Help!

[DrummingSoul]

I am 22 years old, and pre-everything. I don't know if this is a common problem, or if I am just screwed up. So, here goes:

While having sex, I can't get to the point of orgasm. I can get close, but can never fully get there. While doing a DIY job, however, I can. I know that not having the right body is always screaming in my mind, and the mental circus I have to go through to get release is ridiculous. But I also don't want this to harm my relationship, which I am starting to think may one day lead to marriage. I know that it isn't all about sex, and that the person should love me no matter what. However, I know it hurts her, even though I have assured her that it isn't anything wrong on her end. My body just won't cooperate, nor will my mind. Is there anything I/we could try doing to help? Am I alone in this problem? I feel terrible about it. She is also transgender, adn the T-blockers, etc. are what gives her issues. I have no excuse for this...

[Emily Aster]

I have the same problem. It's why I've stopped dating altogether. However, might I suggest some roleplay? If you can DIY, then obviously there's some fantasy that works for you. Maybe acting it out will work.

[spacial]

When you can't get the beat right, it may be time to play a different instrument.

And remember the option of silence.

[DrummingSoul]

For me, while being uh. . .stimulated, I have to play this mind game of "You have guy parts" and not think about the fact that I really don't yet. We have tried many ways, and even used a vibrator. Sometimes even a DIY job doesn't work because I can't get around the fact that there are female parts thee when there shouldn't be.