I guess none of us know what to say to help. There's several options and you're not happy with any, so I guess this is more of a venting session, and that's fine, just that we're kinda running out of ways to try and help here.
I can assure you that there are infertile males out there and plenty of them. It's actually becoming more and more of a problem with sperm count generally on the decrease, no one quite knows why but diet may be a factor. Anyways, that's a whole other topic. Infertility does happen. The way you, and other transguys who'd like to have the ability to make a baby, feel is the same as infertile cis guys. And that inability to produce fertile sperm isn't something guys announce to the world! Also, you have to actually be trying for a child or accidentally have knocked up someone before you can know if you're fertile or not. I'd imagine that for many people you know if you're in school, they won't even know if they're even able to produce viable sperm or not anyway. So 1) They'd have to be diagnosed as infertile or have knocked someone up to know and 2) They'd then have to actually tell you and what business is that of yours? And not having the right parts doesn't make you any less of a man. Not all transguys want bottom surgery, they're still legit guys. I know one cis guy who, through a childhood accident, has no better than a meta; actually a lot less compared to some at that. Being a man has got nothing to do with what's in your pants. If you want that, then that's fine, but it's not the definition of being a man, it's just one of many physical attributes, and it's the one best hidden and easily faked in every day life. Being a man is all about who you are in your brain first, all the rest is secondary.
Men can be infertile.
Men can lack typical male genitalia.
Men can have moobs.
Men can be unable to grow facial hair.
Men can have high voices.
None of what these men have or lack makes them less of a man. Gender identity is what you identify as in your brain. That's where it all counts.
