slowly transitioning into ft girl clothes...

[anjaq]

I still dont really get it, but I will leave you to it. For me it was just different. I was out before I met the therapist, I dressed as I liked to anyways, which was not to "femme" but also not typical male and I did not change before the therapists. My transition was only to a minor degree guided by clothes so I guess I really cannot comment much about this. I felt like myself after I came out to myself and everyone around me anyways, after I dropped the male facade it did not matter too much what I was wearing...well as long as it was nothing that was masculine. I could not have dressed in a male shirt and tie or anything like that without dying inside, but I also did not need to dress feminine either. And I saw no reason to not dress as I did all the time - therapist or no therapist. But again, I ay be weird that way, so maybe I should stop commenting too much here?

[Sophia Hawke]

I'm already on to full outfits ATM.  I really just dont have enough clothes to go ft right.  But I'm out and about when I can be.  Still don't have makeup though.

[Charley Bea(EmeraldP)]

My mum helped me with measurements and some clothes, I bought two pairs of jeans from an op shop one pair fits but a bit snug(size 20 pull ons) the others go on easily but don't zip up(size 18) but I am keeping them for when I lose weight. The clothes my mum has given me from her collection that are too small are two genie bra types things one white and one black, a purple top(favorite colour) and four pairs of underwear(unused). so now I know for jeans I am size 20-22 and shirts maybe a size 22 also.

I also bought a pairs of boots but they were alot tighter and shorter then I thought. Looks like I am a women's size 11 no matter what.

Well it is a start.

[KabitTarah]

I also bought a pairs of boots but they were alot tighter and shorter then I thought. Looks like I am a women's size 11 no matter what.

Well it is a start.

Better than 12. I plan on trying on some 11s when I get a chance, but my foot is a bit wide and 12s are a bit too long but otherwise fit perfectly.... seems like nobody carries 12s normally.

[anjaq]

Hmm - is this FT or not: http://imgur.com/TAlCn1S

[KabitTarah]

Hmm - is this FT or not: http://imgur.com/TAlCn1S

You don't need to be in a skirt to be full time Plus, boy clothes can definitely be in a girl's closet... don't know if any of those are. You look 100% girl to me!

I'm very slowly trying to buy clothes (ones that fit, hopefully -- and that's a definition that's changing with pre-HRT weight loss and *will* change with HRT) without breaking the bank (a tough prospect). I don't have a lot of clothes yet and some of those boy t-shirts really fit a more feminine outfit. (I have one black one I bought for sleepwear that I never used -- it's perfect for a lot of things - under or seen).

[anjaq]

Yeah - in the pic, that is 100% "boy clothes" (or rather unisex I suppose but still bought in the boy section) and I really liked them actually. Not the most manly ones I guess but the ones I always liked best from them. Sorry for the face blur, but I am trying not to be too public. This was indeed me while I was transitioning 15 years ago. Just trying to illustrate what I meant by my descriptions that I was doing a more soft transition that did not really have a going FT day. I was just me and that was enough, I guess

I guess what I am trying to say is that clothes are superficial, being oneself is what counts. Not pretending to be a guy anymore is what counts. Well and HRT counts of course LOL

[maariajackson]

I'm already on to full outfits ATM.  I really just dont have enough clothes to go ft right.  But I'm out and about when I can be.  Still don't have makeup though.

Your post seems like you are little hesitating to wear what you want to, to be frank what you are doing is good but if I would there in place of you then I would have gone through what I love to wear and not by other feel how I look,, if I'm not wrong in the first post you depicted that you were wearing corset and initially you were not feeling that good but at last it makes you feel good so its a request to you that be as it is like you are,, if you love yourself then you don't have to search here n there for dressings.

[Sophia Hawke]

Your post seems like you are little hesitating to wear what you want to, to be frank what you are doing is good but if I would there in place of you then I would have gone through what I love to wear and not by other feel how I look,, if I'm not wrong in the first post you depicted that you were wearing corset and initially you were not feeling that good but at last it makes you feel good so its a request to you that be as it is like you are,, if you love yourself then you don't have to search here n there for dressings.

To a minor degree I am.  Mostly because I don't want spend money on clothes I won't be able to wear.  Also cause I'm exploring a little bit and because a lot of stuff just doesn't fit right and I like to look good.

[Emily.T]

I am going for the gradual approach I started with underwear then went to girls tank tops with wide straps on hot days then went to nail polish and have worn a skirt 1 time but I do need to increase my wardrobe to.

Emily.T xx

[spx_1112]

We go at our own pace

[michelle666]

I started by buying womans jeans and intergrating them into my daily wardrobe. I did a lot of shopping at h&m, they have a good amount of clothes that can go either way. Even their mens shirts have a more fem cut to them, very andro. I totally stopped buying mens clothes, probably about a year ago. I'm lucky that I'm a size 10 in womans shoes, so it's easy for me to find them. I recently went full time and my wardrobe hasn't really changed all too much from the past I would say 6 months. I have more of a tomboy/toned down rocker chick thing going that I think works for me. I have been wearing dresses more then before though, I'm currently on a stockings buying spree to wear with them.

[SandraB]

I'm slowly building my wardrobe too. It takes a while. And as I do, I integrate into my daily wear so when I do go FT, it won't be so much of a shock to everyone, more of a transition as the term and name implies. A few thing each week, just the outer wear; I have everything else. And I have to be wise, because eventually, I'll need my own place.

[alicel]

I'm really at the start of transition, and for years I've always been wearing womens' sneakers etc, and some girls jeans that are not too tight where my dangley bits dangle. I've always had good excuses because my feet are size 38.5 and my waist is 26.5" which means mens trousers cannot be found for my size in the Netherlands, and mens' shoe sizes usually start from size 41, and my socks have always been womens (show size again).  I've often worn girls' jewelery and jackets so no issues there. I don't wear women's underwear being I see little difference between mens and womens, because they do similar jobs, except bras.   

And I wear this in work and out of work and with family and friends, and I've always looks a little gay/camp/girly without HRT.  I have no idea what'll happen if I present as female, because I have not been that close since I was a teenager with makeup and long crimped dyed hair and long fringes. I'm 40 now and still sometimes have strange glances if I walk around, and I don't mind ( except when they won't stop staring), because I really cannot imagine anybody would not mistake me for a man!

So, yes, I am slowly changing the way I dress., but there are not lots to change!  Funnily we went shopping for winter boots on Saturday and I had chosen a pretty cool pair of ankle high women's sneakers, and my wife tsuggested a really obvious pair of women's calf length leather boots with 2" heels and asked if I liked them because she thought they'd suite me, and I was taken by surprise ( we were in a women's only show shop ). A nice surprise I add.

So, step by step, and then the switch.

[izzy]

you could just slowly transition your style with your Appearance until its just unmistakenly female. Women who wear mens clothes still get seen as women. I think too that clothes only make a very small part of the entire transition process. Its your whole persona that changes

[anjaq]

i agree there - people do often see past the clothes and if they do that and think of you as a male hiding behind too obviously feminine clothes, its worse. What has to change is what is inside these clothes, then the clothes dont matter. 

[Natalia]

I lost a good weight since I started HRT, and I used that as an excuse to start changing my wardrobre to a more androgenous look.

I only wear T-shirts that look unisex or a bit feminine, with some golden details, or pink, or any color that is not masculine.

I'm slowly changing my pants to slim jeans because they shape my legs in a good feminine way (my thighs and hips have always been kind of feminine shaped). I also stole some old female jeans that were forgotten on my mother's wardrobe (well, I don't have a sister...) and I am waiting to use it. It is very feminine and give me a good shape.

I don't use watches anymore, as mine were masculine. Perhaps I can change to a feminine, but it might be too obvious for my family to spot that.

Jewelry would be too obvious as well.

I am already wearing panties and feminine socks! Sometimes I wear stockings with a garter and walk around feeling great (although no one can notice as they are hidden by my pants!)

Shoes are a hard part. I always liked wearing tennis and all mine are kind of unisex (I presume, as they show the size for males and females on it). One is gray, with details in bright colors. Not really too masculine nor too feminine...I wish I could change to some nice boots (I also have a good pair waiting for the day I will be ready)

I intend to wear this kind of clothes until I gather the courage to come out. After this day I will really start changing my wardrobe

[Allie]

It's kind of funny, as I have no problem going out wearing a wig, makeup and womens clothes. I always figure that no one would ever recognize me. I feel safe and usually don't have too many problems.

Today I went out looking more gender neutral, womans jeans, a diamond looking ring and a little beard coverup. It felt good being able to blend myself (if that's possible), like I wasn't hiding. Step by step the transition continues!!!

[Sophia Hawke]

Arent tighter jeans more the norm in Europe?  Here in the USA baggy pants(esp in the ass) are fairly in style and common.  So, tight jeans(girls or not) are generally seen as pretty feminine.

I grew my hair out first before anything.  I love my hair, and enjoy obsessing about it sometimes.   Panties are an easy first step since nobody can really notice them.   I personally found, coming from boxers, that the Lace panties i ordered from VS to be SOOOOOOOO  much more comfortable, i dont think i could imagine myself wearing anything else.  They actually feel so much more comfortable and less constricting oddly enough.  No more pulling or twisting or having to find a good height or bunching up at night.  Now i just slip em on and they stay in place and are super comfortable.  The kind of thing i sometimes barely notice im wearing.
           Girls nighttime pjs are great too.  And another easy way to start off along with socks.   Alot of girls PJs are pretty similar to mens, but some are exceptionally comfy depending on material.  I'm also pretty sure that those 3 things are things i bet quite a few non-trans/straight men wear too, simply based on comfort.

Also, anyone whose into EMO and has the scene nearby.  Girls jeans/haircuts/ other clothes/ makeup/ crying/ being emotional is all pretty norm in the scene and alot of those guys are straight even.  An easy way to break into some clothes if you're into the music.(and possibly young enough).

I have 4 outfits now, and am pretty much FT(although still building my wardrobe for a full femme look).  In retrospect, gradually worked to a certain point, after that i was like fk it, and stopped holding back. 
I'd definitely recommend anyone who wants to wait on clothes should take the time to get their hair longer, remove body hair(even get on HRT) while you build a wardrobe and practice makeup.  Once you get yourself fully out, it can be easy to just flip the switch then, if you can get passed the fear of being in public.

[Missadventure]

The slow transition was my plan... I started with wearing panties and a bra and womens tee shirt under male clothes. That lasted about a week, when it dawned on me that a lot of winter clothing is pretty gender ambiguous. So I made a trip to the local salvation army, and now I have more womens clothing than mens. And with the exception of when I'm at work I pretty much wear womens clothing everywhere. Granted, like I said, it's winter, and a lot of winter clothing is androgynous.

I'm living in a fairly conservative midwestern town, so I expected to get strange looks. Still hasn't happened yet after a month. In fact, as far as I know, only one person has even noticed. I was hanging out with a friend one night (who I'm not out to), and when her husband wasnt around she said "You're looking very metrosexual chic today. You probably don't want to hear this, but with a little makeup and some hair styling you'd make a hot woman." I damn near told her "No no, please, tell me more!" And right then I decided she's going to be the first person I know that I come out to (I'm waiting until I actually start HRT before I do that.)

But now I dress slightly more and more fem around her every time I see her, and she complements me everytime, which has only helped boost my confidence.

Still... I'm amazed I haven't gotten any weird looks around town from all the bible thumping corn farming redneck folk that abound. Especially considering how many weird looks I got all the time growing up in the San Francisco area while presenting as my biological gender.