After getting mis-gendered in skirts.  After working very hard to get used to the idea that I'll never pass that well.  After being told by my mom that, after nearly 5 months of HRT she didn't see anything different...

Today I'm standing at a store with a big ole' fan in my hand since my fan broke tonight and I am rocking androgyny.  Hair (see avatar) in a pony tail, women's pants but my shirt is an old geek "Cat Bus" shirt from my male days.  Over this shirt I've got a hoodie on for its pockets.  No makeup, no bra.  My breasts are developing but, well, the hoodie I was wearing cloaked them.  And lo, the clerk at the closed checkout across from me says, "I can help you over here miss."

Edit: Angels (I can't spell when an alternate word is also a correct word).  Sang.

I've been feeling like crap lately.  Many decisions that I thought would be a good, well, you know that plot device where a character wishes for one thing and they get what they asked for only twisted?  Life has been a LOT like that for me since February.  I was on a little upswing before that clerk got my gender right but OH!  That's so what I needed!

Congratulations!

Grats.

Actually after my endo doing something similar to me when I was going in andro (well, male shirt and shoes, but jeans were female), I wonder whether we do not sometimes get clocked precisely because we try to be overtly perfect in our clothing and style. Sort of the idea that:

• skirt = has to be female = check her out = spot that something doesn't quite feel right = look for male clues = get clocked
• (pseudo-)andro = forces looking at the person instead of just at "female bits" = body fat distribution and posture dominate = female = locked in brain and not reverted despite now looking for female bits

Awesome! It's a good feeling isn't it?

I've drifted into andro the past few months.I got a stye and laid off eye liner,mascara and eye shadow.My nails were badly split so I'd been off polish to.

Im glad you got that little lift you needed,  I still get called sir from time to time, and I give myself a once over after they say it and im like "really? wtf, where did that come from"

That's wonderful Misato, thanks for sharing

Always makes me happy to read experiences like this.

Quote from: Misato on June 19, 2013, 09:22:03 PM

...the clerk at the closed checkout across from me says, "I can help you over here miss."

Lovely.

That is a great story

I wouldn't get too hung up about your mom.  When somebody sees you everyday or even just a lot, they will have a hard/impossible time perceiving changes slowly unfolding before their eyes.  I kinda took a break from Susans for a while, like I do, and I now do see a difference between how your avatar looks compared to how I remember it looking before.  I know avatars aren't the best measuring stick, but still, I can tell there have been some very nice changes for you.  Please be patient and stay positive .

Quote from: Jen on June 21, 2013, 01:20:29 AM
That is a great story

I wouldn't get too hung up about your mom.  When somebody sees you everyday or even just a lot, they will have a hard/impossible time perceiving changes slowly unfolding before their eyes.  I kinda took a break from Susans for a while, like I do, and I now do see a difference between how your avatar looks compared to how I remember it looking before.  I know avatars aren't the best measuring stick, but still, I can tell there have been some very nice changes for you.  Please be patient and stay positive .

I agree with this.  I think your latest avatar photo shows how much you have progressed.  Honestly, I would "miss" you without missing a beat.

Quote from: learningtolive on June 21, 2013, 12:23:24 PM
I agree with this.  I think your latest avatar photo shows how much you have progressed.  Honestly, I would "miss" you without missing a beat.

Totally! I think your honestly looking quite lovely