took a break from Susans for a while, like I do, and I now do see a difference between how your avatar looks compared to how I remember it looking before.  I know avatars aren't the best measuring stick, but still, I can tell there have been some very nice changes for you.  Please be patient and stay positive .

I agree with this.  I think your latest avatar photo shows how much you have progressed.  Honestly, I would "miss" you without missing a beat.

[Bardoux]

I agree with this.  I think your latest avatar photo shows how much you have progressed.  Honestly, I would "miss" you without missing a beat.

Totally! I think your honestly looking quite lovely