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Started by Beth Andrea, July 26, 2013, 02:52:46 PM

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Theo

HRT has significantly lowered my libido. One potential "side-effect" I was aware of is that it can change the target of one's sexual interest, but I have to admit that it actually strengthened my original orientation; quite a bit too. Standing next to a man in the subway and catching a whiff of that somewhat musky masculine smell makes my stomach do somersaults, albeit not in a good way... Women all the way for me.
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 29, 2013, 03:04:41 PM
Well I don't have a lot of libido, but my sexual interest is strong. I.e. don't feel like I need to get myself "off" but really do want to share sexual experiences with another human being.

My problem is that I have no idea what in the world to DO with my pre-op machinery.


I ignore it, as much as possible.

Think in terms of "errogenous zones" rather than "errogenous parts."
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

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Nero

Quote from: Theo on July 29, 2013, 03:12:29 PM
HRT has significantly lowered my libido. One potential "side-effect" I was aware of is that it can change the target of one's sexual interest, but I have to admit that it actually strengthened my original orientation; quite a bit too. Standing next to a man in the subway and catching a whiff of that somewhat musky masculine smell makes my stomach do somersaults, albeit not in a good way... Women all the way for me.

Interesting. So, you mean you're even more attracted to women than before?
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Catalina

Quote from: -Emily- on July 29, 2013, 05:19:29 AM
I prefer smart, witty and mischievous types to hairy-chesty :)



Yeah, of course personality has a lot to do with attraction... but there's nothing more natural than those beastial tendencies within, lol.

BUT, at least we can share our interest in men together! STRAIGHT PRIDE!!  :icon_clap:

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Theo

Quote from: Fitter Admin on July 29, 2013, 03:58:25 PM
Interesting. So, you mean you're even more attracted to women than before?
I actually am, yes. I guess there's also the mental aspect of HRT that makes me feel closer too, as if I can finally be part of the world I have been wanting to belong to. I can quasi add a "proper mental attraction" on top of the physical aspect now.
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Riley Skye

I feel as if my sexuality is starting to be unlocked and changing slightly. I'm noticing men so much more and they're just becoming so much more attractive. And to be honest I can't help but drool at my friend who's in the marines....zomg he's hot!
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MariaMx

My sexual orientation never actually changed, however, I did try to have relations with women prior to my transition but I never liked it very much. Being with a woman felt backwards and unfair. I wanted relations with men with me as the woman. Only problem was  at the time I wasn't a woman and I didn't yet feel the physical attraction to men. I knew I liked them, wanted a boyfriend/husband etc. but they had yet to make me weak at the knees.

It wasn't until a few months into hrt I first felt it. I was helping a friend with something when I noticed his smell, and he smelled so f'ing good! From then on I felt it.

I'm not repulsed by the thought of sex with a woman. It just doesn't turn me on. At all. I love hunks with trunks :)
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Pia Bianca

Quote from: Heather on July 28, 2013, 09:57:25 AM
If you really are into men hrt will bring that out. Now you may just be exploring your sexuality right now? And might not be into men at all. Now when you start getting crushes on men and will go see a movie you don't particularly care to see but think the guy playing superman is hot! Then you might really be into men. But really you should probably look deeper into these feelings you may find out it was just a fantasy.  :)
Yeah, but didn't somebody say live your dreams? I'll see where it lives.

Hey, I didn't never think of that I might be transgender. I was *sure* I was a real man.

Nothing is for sure. I'll see where it leads to. But I'll take it step after step.

I just foresee that after SRS I might be driven to test my new body parts. And while this might be possible with a girl, a boy might feel different. And it might also be head blasting to try existing body parts with a boy as well. That said, I'm quite sure that I'm not attracted to men since I never had any feelings until now.

But since nothing is for sure...
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kathyk

#88
You know Beth, something wierd has happened as I've transitioned.  I don't know if it's a slow change in orientation or what, and it hasn't been anything that's really bothered me either. 

At the casino the other night an elderly man (late 60's) sat at the slot machine next to me and after a few minutes he began a very pleasant conversation.  No one can miss the fact that I'm trans, but he treated me like the woman I am, and made me feel good.  I wasn't exactly attracted to him, but it was so nice to have a man treat me that way, and it had never happened before.  Odd?

Kathy





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Heather

Quote from: MariaMx on July 30, 2013, 06:46:14 AM
My sexual orientation never actually changed, however, I did try to have relations with women prior to my transition but I never liked it very much. Being with a woman felt backwards and unfair. I wanted relations with men with me as the woman. Only problem was  at the time I wasn't a woman and I didn't yet feel the physical attraction to men. I knew I liked them, wanted a boyfriend/husband etc. but they had yet to make me weak at the knees.

It wasn't until a few months into hrt I first felt it. I was helping a friend with something when I noticed his smell, and he smelled so f'ing good! From then on I felt it.

I'm not repulsed by the thought of sex with a woman. It just doesn't turn me on. At all. I love hunks with trunks :)
Maria you just pretty much summed up exactly how's it's been for me. In the past being with a woman just felt off. And I didn't want to be with a man as a man. I was attracted to men before hrt but now I'm really attracted to men. I almost feel as though before hrt I didn't really have a sexuality. But now I feel as though things are now the way they were supposed to be. I'm totally into men especially the ones that act like adults.  ;) Yeah the thought of being with a woman doesn't repulse me and I can be attracted to them in a emotional sense. But the chances of me being with a woman are not very high.  :)
Quote from: PiaBianca on July 30, 2013, 08:00:41 AM
Yeah, but didn't somebody say live your dreams? I'll see where it lives.

Hey, I didn't never think of that I might be transgender. I was *sure* I was a real man.

Nothing is for sure. I'll see where it leads to. But I'll take it step after step.

I just foresee that after SRS I might be driven to test my new body parts. And while this might be possible with a girl, a boy might feel different. And it might also be head blasting to try existing body parts with a boy as well. That said, I'm quite sure that I'm not attracted to men since I never had any feelings until now.

But since nothing is for sure...
Everybody's different I knew I was trans from a early age. But the first time I even realized I was into men I was 14. I really did try to convince myself I was totally into women. But I wasn't and really I was more into guys at that point than I realized. Trust me if your into men you'll know it sooner or later no matter how much your mind try's to repress it. The first time I ever admitted to myself I liked men was after being with a woman for the first time. It totally felt off for me maybe it was just me not being comfortable put into a male role? But it felt totally wrong.
But I don't think hrt will change your sexuality unless you already had those feelings to begin with. One of the first things I realized about hrt was it didn't give me new feelings it only expanded my understanding of my own feelings sure I knew I was into men before hrt. And being on hrt has confirmed that. But really if your totally into women now more than likely you will be afterwards.
Being attracted to men is a lot different than liking the fantasy of you being a woman sleeping with a man. If you find yourself falling in love with a man just because you like who he is. You might be into men? If you've spent the night crying because you've fallen in love with a man and you know there is know way you could ever be with him. You might be into men.
But really explore your feelings if your into men you'll know it no matter how much you try to deny it. Just try not to get wrapped up in your own sexuality. Just be with who you want to be with it's really not that big of a deal to be honest.  ;)
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monarch

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 29, 2013, 03:04:41 PM
I.e. don't feel like I need to get myself "off" but really do want to share sexual experiences with another human being.

My problem is that I have no idea what in the world to DO with my pre-op machinery.

Yeah, the first part of what you wrote, I totally get.  I am not sure about sexual experiences with another person.

Actually, after srs is when I became asexual, but that is me, and everyone is different.  Although asexual probably is not the right label for me, it is close enough.
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Pia Bianca

Quote from: Heather on July 30, 2013, 08:53:47 AM
But I don't think hrt will change your sexuality unless you already had those feelings to begin with.
I don't know. I suppressed many things regarding my personality. I denied almost any feelings. I also denied finding any man attractive even if I did. That said, I never had any fantasies of sex with man until I dabbed into BDSM.

The question isn't if I'm into men or women; I know that I'm into women. What's unknown is if I'm into men, too. Right now I'd say I'm bi-curious.
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monarch

Quote from: PiaBianca on July 30, 2013, 10:35:31 AM
The question isn't if I'm into men or women; I know that I'm into women. What's unknown is if I'm into men, too. Right now I'd say I'm bi-curious.

What you wrote totally resonates with me.  Honestly, I doubt that I will ever explore my bi curiosity, which has been present most of my life.  My attraction to women has never been in doubt for me.
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Miranda Catherine

My first time that I realized I might like guys was in the 7th grade, watching this really cute guy kissing a pretty girl I'd seen at school and literally having to force myself to breathe from just wishing it was me being kissed. There were lots of cute guys in jr. high and high school I thought were really cute, but I didn't explore my feminine side sexually till my freshman year. My brother was four years older than me and most of his friends were ->-bleeped-<-s, but one of his, two, actually, made me weak at the knees every time I'd get around them. I'd turn into a 14 year old girl, having to catch my breath I wanted them sooo bad (much). I've been more into guys sexually for most of my life, but haven't wanted a woman sexually in at least fifteen years. Inevitably, I think we're all going to enjoy a guy opening a door for us and sweet things like that that tell us we're appreciated as women. Strangely, I've been having quite a few guys flirting with me lately, and I think it's cute and fun, but I've already got a guy I'm in love with. Unfortunately, he works too much, I don't see him enough and I'm getting very tired of it. But I'm not tired of him when I see him, and that's becoming unfortunate, because I'm not going to go out on him. Lookswise, though, my perfect guys are Daniel Craig, the present James Bond (and the best, I think) who was also in "Munich", a Spielberg film starring Eric Bana, a really excellent, insanely good looking actor also in "Black Hawk Down", and "Troy." Then there is a guy on a show on AMC called "Hell On Wheels" named Anson Mount, who's naked to the waist quite often and he's simply gorgeous and I'm not normally into beards at all. As for rockers, I think Michael Hutchence, the lead singer for INXS who died in 1997, was one of the sexiest men I've ever seen. I'd be under any of them in a second, and well, my guy would have to understand! No, I couldn't do it, could I?
These three years have been the best of my entire life
ones I've been able to live without lying
and the only time I've had since the age of twelve
I haven't constantly thought about dying



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big kim

I wrongly assumed men who liked trans women were weirdos who couldn't get a "proper" girlfriend.I was 42 before i had a real boyfriend,he made me realise he was attracted to me because I was now a woman.I'd had flings with guys when I was one but never a proper relationship
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JLT1


Since I started HRT, I've realized I don't like men, as in personally, I don't even want to be around them socially or even at work.  On the other had, boinking one sounds fun.  This is a 180 shift on both parts.  Something is seriously wrong in this brain of mine with respect to men.   
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JillSter

Quote from: Dreams2014 on July 26, 2013, 03:50:11 PM
Tbh it's been in these recent days that I've noticed if I view...err...adult videos I find myself no longer desiring the woman. I find myself wanting to be in the woman's position. That kind of realization is hilarious.

See, this is confusing to me. I've always been sure I only like girls (I was open to the possibility that I might be bi when I was younger but it felt all wrong and I became even more certain of my sexuality. Of course sex with women has always been kinda awkward too, but that's a genital issue -- they still arouse me.) But when I've watched porn I've always pictured myself in the woman's place. I always assumed that was more about wanting to be female than wanting to have sex with men. But now I'm wondering if when I start HRT I'll start wanting to, umm... be in that position. ;)

It's a little worrisome for me because I'm a little distrustful of men, and frankly a lot of them kinda scare me. I really don't want to find myself attracted to them.

I guess I won't know until I know.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on July 26, 2013, 03:44:26 PM
Sir Prizes.

LOL :D
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Beth Andrea

Quote from: JillSter on July 30, 2013, 10:19:15 PM


It's a little worrisome for me because I'm a little distrustful of men, and frankly a lot of them kinda scare me. I really don't want to find myself attracted to them.

I guess I won't know until I know.



I was very distrustful of men, hated them in fact...but as I've transitioned, I've realized that many men (if not most) are actually kinda nice, in a non-hurtful non-violent way. If they aren't up on their hygiene, they're intolerable...but if we have high standards and stay away from the knuckle-draggers and "tough guys" gangsta wannabes, there are some diamonds out there.

I no longer despise men in general...now most of them are "just there", and that opens the door to liking them...and it's pretty quick from liking them, to wanting to be loved (in all its wondrous ways) by them.

And that is separate from wanting to boink them in a night of passion... ;)
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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Miranda Catherine

I can't stand hairy backed, smelly, or violent men, either, but being in the arms of a man I really care about makes me feel sooo feminine and needed. And protected. And aroused, lol! I was once really attracted to women, but I lost that over the years and never did with certain kinds of guys. I hope I'm not giving TMI.
These three years have been the best of my entire life
ones I've been able to live without lying
and the only time I've had since the age of twelve
I haven't constantly thought about dying



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Pia Bianca

Quote from: Jillian on July 30, 2013, 10:19:15 PM
See, this is confusing to me. I've always been sure I only like girls
Quote from: Jillian on July 30, 2013, 10:19:15 PM
But when I've watched porn I've always pictured myself in the woman's place. I always assumed that was more about wanting to be female than wanting to have sex with men. But now I'm wondering if when I start HRT I'll start wanting to, umm... be in that position. ;)
That's exactly how I feel watching porn most of the time. Lately it also went to being jealous when I see pictures of naked girls. Right now I have one special picture in mind; a girl with almost perfect breasts and a nice and slim girly body. But instead of being aroused when I think of the picture I'm just wishing I was her.

That said, I'm still attracted to girls.
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