Tall and transsexual ... Will they approach me?

[itsxandrea]

Hey ladies + gents,

I'm fulltime and have been on hormones for 11 months now... everything is going great really and don't have many complaints, except of course, for being so tall.  In my previous life as male, I always thought I was tall and wanted to be shorter and really have struggled with this for years and now that I'm fulltime, I feel I'm not as confident as I SHOULD be in clubs, bars and social situations --- in short, I always feel I'm going to get clocked for being tall. It wouldn't be so bad if I had taller female friends, but let's face it, most cis-gender women are 5'5".

What has been your experience with being tall and being approached by men (I'm talking to TS women, or TS men who approach tall girls). Do you think men find it intimidating?  Should I be the one who's trying to make the moves first?  I will say, I do turn heads and I do get the flirty eyes from men, but more often than not, they aren't approaching me and I feel like I'm the giant most of the time...

Advice?

(I'm 5'10" and 6'3" in heels --- I have a medium build, I'm white and American)

[CalmRage]

Let me tell you one thing that may or may not help with worrying about height.

One of my classmates is a very tall girl and she is one of the prettiest girls in class. I don't know how you look, but as you see, height does not have anything to do with it. Look for other factors if there are any and it's not just anxiety. And no one would ever feel intimidated by her.

[Renee]

I'm 5'10" and don't feel like it hurts me. There are plenty of women the same height and taller than me. I don't wear heels, but then I rarely have an occasion to do so either. The few times I have, never had an issue with people reading me for that. And I have still been approached by taller, same height and shorter guys too.

[Danielle Emmalee]

Some men like tall women and some men don't and some will for sure be intimidated by it.  This goes with any characteristic stereotypically male that ciswomen have i.e. women with higher authority jobs, women who make more money than them, women who are stronger than them, etc. 

[Jamie D]

My oldest natal daughter is 5'10".  My youngest is 6'0" and still growing.  Neither gets mistaken for a male because of their height.

Be proud you are tall.  Confidence is what it is all about.

[Erin Brianne]

I am 5'9 and sometimes think I'm tall but last night I got complimented on my long legs, which made me feel so good.  Also there were 2 other girls with my group taller than me.  I also work directly with a woman that is 6'3 and is very pretty. There are a lot of women over the 6 ft range so dont feel as if you are too tall.

[Joanna Dark]

5'10 isn't that tall just wear flats not heels if you're self conscious. 5'10 is fine, it's better then fine; it's model height.

[Heather]

5'10" tall? That don't seem that tall too me. I'm 6'2" and I've met women my height. I really wouldn't worry about it at your height. Plus being tall is awesome nobody can look down on you when they have to look up just to see you. 

[big kim]

Amazons rock 6'1 and a half.

[Tessa James]

Go Amazons!  I used to be 5'11 but may be shrinking like an old house settling into the bog.  I like my height but will tease myself as Tessa the Tall and Terrible Transsexual in my wizard of Oz voice.  One of my boyfriends is 6'4 in his heels and drag outfits.   She gets plenty of come hither looks.  I have several new friends who are also trans, well over 6'2 and working thru transition concerns.  If it's not our height it might be our nose, voice, hair... so the lists of perceived deficiencies can be endless.  Please don't let this stuff get in the way of being ready for love.  Forgetaboutit!  A ready smile, some flirting and fun have worked for millions of other tall girls?

There are so many variables about attraction but being ready for love sure seems like a good starting point.  You know it when someone gives you "that look" but only if your are looking around too? 

[itsxandrea]

Thank-you all ... I know I just have to OWN it and work it --- but what I wouldn't give to just be 3 inches shorter lol.

I appreciate the positivity

[JennX]

I'm 6'0"...6'4"in heels... 165 lbs., athletic build... And get hit on by both guys and girls very often. Twice today as a matter of fact.

[Jenna Marie]

I don't know if it helps, but I'm 5'8" and I regularly meet lots of women who are clearly taller than me. The only woman I know who's been "outed" for being tall is 7'1". (That is not a typo - seven feet, and yes, it sucks for her.)

[ZoeM]

I'm 5'11", and all I can say is Move to Wisconsin! We're all tall here!
(Seriously, it's like 1 in 3 women I see is my height at least!)

[JoanneB]

Back 35 years ago when when I experimented with transitioning about all women in my age group were mainly 5'6" and essentially no tall ones. I was an even 6ft tall and really stood out. These days it is a far different story. I see so many 6 footers now.  I don't even think twice about my height, even in 2-3 inch heels.

There is hope for being tall, it is called gravity. I am now 5'11" after 50+ years of wandering around upright on this planet. I figure in about another 176 years I'll reach my goal height of 5'6"

[likealolita]

Well, I'm normally 6' 3" without heels (approaching seven feet with them) and my height doesn't seem to be a problem... my face and voice are, LOL.  I've seen some apparently cis-females just as tall or taller than me occasionally.

[Shantel]

I'm 5' 7" tall and am forever enamored of tall women with long shapely stems. I feel short, but have never felt out of place or intimidated being with tall women. Most of the pretty models at Victoria's secret are six feet or close to it. In fact many of the high school girls these days are taller than me. Tall women that aren't fat look a lot better in their clothes, they just drape better on their bodies than they do on shorter women generally. Most importantly for tall women is that they stand up straight and have good posture and refrain from slouching or rolling their shoulders forward to unconsciously try to appear shorter, it looks awful and people assume they have horrible self-esteem problems when they do that.

[Zoe Louise Taylor]

Im 6' 3" and im fine with beiing tall!!! i think its not the height that can sometimes give me away, but the fact i have no hips and curves!!!

i actually saw a group of girls whilst i was shopping today, and one of them was taller than me . . . And she was by far the prettiest out of all of them! So i dont think you should worry too much about height!!!!!

Zoe
Xx

[nikkit72]

There's loads of tall women. Take Mick Jagger's girlfriend, 6ft 4 barefoot.

[Danielle Emmalee]

Must be something in the water....I find it rare to see a girl taller than me here and I'm only 5'10"